Theres this chick I've hooked up with a few times (gone out 3 times nothing too serious). Anyways, I rang her on Friday to see if she was around for the weekend, she was busy, going home etc. I suggested getting something to eat on Tuesday and she wasn't sure about it but said she would give me a call next week. No plans were actually made for Tuesday, she just said she would give me a call.
I thought this was a bit odd so just left her be and went on a date with another girl on Sunday night (just showing I'm not hung up on her). On Tuesday I get a text from the first girl saying can she call me that night. Didn't bother responding. Later that evening, she texted me again asking if I wanted to go for a drink that evening. In hindsight I shouldn't have agreed to go for a drink at such short notice but I think she's busy on Wednesdays, I have a christmas party on Thursday, want to plan another date with girl B on Friday, plans with friends on Saturday. So if I rejected those plans, the next day would be Sunday and I already hadn't seen her in 2 weeks.
I say meet me at a bar near my house and she does. She seems in a decent mood but is not being as touchy feely as before. Conversation isn't exactly flowing. Btw. thanks to that guy who tried to pick her up by saying she had a shiny watch! Shiny, just sounds bizarre. That reignited the convo somewhat.
After one drink, we decided to leave. She gave me a lift back to my house. I figured she was coming in as she had the previous two times. But she wouldn't kiss me at first. I pushed her asking whats wrong and she went on about how we have nothing in common and that this can't be a serious relationship. I actually agree, we have very little in common but have similar personalities if that makes any sense.
She was also after getting a letter from her ex in Spain (a girl:yes
who said she was emotionally retarded and distant. I'd agree on the distant part. I suggested we could just have fun you know, no pressure and she seemed happy with that. We made out for a while but she wouldn't come in. We kissed goodnight and I went in home.
So I'm guessing (hoping :woo: ) that she just wants a fling without anything serious. I did ask her a few times did she just want to stop seeing each other (a mixture of confusion and insecuriy on my part) and she told me she'd be direct about that if that was the case.
Is there any particular difference when it comes to casual dating. Just continue going out and stuff but no expectations? Personally, i'd be quite happy with this arrangement. I too wouldn't see it as potentially serious but we get on well enough to hang out.
I thought this was a bit odd so just left her be and went on a date with another girl on Sunday night (just showing I'm not hung up on her). On Tuesday I get a text from the first girl saying can she call me that night. Didn't bother responding. Later that evening, she texted me again asking if I wanted to go for a drink that evening. In hindsight I shouldn't have agreed to go for a drink at such short notice but I think she's busy on Wednesdays, I have a christmas party on Thursday, want to plan another date with girl B on Friday, plans with friends on Saturday. So if I rejected those plans, the next day would be Sunday and I already hadn't seen her in 2 weeks.
I say meet me at a bar near my house and she does. She seems in a decent mood but is not being as touchy feely as before. Conversation isn't exactly flowing. Btw. thanks to that guy who tried to pick her up by saying she had a shiny watch! Shiny, just sounds bizarre. That reignited the convo somewhat.
After one drink, we decided to leave. She gave me a lift back to my house. I figured she was coming in as she had the previous two times. But she wouldn't kiss me at first. I pushed her asking whats wrong and she went on about how we have nothing in common and that this can't be a serious relationship. I actually agree, we have very little in common but have similar personalities if that makes any sense.
She was also after getting a letter from her ex in Spain (a girl:yes
who said she was emotionally retarded and distant. I'd agree on the distant part. I suggested we could just have fun you know, no pressure and she seemed happy with that. We made out for a while but she wouldn't come in. We kissed goodnight and I went in home. So I'm guessing (hoping :woo: ) that she just wants a fling without anything serious. I did ask her a few times did she just want to stop seeing each other (a mixture of confusion and insecuriy on my part) and she told me she'd be direct about that if that was the case.
Is there any particular difference when it comes to casual dating. Just continue going out and stuff but no expectations? Personally, i'd be quite happy with this arrangement. I too wouldn't see it as potentially serious but we get on well enough to hang out.
