what to do

[the third eye]

Im 18 and a freshman in college. theres this hb7.5 that has been bothering me for sex for quite some time. i know i could grab this lay easily, plus since she lives right down the street. only problem is that im a virgin and although ive hooked up with a few random girls ive always had pretty bad anxiety around girls im attracted to. Im not really attracted to this girl because she is really ditsy (or stupid?) but she has a pretty nice body. shes a few years younger than me and i was wondering if i should just go ahead and **** her to lose my v-card and maybe gain some experience. Plus i wont have to worry too much about my performance because she lacks a few years experience that other girls my age have. What should i do? (i should probably add that when i ignore this girl she will sometimes text me like 6 times without me replying so i think shes a little crazy)

For anyone who cares: i just got perscribed anti depressants for my clinical depression, have been wrking out regularly again, browsing sosuave, and really just working on bettering myself and my confidence. would this decent looking, stupid, naive young piece of ass be a decent starting point for my journey to being a DJ?

 

[falconslax89]

yes

 

[the third eye]

haha you guys are awesome. on other boards id expect something like " wait for someone you really care about, believe me, i wish i did..."

ive started to realize that if i found someone i really care about as soon as she found out i was a virgin (aka not so great in bed) she would high tail it out of there and i would be stuck once more alone.

am i hitting the nail on the head?

a simple yes is cool but a little elaboration is pretty sweet too

 

[ColonyConfused]

Go for it man, it should start somewhere, and at least you'll have dealt with the depression.

 

[Kohinoor1]

go for it. my first time was super awkward. its not going to be fairy tale perfect or anything and it isnt going to matter much unless you place a lot of importance on it. take it as a learning experience.

 

[Cashew]

Go for it. and After sex, don't talk to the girl about it just after having done it and you're still lying there. Don't ask how it was or how you were or apologize. Just keep your trap shut and assume you were the man.

If you bring something up right away it will show lack of confidence and her opinion of the encounter may change. She might not have thought you were bad until you thought you might have been bad first. Even if it's your first time, just assume you were good.

 

[the third eye]

Go for it. and After sex, don't talk to the girl about it just after having done it and you're still lying there. Don't ask how it was or how you were or apologize. Just keep your trap shut and assume you were the man.

If you bring something up right away it will show lack of confidence and her opinion of the encounter may change. She might not have thought you were bad until you thought you might have been bad first. Even if it's your first time, just assume you were good.

thanks for the advice. that seems to be the general rule of thumb around here. act the part even if you arent feeling it and everything else will eventually fall into place. its like if you dont like something but you know you have to do it so you tell yourself that you want to and act all happ and its much easier

 

[MM92]

Just smash it mate, everyone has to start somewhere. Why waste anymore time?

 

[Lennyboy]

Cashew is really right on the after-sex-talk. Do exactly what he said.

And I absolutely think you should go for it. My first experience was horrible. I never wanted to have sex again (I kinda did since I had a 1 year dry period).
Just don't think about it too much and don't make a big deal out of it. Just see it as experience

 

[floydb25]

You want to have sex with a 15 year-old when you're 18? Garbage. Not one of those age difference guys, but 15 is too young regardless... Unless you're in that frame. Go for someone who's 17-21+. You're an adult, so have sex with one. There's lots of good-looking girls at that age, and are more well-featured. They're still dumb as ****, though.

Otherwise, agreed... It's no big deal who you do it with. Sex shouldn't be made out to be anything special. You don't want to have it simply to lose your virginity, but just to have it, and realize its not such a big deal. Don't even look at it from a virginity perspective, or put any pressure on yourself. That's probably why you are fearful and anxious. It's just like having a girlfriend - no big deal. Just another aspect of life. No reason to pedestalize it, or make it a goal to achieve. You don't need to do this and that; it doesn't have to be perfect; you don't need to be in love. Just do it. Many more times will come after this.

 

[Improving]

If you think you can handle it wrt your depression, then do it. Don't attach to her, but treat her with respect.

 

[the third eye]

You want to have sex with a 15 year-old when you're 18? Garbage. Not one of those age difference guys, but 15 is too young regardless... Unless you're in that frame. Go for someone who's 17-21+. You're an adult, so have sex with one. There's lots of good-looking girls at that age, and are more well-featured. They're still dumb as ****, though.

Otherwise, agreed... It's no big deal who you do it with. Sex shouldn't be made out to be anything special. You don't want to have it simply to lose your virginity, but just to have it, and realize its not such a big deal. Don't even look at it from a virginity perspective, or put any pressure on yourself. That's probably why you are fearful and anxious. It's just like having a girlfriend - no big deal. Just another aspect of life. No reason to pedestalize it, or make it a goal to achieve. You don't need to do this and that; it doesn't have to be perfect; you don't need to be in love. Just do it. Many more times will come after this.

woah i missed where i said she was 15. shes 16... technically legal where i am

 

[Aaron B]

yeah man go ahead and get it over with

edit: she's 16 and you are 18? not worth the potential legal hassles. I don't care what the law says, if they want to jam you up, they will.

 

[Htienvu]

This guy lives in the UK I assume? 16 is the legal age over here in the UK, go for it mate. Take one for the team.

 

[bongo]

I would tap that a$$ if I were you. In life you only get a handful of opportunities like this, so better take advantage of them and better things will come along.

I wish I was 18 again, during those days I had enough chances with girls like this, but never made a move cause of shyness and lack of confidence. Now I am 25 years old and a bitter man with nothing going on in the lay-department. The future looks scary also cause I'm even more shy than before. Anyways..

Go for it:woo:

 

[floydb25]

16 isn't as bad... But why go young? Just seems weird having sex with a teenager... Whatev.

 

[the third eye]

if we must be honest i just want to know i didnt miss out on the nice young puss before it was illegal lol. plus its my easiest option and a good starting point.

heres the plan. we have a time set for 2:30 tomorrow after she gets out of school. she just wants to meet up and have a quickie. im thinking im not totally sure i want to **** her tomorrow tho. i may just have her blow me then bust my load and make her wait until next time (if i feel like it). we were sexting tonight and i just cut her off and didnt respond for like 20 mins and she sends me 3 texts basically begging me to text her back lol.

i told her "guess youll have to wait til tomorrow " and then she said "!!! 230 tomorrow after school?" and thats that for now.

after i **** her im gonna lay down the law and make sure she knows that all i want is sex at this point and maybe one day things will escalate.

i have problems with anxiety around girls so im gonna take an adderall before so that i can be high energy and libido. plus im gonna look at some porn before i go to get me ready so i dont have any trouble getting hard

how do you guys think im handling this so far? pretty alpha imo

 

[the third eye]

bump. hopin to get some input before 230