What to do with a flake?

[Mantis Toboggan]

She keeps talking to me and telling me that she likes me though, but keeps acting cold. I was thinking about confronting her about this hot/cold behavior and let her know how she's treating me, and how this is just unacceptable. I want to tell her that if she is afraid that she will hurt me by saying no, that she doesn't have to worry about that. Saying no to someone you're not interested in is far better than leading that person on, but she is clearly the type of person who gets off on this kind of behavour. ****ing slut!

So she says one thing that makes you think positively.

Then her actions make you think negatively.

What matters most - A person's words or their actions?

And there's no confrontation. You seem to be kind of uptight and weird, so I wouldn't be surprised if you freaked out on her one day. But as a grown man, you need to just learn when to cut somebody loose. You can't have the big "You were leading me on!!" argument because it serves no purpose.

And once again....let's say you do end up dating this girl. You're obviously not a strong enough person to control the frame of the relationship. And you're not enough of a player to be doing this just for sex. So do you really want to trust your emotions with a woman like this? Do you logically and realistically expect to have a fulfilling and healthy relationship with this chick?

You need to grow up, man. Get your head out of the clouds.

 

[Thundernuts]

Mantis has it right. If you did end up with this girl you would be miserable and constantly worried if she is gonna flake or cheat on you, it isn't worth the trouble believe me ive been in this situation before. The problem is you aren't listening to us so i don't see why you even bothered posting this to begin with, majority of the people on here have told you that you need to move on but you haven't.

This woman is not interested in you, she is an attention ***** who likes the idea of having someone jump backwards for her but doesn't want to do anything for him. If you had put yourself on the pedestal and not her you most likely wouldn't be in this situation now. Find another girl who is more your type because seriously, you don't want to go out with a flake like this girl all it will do is waste your time, time you could spend with someone who wants to actually be with you.

 

[Poonani Maker]

The way I see it is women have a change of heart all the time, so they change like the direction of the wind; therefore, if they decide to come towards you, BE OPEN. Be there for them to rest their pvssy. If it still doesn't work out, at least you've tasted her pvssy, and that's a memory to build upon.

 

[teacha]

The way I see it is women have a change of heart all the time, so they change like the direction of the wind; therefore, if they decide to come towards you, BE OPEN. Be there for them to rest their pvssy. If it still doesn't work out, at least you've tasted her pvssy, and that's a memory to build upon.

bullshit advice.

its just fuvking pu$$y, it aint nothing special....so stop putting it on a fuvking pedestal.

 

[blueline]

Just delete her number and don't look back.

 

[Poonani Maker]

The way I see it is women have a change of heart all the time, so they change like the direction of the wind; therefore, if they decide to come towards you, BE OPEN. Be there for them to rest their pvssy. If it still doesn't work out, at least you've tasted her pvssy, and that's a memory to build upon.

bullshit advice.

its just fuvking pu$$y, it aint nothing special....so stop putting it on a fuvking pedestal.

Let me clarify..That "change in direction" back to You 99% of the time comes from word of mouth from other hoes you've fvcked. Reputation is everything. So, Keep an open line to the one who flaked you 4 times, OP, but for Christ's sake, get to Work on other girls NOW!

I just told one today who's flaked me as many times that "I do not want to see" her, bc she said, "my my, how ****y we've become since...blah blah blah..let me know blah blah" to my fed-upness to her lying about calling her at 2 AM (not fvcking true, maybe in the Eastern time zone). These b!tches have selective memory, and LIE to somehow establish the frame that I'm dying to be with her, um No. She's 28, I could and do have 21-25 regularly. Who does she think I am?? She knows it, and That's what eats at her. Plus she's a former Marine and likes a challenge and to start confrontation (drama?). So I told her this morning that I've had it, and do not want to see her, Ever. So her response to That last message was, "Glad to hear the truth."

I'd still see her if she wanted to. Hey, I'm always up for a fvck from a fine-bodied, disciplined woman.

 

[seek&destroy]

I'm thinking that since I told her we will talk about it after the break, I'm going to make her wait to hear what I have to say to her and when I do tell her what I think of her constant flaking, I will be straight up with her. I will just go ahead and tell her that she needs to give me a straight answer and stop fvcking with my head like this. This is just unacceptable. She's acting like an immature brat and she needs to know it. I will tell her she lead me on all the way only to let me down "gently", when all she needed to do was say no in the first place if she wasn't interested and I wouldn't have wasted any time at all on her.

She says she prides herself in honesty...bull-fvcking-**** she does! She's a lying manipulative, indecisive, wh0re...that's what she is, and she needs to know the truth. Rest assured, when the time is right to let the flurry go, I will not hold back. It's time this biatch learned her fvcking lesson already!

