So a bit of background information in case some of you are unfamiliar with my situation. I’m a 27 year old ethnic German man living in the suburbs of a midwestern state capital. In the past few years my dating life has gotten progressively worse and worse and now it’s basically dead, like I’m a virgin again or something. Right now my situation looks like this:
- The last time I had a relationship or sex was BEFORE covid, in the fall of 2019
- I used to be able to meet women thru dating apps, but ever since covid they’ve really gone downhill. In 2021 and 2022 I only went on one date each and now in 2023 I’ve gone on literally no dates. I still get matches sometimes but they never get anywhere near far enough where I can actually get a date out of it anymore
- All of the women I’ve been with I met thru apps. That’s the only way I’ve been able to get dates thus far, and now that they no longer work for me I’m meeting literally nobody. I want to reduce my dependency on the apps but I’ve never been able to.
- it’s very clear cold approach won’t work for someone like me, as I’ve stated numerous times on here. However, I have no opportunity to do warm approaches either since I’m never in any real life situations where I’m even around women I could possibly date. My life just doesn’t have those opportunities, and I have very low confidence in my ability to land a date with a woman I’ve first met irl since something like that has literally never happened to me
- Often when I post threads like this, people have a tendency to end up grilling me, talking harsh to me, or just telling me to cold approach or other generic advice like that. It doesn’t seem like I’ve gotten a good answer yet so that’s why I keep feeling the need to post these threads. I try to google search about the problem I have with dating and nothing useful comes up, so I have to try asking here. I’m just looking for answers, there’s no reason for anyone here to grill me or talk harsh to me just for asking for help. I don't like being in the position where I have to keep posting this stuff to begin with and peoples' harshness to me makes no sense.
So now this leads me to the question of what I should focus on dating-wise in the coming year. This year of 2023 has yielded absolutely no progress with women and relationships at all, and I’m gravely worried that next year will be no different. Now that I can’t use online dating anymore and expect to get anything out of it, I have no way of meeting women anymore. Thus I’m looking for ways I can actually make progress in the coming year 2024, and at least maybe get a date or two next year so I can at least get back to being a “one date every year” kinda guy like I used to be lol. I don’t have many ideas right now of what I should do, but at least i have a couple:
- This year I’ve lost a lot of bodyfat, so I’ll continue to work on that next year
- I’m gonna continue swiping on apps despite the fact they’re no longer effective since the remote chance I have at meeting a woman thru apps is at least better than nothing
- I’ve begun to frequent a local coffee shop, I got there to read a lot now so at least I’m out in public more than I was previously. Not expecting to meet any women this way tho, it’s just more of a way to get out of the house more.
- I’ve toyed around with the idea of maybe going to another country and see what can find there, but this almost certainly wouldn’t work considering the fact that I can’t approach women, let alone get a date out of approaching
- Other than that the idea of giving up on dating is becoming more and more tempting. The fact of the matter is that dating in the present day is completely broken, and I can’t really take it anymore. There’s no way right now I can meet women organically, have a relationship organically. Society in the Kali Yuga just doesn’t loan itself to that, and my life doesn’t either. It’s just a dead end
Other than that though I don’t have many ideas. So what would all of you suggest I focus on next year so that it ends up better than this one as far as dating/seduction is concerned?
