What to do when your woman flirts with other guys in front of you?

[Berocca]

I had this HB9 who wanted me to acknowledge her value by being very friendly to other guys (and giving them small compliments) in front of my eyes.

One time we took a cab and were talking about something and this lame driver had to squeeze himself in the conversation and and choose her side, after which she took this opportunity to pay interest in the guy and talking to him.

Eventually they ended up talking only to each other because she ignored me. She gave him small compliments and laughed very fake about his jokes.

I know this was the result of me not worshipping her on the level like all other dudes, ass kissing her but I find this behavior pretty disrespectful. I eventually dumped this ****ty woman but I also experience this with other women. But not as extreme as this one.

What would you do in these kind of situations? I never flirted with other women in front of this one so there was no reason to get back at me.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Moved to General Discussion.

 

[iamnobody]

You don't let that phase you. You go ahead and flirt with other chicks in front of her. She might be sh1t testing you, she might not be all that interested in you, the point is you don't care about that.

If other chicks behave the same way, then perhaps you have to work on yourself a bit.

 

[TheException]

You don't let that phase you. You go ahead and flirt with other chicks in front of her. She might be sh1t testing you, she might not be all that interested in you, the point is you don't care about that.

If other chicks behave the same way, then perhaps you have to work on yourself a bit.

This is the truth.

Women are ALWAYS going to have other men around, most of which will be pathetic beta orbiters. She will use them for attention. If you are uncomfortable around this type of situation....either learn how to be more comfortable and suppress your insecurities or start dating men. Like the member says above....best "comeback" is to flirt with other women....of course being sly about it. You cant do it "since she is flirting so I am flirting". Just say "Im just making new friends, these people are cool".

 

[Uncharted]

If she's just flirting, then I would start flirting with other girls too - but I'm usually already doing this and I don't get jealous easily.

She has to know that she should not be doing this because it's unacceptable to you.

IF THIS IS THE FIRST OFFENSE:

If she's touching another guy in front of you or shaking her goods, to me that's unacceptable. You need to let her know this right away. Calmly pull her aside and say something like "Listen - it never came up before, but I expect you to respect me when we are out. If you do XXXXX, I see it as disrespect." If she plays it off, reiterate that you are serious. Don't yell, just be calm and straight with her.

If you don't say anything, she will know that she can keep doing this in the future.

IF THIS IS THE SECOND (or more) OFFENSE:

Leave. Just walk away from her and ignore her. If she asks what's wrong, just say "nothing" and leave. She will know what she did wrong, because you already told her!


I know a girl that flirts with guys all over the place even when she's with her boyfriend. He gets visibly pissed and tries to yell at her and she just brushes it off. That's NOT the guy you want to be.

 

[SgtSplacker]

If I take a girl out i'm usually paying for food and drinks, if i'm not paying she can talk to whomever she wants I honestly don't care because it's not a date and i'm most likely using her for social proof anyways.

If I am paying then it's a date and she is drinking my drinks and eating my food and therefore wasting my time and money.

BUT

And let me tell you i'm capable of doing something vulgar or just walking away and leaving her there to catch a cab ride home for something like this. But... this is a common test women like to do to test men. So i'll just show her i'm not happy, i'll explain that we are on a date and i'll talk a bit about my intentions so were on the same page. If she is anything but completely apologetic i'll probably cut the night short right then and there and never call her again.

I hate it when girls play both sides of the fence, and i'm not going to allow that on my dollar. Were either friends or lovers and I don't pay for my friends food unless they ask before the night begins.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Turn your back for extended lengths of time when she needs correction. Women tend to find this distressing.

 

[HumbleNinja]

This is the truth.

Women are ALWAYS going to have other men around, most of which will be pathetic beta orbiters. She will use them for attention. If you are uncomfortable around this type of situation....either learn how to be more comfortable and suppress your insecurities or start dating men. Like the member says above....best "comeback" is to flirt with other women....of course being sly about it. You cant do it "since she is flirting so I am flirting". Just say "Im just making new friends, these people are cool".

^^^This right here.^^^

You can't do the "t1t for tat" when chicks flirt with other dudes. They KNOW exactly what they're doing even IF they don't plan on taking it further. When they see their action has forced you into a reaction (getting mad, flirting with other chicks in front of them because they start flirting with other dudes) they know they are trying to lower you and effect you by what they're doing and see it's working.

