What to focus on in the coming year?

[MatureDJ]

Mustaches are considered outdated. Shave the mustache.

I'm a big believer in beards as a way to have the look of JawMogging.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I'm a big believer in beards as a way to have the look of JawMogging.

I would totally grow a full beard but I still can't

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Unless you get in a band as famous as Zepp, it is so OVER for you, unless you GeoMax.

Well I'm willing to geomaxx, I just need more resources on it. I tried looking up books on the subject and came up with nothing, and I also tried to search on reddit for more information and there wasn't really much there either. I want to try geomaxxing but it all seems like a huge gamble and the logistics of it make it overwhelming for someone with ADHD like myself. I need to learn more about geomaxxing so that I know exactly how I should go about it. Furthermore there's still my concern that if I can't approach in America then I wouldn't be able to abroad. Nobody so far has been able to address my concerns about this. How can I expect to meet women in Europe if I can't in America?

And also like I was asking in this thread before, are there any countries in which the women there would be more likely to find a guy with long hair and a mustache attractive? Different cultures perceive different things in men to be attractive, so maybe there's one where the women would actually like that look more than the women where I live. Yesterday on another forum I asked this same question. The only response I got was somebody claiming that Sweden is one such country, but they never elaborated on it so idk if it's true or not. I tried googling this same question and got no meaningful result, and I asked chatgpt and it didn't help either. Somebody somewhere has to know the answer to this question I've posed. There has to be at least one nation or culture on Earth where it's the norm for the women there to find long hair and a mustache on a guy to be desirable. There's tens of thousands of distinct cultures on this planet, so there's got be at least one fitting this description.

 

[SW15]

Furthermore there's still my concern that if I can't approach in America then I wouldn't be able to abroad. Nobody so far has been able to address my concerns about this. How can I expect to meet women in Europe if I can't in America?

If you can't approach in America, then it would be a good idea for you to try to approach in Eastern Europe.

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

OP, I believe your main issue is that you are too focused on making women comfortable around you when you are not entirely comfortable with yourself.

As a younger man myself, I understand how screwed up social dynamics are today and the catastrophic effects of "hoeflation." It honestly seems bleak and hopeless when you examine the success of other guys your age and hear stories from older guys talking about how easy it was to get girls back at the club in 25+ years ago.

The best advice I can give you is to make women one of your lower priorities in life. Find a career and/or hobby that expands your social network. Do whatever it takes to make you confident and content in your very existence. The moment you shed your insecurities, stay healthy, and have stability in your life, getting decent women becomes "when" question rather than an "if" question.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

If you can't approach in America, then it would be a good idea for you to try to approach in Eastern Europe.

A huge problem I have is that I've never been able to bring myself to approach no matter where I am. In order to approach over there I need to find a way to remedy that. Are you saying that approaching in Europe is more forgiving? Would the women be more likely to want to talk to me?

 

[BergischerLöwe]

OP, I believe your main issue is that you are too focused on making women comfortable around you when you are not entirely comfortable with yourself.

As a younger man myself, I understand how screwed up social dynamics are today and the catastrophic effects of "hoeflation." It honestly seems bleak and hopeless when you examine the success of other guys your age and hear stories from older guys talking about how easy it was to get girls back at the club in 25+ years ago.

The best advice I can give you is to make women one of your lower priorities in life. Find a career and/or hobby that expands your social network. Do whatever it takes to make you confident and content in your very existence. The moment you shed your insecurities, stay healthy, and have stability in your life, getting decent women becomes "when" question rather than an "if" question.

This is all good advice, but I can't imagine it's a good thing to put off women for too long. What if I wait too long and I lose my looks and my hair starts falling out? Then it would be too late. I've already reached the age where meeting women and getting dates is much much harder.

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

If you can't approach in America, then it would be a good idea for you to try to approach in Eastern Europe.

Travelling the world without a massive income seems like a recipe for disaster. A career that involves travel, could possibly help the OP though.

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

This is all good advice, but I can't imagine it's a good thing to put off women for too long. What if I wait too long and I lose my looks and my hair starts falling out? Then it would be too late. I've already reached the age where meeting women and getting dates is much much harder.

At age 27, if you still have a decent hairline, a healthy diet and somewhat active lifestyle you should not decline too fast. I know guys well into their 50s that could still get late '20s/early '30s women if they tried. I am not suggesting avoiding women per say, but rather not making the sole purpose and motivation of your daily actions revolve around getting women.

The women in your age bracket are mostly either invested in a career or single/divorced mothers. Both of those of are going to want a man that has more than she has.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

At age 27, if you still have a decent hairline, a healthy diet and somewhat active lifestyle you should not decline too fast. I know guys well into their 50s that could still get late '20s/early '30s women if they tried. I am not suggesting avoiding women per say, but rather not making the sole purpose and motivation of your daily actions revolve around getting women.

For now I do have a good hairline and I'm taking precautions to avoid losing my hair, my diet is good, and my fat loss phase is going according to plan. One irony about my situation is that without a doubt I'm currently more attractive than I've ever been in my entire life, yet I can't even get a date like how I used to. Almost all the girls I've done anything with were before I started lifting weights and improving my physical health and appearance.