The fatass that was chasing after her...well he's more of a sucker than I am. He doesn't see that even after she blew him off 6 times (only to go out with him and me at the same time on the 7th time of his asking), she doesn't want anything to do with him and is just stringing him along the same way she strung me along...by the way that 7th time...we went to see a movie that she has already seen. She allowed the fatty to pay for her, but both me and her knew she had already seen it a few days before...he had no fvcking clue. She can keep doing that to him, but I am done with her games. She needs to stop saying she means to do something when she has no fvcking intention on following through with it. I don't know why I allowed myself to get caught in her game like a fvcking deer in headlights...all I know is that I feel damn sorry for allowing myself to fall this far down the hole of her wicked deception.

 

[teacha]

I'm thinking that since I told her we will talk about it after the break, I'm going to make her wait to hear what I have to say to her and when I do tell her what I think of her constant flaking, I will be straight up with her. I will just go ahead and tell her that she needs to give me a straight answer and stop fvcking with my head like this. This is just unacceptable. She's acting like an immature brat and she needs to know it. I will tell her she lead me on all the way only to let me down "gently", when all she needed to do was say no in the first place if she wasn't interested and I wouldn't have wasted any time at all on her.

She says she prides herself in honesty...bull-fvcking-**** she does! She's a lying manipulative, indecisive, wh0re...that's what she is, and she needs to know the truth. Rest assured, when the time is right to let the flurry go, I will not hold back. It's time this biatch learned her fvcking lesson already!

The fatass that was chasing after her...well he's more of a sucker than I am. He doesn't see that even after she blew him off 6 times (only to go out with him and me at the same time on the 7th time of his asking), she doesn't want anything to do with him and is just stringing him along the same way she strung me along...by the way that 7th time...we went to see a movie that she has already seen. She allowed the fatty to pay for her, but both me and her knew she had already seen it a few days before...he had no fvcking clue. She can keep doing that to him, but I am done with her games. She needs to stop saying she means to do something when she has no fvcking intention on following through with it. I don't know why I allowed myself to get caught in her game like a fvcking deer in headlights...all I know is that I feel damn sorry for allowing myself to fall this far down the hole of her wicked deception.

you are a hopeless case. keep doing what you are doing and you will keep getting the same results. Don't place the blame on other people for your stupidity, the only person you gotta be angry at is yourself not her or the 'fatass' for allowing yourself to be in this situation in the first place.

Calling her out on her bullsh!t will not accomplish anything other than letting her know that she got you wrapped around her little finger. Stop acting and whining like a little b!tch and go get what's yours. If she not DTF then forget her and find some other hoes who are DTF. I get it she maybe the only girl that's giving you somekind of attention right now but if she doesn't wanna co-operate then find someone else who will. Its funny how you keep laughing at the fatass situation like yours is any different.

...oh and while you are busy whining like a little emo-b1tch here, she's getting her back blown out right now by some random dude. im just saying...

 

[Iceberg]

I'm thinking that since I told her we will talk about it after the break, I'm going to make her wait to hear what I have to say to her and when I do tell her what I think of her constant flaking, I will be straight up with her. I will just go ahead and tell her that she needs to give me a straight answer and stop fvcking with my head like this. This is just unacceptable. She's acting like an immature brat and she needs to know it. I will tell her she lead me on all the way only to let me down "gently", when all she needed to do was say no in the first place if she wasn't interested and I wouldn't have wasted any time at all on her.

She says she prides herself in honesty...bull-fvcking-**** she does! She's a lying manipulative, indecisive, wh0re...that's what she is, and she needs to know the truth. Rest assured, when the time is right to let the flurry go, I will not hold back. It's time this biatch learned her fvcking lesson already!

The fatass that was chasing after her...well he's more of a sucker than I am. He doesn't see that even after she blew him off 6 times (only to go out with him and me at the same time on the 7th time of his asking), she doesn't want anything to do with him and is just stringing him along the same way she strung me along...by the way that 7th time...we went to see a movie that she has already seen. She allowed the fatty to pay for her, but both me and her knew she had already seen it a few days before...he had no fvcking clue. She can keep doing that to him, but I am done with her games. She needs to stop saying she means to do something when she has no fvcking intention on following through with it. I don't know why I allowed myself to get caught in her game like a fvcking deer in headlights...all I know is that I feel damn sorry for allowing myself to fall this far down the hole of her wicked deception.

Alright, whatever man. I can't speak for everyone else, but I've spent enough time trying to advise you on this hopeless situation.

Just go do whatever you're going to do and shut up about it. You're a lost cause. And you don't appreciate any of the advice we're giving you.

Go take your weird nerdy rage elsewhere.