You have to ignore it, and not be seen as "purposely" flirting with another chick because she flirted with a dude or dudes.

You should still be talking to other chicks though not directly disrespectfully in front of her face.

If that same chick catches those chicks simply coming to you then and doesn't see you having to have initiated it due to her flirting...best believe she will start shaping up.

If she continues? You might just want to drop the chick later on. Not immediately or the next day. Just slowly start distancing yourself till she either shapes up and realizes on her own you are tired of her nonsense...or you are gone for good as in ghost.

You literally have to show no emotions as if she "got to you". It's what a chick who does that is looking for "innocently" flirting.

Most will stick around for some pvssy though. As most will claim they "don't pedestalize the pvssy" yet can't man up and leave but will try to "game" some chick into "submission". lol

 

[GotED?]

She's an attention wh0re. If she was my gf I would call her one and if she does it again I would dump her. Nothing more embarrassing than a ho.

^^^^^ THIS ^^^^^^

HEED ITS WISDOM or suffer a fatal heart-break down the road as you don't sound like Oneitis-proof.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[Maximus Rex]

It's Disrespectful

You need to check that b*tch.

 

[Turuwal]

Accidentally get distracted by someone else and start flirting with them. It needs to come from a place of disinterest or ****y amusement.

 

[zekko]

If she's reallly an HB9, then this behavior is probably standard for her. Like PairPlusRoyalFlush says, she is an attention wh0re. She is well aware of the power that she wields over men, and she will enjoy using it.

The main thing is to recognize this girl is not going to be relationship material. However, if you're just looking to bang this girl or stay in her good graces, you can do what iamnobody, TheException, and Uncharted suggested: Shrug it off (pass her sh!t test) and flirt with other girls. However, IMO this is a game you simply can't win. You will never be able to command as much attention as an HB9 in her prime - unless you are a celebrity of some sort or such.

At my age, I tire of this type of thing quickly so I would probably do what Atom Smasher says and withdraw attention. However, my main objective would not be to stay in her good graces (she's not proving herself worthy of my time). So if that's what you want you might be better off following the others' advice.

 

[gravityeyelids]

yea good luck. it's kind of a lose lose. In my opinion, if it happens once, then okay. Maybe she was drunk or whatever. Act like it doesnt phase you. But if it's something that happens often, try to get her in line...dont count on that happening though, you probably want to find other girls.

Is this your exclusive girlfriend or are you guys just sleeping together? If you're just banging...yea it's disrespectful, but you're both single. I mean i would think she'd have the class to not do this when you're at the same party, but obviously she likes to play games. If she's your LTR, you give her one chance to straighten up and then dump her a$$

 

[dasein]

There's a social contract that expects men to protect women they are escorting to a certain degree that still exists. As long as it does, any woman, exclusive or not, on an actual date with me, who uses that as a platform to attention hwore, flirt, or do things she wouldn't normally do by herself, but feels empowered to do because I'm there to fall back on, will be left in the dust right there and right then. Have done it before several times over the years, have never regretted it in the least, was always the right call. If I feel or suffer any sense of loss due to that, it's my bad for not having more options ready or investing too much in one option before proof of quality. Quality women absolutely do not, will not do this type of behavior on you unless they are very drunk or suffering a brain fart, so it's an excellent screen.

 

[TheGambino]

Kick back and enjoy the show

 

[Don_Dom]

There's a social contract that expects men to protect women they are escorting to a certain degree that still exists. As long as it does, any woman, exclusive or not, on an actual date with me, who uses that as a platform to attention hwore, flirt, or do things she wouldn't normally do by herself, but feels empowered to do because I'm there to fall back on, will be left in the dust right there and right then. Have done it before several times over the years, have never regretted it in the least, was always the right call. If I feel or suffer any sense of loss due to that, it's my bad for not having more options ready or investing too much in one option before proof of quality. Quality women absolutely do not, will not do this type of behavior on you unless they are very drunk or suffering a brain fart, so it's an excellent screen.

Once again, dasein nails it.