 

[SW15]

Are you saying that approaching in Europe is more forgiving? Would the women be more likely to want to talk to me?

I have never approached in Europe.

You might even need a 2nd or 3rd language fluency to approach in Europe. Approaching in English in Poland is not as easy as approaching in Polish. I think you speak German so if you went to Germany, you might be fine with approaching in German. However, Germany is a Western nation like the United States.

You need to improve more in the United States before considering going to a different country.

A lot of people relocate out of Western nations and fail at seducing wherever they move.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I have never approached in Europe.

You might even need a 2nd or 3rd language fluency to approach in Europe. Approaching in English in Poland is not as easy as approaching in Polish. I think you speak German so if you went to Germany, you might be fine with approaching in German. However, Germany is a Western nation like the United States.

It wouldn't be that difficult for me to learn like polish or czech or something since I have at least an elementary knowledge of Russian already. I do indeed speak German fluently so in the German-speaking world I'd be fine in that regard. Even though Germany is still a western nation it's still more traditional than America in a lot of respects.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You need to improve more in the United States before considering going to a different country.

A lot of people relocate out of Western nations and fail at seducing wherever they move.

That's been my exact point. It's also one thing I'm worried about. The last thing I want is to go to Europe to meet women and still find none. With my luck that's exactly what would happen.

 

[patb]

OP, I believe your main issue is that you are too focused on making women comfortable around you when you are not entirely comfortable with yourself.

As a younger man myself, I understand how screwed up social dynamics are today and the catastrophic effects of "hoeflation." It honestly seems bleak and hopeless when you examine the success of other guys your age and hear stories from older guys talking about how easy it was to get girls back at the club in 25+ years ago.

The best advice I can give you is to make women one of your lower priorities in life. Find a career and/or hobby that expands your social network. Do whatever it takes to make you confident and content in your very existence. The moment you shed your insecurities, stay healthy, and have stability in your life, getting decent women becomes "when" question rather than an "if" question.

The last sentence just isn’t so. Purely wishful thinking with some just world fallacy thrown in.

 

[Cowboy-Cheems]

The last sentence just isn’t so. Purely wishful thinking with some just world fallacy thrown in.

Nothing is guaranteed for any of us except death. However, the likelihood of a financially stable, well groomed, and socially active man getting women in his life is far higher than that of a broke socially awkward guy that keeps asking himself and strangers on the internet what he is doing wrong.

 

[SW15]

That's been my exact point. It's also one thing I'm worried about. The last thing I want is to go to Europe to meet women and still find none. With my luck that's exactly what would happen.

You'd be better off buying a Rolex than going to Europe. I also don't think buying a Rolex makes the most sense for you.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I also don't think buying a Rolex makes the most sense for you.

I don't either. What would make more sense?

 

[corrector]

Furthermore there's still my concern that if I can't approach in America then I wouldn't be able to abroad. Nobody so far has been able to address my concerns about this. How can I expect to meet women in Europe if I can't in America?

Why not try a location like the Philippeans or a Latin American country like Brazil or some other place? You probably have to go to a place that it's normal for women and guys to talk with each other.

I can say that from my experience of going to Italy in 2006 it was impossible to meet anyone there unless they were part of the family and there were lots of prostitutes (many of them looking like hot 20 year olds) on the streets, that of course, travelling along with my elderly but younger & therefore much more functional folks, could not interact with either.

Unless you are part of a family/klan it's difficult to connect with anyone in Europe. It's probably easier to connect with people in the North American side than in Europe as it's less family-centric compared to Europe.

When people talk about Geo-maxxing, they are normally referring to going to a much poorer Third World country rather than another First World Country, or at least its strongly implied. Generally the cultures in First World Western countries are more or less the same and the same issues you have in one place, will generally carry itself to the other country as well. At the end of the day, you can't run from yourself.

 

[MatureDJ]

And also like I was asking in this thread before, are there any countries in which the women there would be more likely to find a guy with long hair and a mustache attractive? Different cultures perceive different things in men to be attractive, so maybe there's one where the women would actually like that look more than the women where I live. Yesterday on another forum I asked this same question. The only response I got was somebody claiming that Sweden is one such country, but they never elaborated on it so idk if it's true or not. I tried googling this same question and got no meaningful result, and I asked chatgpt and it didn't help either. Somebody somewhere has to know the answer to this question I've posed. There has to be at least one nation or culture on Earth where it's the norm for the women there to find long hair and a mustache on a guy to be desirable. There's tens of thousands of distinct cultures on this planet, so there's got be at least one fitting this description.

I like the way that Nordic women have the pigtail style:



As to your question, if you are so concerned about your hairstyle being deferential to women, why not cut it?

 

[MatureDJ]

That's been my exact point. It's also one thing I'm worried about. The last thing I want is to go to Europe to meet women and still find none. With my luck that's exactly what would happen.

Go to Eastern Europe, where the average wage is less than 1K EUR/mo. Become an English teacher to give you an in. Heck, go anywhere and volunteer helping out Ukrainian refugees. Or if the call to stay in the USA is too powerful for you to travel, just stay an Incel - it's your choice.