What to do?

[Poppa3]

Okay, This post may seem like a "*****" post. But im strung.

Me and this girl broke up about a year ago, Havent really talked since. When the break up happened, We both still had feelings for each other but just needed time apart i guess..she gave me the whole "i love you " stuff..blah blah....But now its a year later she has another boyfriend, and i have dated around. But i still have very strong feelings for her. Her brother and I are good friends and he lives right next door to her so i still see her on occassion. I feel like we broke up but there was never any closure. I find myself thinkign about her everyday, and just cant really imagine anymore of my life without her. I just dont know what to do. I had have girlfriends in the past for longer period of time, and i got over them fast with the help of dating around, but this one i cant do.... Do i tell her how i feel? Do i try to become "friends" with her again.? I have to do something though..I cant keep this bottled up

 

[NewMan]

Dude - you've got to move on.

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she gave me the whole "i love you " stuff..blah blah....
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That is a bunch of crap - women say this all the time - but she is just making it easier on you (or trying).

Fact is she's fvcking someone else....

You have to understand that your not getting her back - and you'v egot to move on - stop going around to her brothers house in what amounts to an attempt to see her (probably).

You need to cut off contact - visual and otherwise.

you will get through this, but you need to help yourself.

It's over - so start acting like it is.

 

[speedo_meme]

We both still had feelings for each other but just needed time apart i guess..she gave me the whole "i love you " stuff..blah blah....

No, YOU had feelings for HER. She didn't want to feel guilty about dumping you. Typical chick breakup speech. Don't be naive.

and i have dated around

No, you haven't, or you wouldn't have this problem. That's what this forum is here for. We're all anonymous, so at least tell the truth.

I feel like we broke up but there was never any closure. I find myself thinkign about her everyday, and just cant really imagine anymore of my life without her.

There's never any closure. You need oxygen, water, food and shelter to live.

Do i tell her how i feel? Do i try to become "friends" with her again.? I have to do something though..I cant keep this bottled up

No friends. She doesn't care about you. Sh1t, I bet she wouldn't come to your funeral. Get my drift? You want to be friends with someone like her? Why? To go through this torture forever?

I have been in your shoes. No one here can help you until you commit to move on. I'm not going to give you the advice you want to hear, because it's obviously the wrong advice.

It will come. You have to decide you want to proceed before you can even take the first step.

 

[d9930380]

I hate to say it but I've been there too. I'm sort of still there, the guys are right.

I wish girls wouldn't give the whole I love you crap at the end. It just makes it harder to move on as you think there is still some hope.

 

[flexion_]

Well you first have to admit to yourself that you have oneitis.

Next, you are never going to get closure. That my friend is the trick to the alpha male / DJ lifestyle. You are just trying to figure out what went wrong.... ya ya we've all been there. The reality is that women will never ever give you a logical answer so you will never get your answer and will perpetually remain insane until you accept the fact that your whole life does *not* infact revolve around a woman.