Break it down. Would you put up with this from a HB6 or below or does this girl get a pass for disrespecting you because she's hot?

Obviously, most of us, myself included, would probably question what to do, too, simply because she's a 9. But is that right? Is that good for you? For your inner game? Your reputation? Self respect?

Clearly, dumping a really hot one is easier said than done. But we all know what the obvious answer to this is.

Split the difference. Bang her a couple more times while you warm up to the idea of tossing her. Maybe take her out a few more times for social proof and talk to some other women. Then do it. Works for chicks.

 

[skysliced]

Focus on you and not her.

 

[pdx1138]

any woman, exclusive or not, on an actual date with me, who uses that as a platform to attention hwore, flirt, or do things she wouldn't normally do by herself, but feels empowered to do because I'm there to fall back on, will be left in the dust right there and right then. Have done it before several times over the years, have never regretted it in the least, was always the right call.

awesome and true.

I ditched one of my plates at a bar (she had no car) when she started flirting with another guy.

Very powerful experience for me (first time I ever did that, after having it happen once before)

 

[buzzin_frog]

Unless you're a millionaire or a small time celebrity.....this chick wasn't a 9

You should always measure a relationship with what I like to call the "Fear Factor"

If your woman doesn't fear losing you or damaging the relationship beyond repair, then she isn't afraid of losing you...which means that she will hold all the power and will treat you like sh!t when she wants to....she doesn't respect you...and she doesn't care how you react.....that's why she will act this way towards you

Women should always be afraid of losing the man they love and respect

Some guys continue to preach this "fake indifference" sh!t that never works

The problem is.......that these guys do care about how they are being treated.....pretending to ignore the problem won't go away

The biggest factor in their flawed thinking is the word RESPECT.....if your woman doesn't respect you, no amount of fake indifference in the world is going to help you.....she doesn't respect you....so she isn't going to give a sh!t what you think or do!!

Some guys use indifference and it will have some effect.....the chick will eventually apologize after....but the men will give some stupid ass answer like "that's ok" or "no big deal".....and that will give the chick carte blanche to sh!t all over them again the next time.....they were using fake indifference and they fvcked up when it counted.

So, their woman will humiliate them again the next time.... and the cycle will just keep repeating itself until she finally dumps him.

Never put up with any disrespect from a woman.....as soon as you do that, you will become the b!tch in the relationship to be sh!t on over and over again

You need to have the right mindset for this in order to work....having other women at your disposal, being a true confident man, having some element of success, being able to carry yourself well, and not giving a sh!t to leave the chick all determines whether you will be in charge or the doormat.

Because you when you have other chicks, your girlfriend becomes irrelevant....she's the pain in the ass that you don't need in your life that can be easily replaced....and don't think for a minute that she doesn't know that!!

Men with no other options in the works will be treated like a b!tch... because the woman knows he will never leave and will continue to take what she is giving him....she won't take him or his fake indifference seriously at all, because it's all smoke and mirrors.....he will continue to be the beta man pretending to be something else that she doesn't respect....that is a total failure and why that type of thinking will get you nowhere!!

Having other chicks available to you displays high value.....your woman will see that you are a man that is worth having....she will also know that you will leave if she decides to treat you like sh!t....because you have other options available.

Staying with a disrespectful woman.....putting up with her bvllsh!t......letting her humiliate you in public.....pretending that her disrespectful behavior isn't hurting you.....giving her dumbass answers by letting her off the hook to sh!t on you again.....isn't worth the time and trouble....it's not going to change anything

Leaving with another chick at the party or simply just dumping her ass after the party is over, is the best way to handle those kind of women.....then you can fvck the chick you left with, or call up another one to bang later the same night

Being the doormat and the b!tch in the relationship will never change....your girlfriend won't respect you while she continues to sh!t all over you, while you waste your time using fake indifference waiting for something to change that never will.....that is a waste of time!!

 

[Berocca]

I have to reread some posts again to let it sink in.

It has been 2 years since I dumped her.

Because in the end I could not handle her crap anymore.

I guess the fantastic tits, ass and body kept me motivated to stay with her.

At that time in the cab I acted like it didn't hurt me but in fact I felt humiliated in front of a stranger.

And always wondered what I should have done.

Thanks for the time you guys took to write a reply.