What to do with your hands?

RedHerring

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While approaching or talking to women, I often think of my hands...because they aren't doing anything.

This is potentially more difficult if you don't have anything in your hands, i.e. a drink, a book, etc. Also, I'm not too much of a gesticulator and those who aren't have their hands idling at their sides.

So I usually do one of a bunch of things:
- Put my hands in my pockets casually (not have them jammed in there) However, I think this radiates insecurity, nervousness and eventually lack of confidence
- Lean on something. If a wall or something like that is around, I lean on it with my arm. This takes care of one hand. I think this is probably the best solution, because I'm not leaning forward (showing insecurity) and my hands are forced down.
- Play with my hands infront of me. I probably do this the most. I crack my knuckles over and over, but I don't like it. I'm pretty sure it communicates nervousness, which is bad.


Any suggestions on what else to do with your hands?
 

Deep Dish

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Wow! Weird word. But, that describe me. I am an extreme gesticulator and, well, never knew the proper label, until now.

The question is what do you naturally do with your hands when talking to anyone? Forget the context of talking to women, rather what do you do naturally.
I often think of my hands
Well then don't!
 

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Hands - A seducton tool

You can use your hands as a seduction tool One to touch her while talking and the other to touch props.
Even if you dont know a women well it is important to land a few touches on her throughout the conversation. It will bring her emotionally closer to you and break down that trust barrier. Just think about it. Dont you love when a women touches you when talking to you? It makes the two of you connect that much faster.

Props are great as a seduction tool. Whether it is your tie, shirt, straw, the rim of you glass or your pen, try slowly caressing an obect while talking to her. Think about it, women caress their hair, right?. Subconsciously she running her hands through her hair affects you.
There is a great guide that my buddies and I read on topics just like this one. You should check out all the sections but especially the one on touching and props.

http://attractwomentoday.com/
 

RedHerring

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Good ideas, thank you.


Yes, to gesticulate was a vocab word last year. Too weird not to remember it ;)
 

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Oh, BTW. Make sure your hands are never rough, dirty or ugly. If you go to the gym and get calisus from it, then wear gloves. A woman likes clean, attractive smooth hands, especially if you plan to put them all over her body. Remember, work every angle.
 
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