What to do when ur GF takes her emotions out on you?

[MKS82]

So just stay like a rock in turbulent sea? From what I understand if u sense something give it to her. She's asking for love give it to her, she's hinting at neding space give it to her, when she comes back give her attention she wants?
Im just a little irked nothing too bad though about her not calling me when she arrived. I just find it respectful to do something when u say u would. I feel disrespected and want to lash out at her cause I do a lot of sh1t for her and she can't make a simple b phone call. Grant it she was tired seeing her parents for the first time in a while and on vacation etc but geez.
She disrespected me yesterday also.I had to drive her to the airport so she dropped me off at work and she went to work in the morning. I told her I might have to drive somewhere for work (just made it up) so make sure to keep the cell phone nearby cause I might have to drop u off early. I was basically testing her. So icalled her up early to see if she would answer. No answer. I waited an hour and called again no answer. Then low and behold she calls about the time it would take for me to get her to the airport. she claims she didn't realize she left her phone in the car. Yea right. I heard her walking and saying by to someone. I said oh my boss wanted me to go somewhere but u didn't answer so I just told him the story. She was like oh really. Lol.

 

[Mr. Me]

^^^^ It's beginning to sound more like I may be on the right track, I'm sorry to say. Not answering her cell phone, excuses that don't sound right, not calling when she says she will, being unavailable, someone else in the background...

 

[Sinistar]

there's more going on here than a simple case of "my girl needs some Dr.Phil style love and attention".

She owns the frame. Maybe you should slip her an extra anti-anxiety pill every morning

 

[jophil28]

How do I address the issue of her not calling me when she got into vegas?lesve it alone or say something? Should I call her if she doesn't call in 2days?

A woman who "sees" heself as your girlfriend would have called you every day from Vegas.

In your own words you are dating a "party girl" ..what do you expect ?

Not all "25 somethings" are party girls. You are dating someone who's priority is NOT you at this time, or much of the time . Her fun focus is shifting and you are only on her radar PARTTIME. IF you were the "main event" she would have called you from NV within an hour of arriving .

Secondly you have not commented about any of the good advice that we have given you so far. YOu continue to offer your own thoughts and plans in an attempt tp convince yourself thet you have this thing under control . YOu do not, otherwise you would not be posting in the first place.

Finally, you are convinced ( it comes though in our words ) that if you take action to call her on her BS or take a stand in some way then she will leave you. Yes, she will get hissy and may sulk BUT taking a stand may just work. SHe has the power over you right now because you are doing nothing to assert your rightful leadership - you are REACTING constantly to her immature behavior.
Read that again "Assert your rightful LEADERSHIP "

Being in a realtionship with an emotional women like yours is like trying to drive a car down the freeway with one flat tire. The car still goes forward in but is it is slow, exhausting, nerve wracking and very tiring. Utimately you do a lot of work for little forward progress...and it is no fun.

Tolerance is not an effective management stragegy .

 

[MKS82]

Can't give her an extra pill cause that means less for me. Lol. Im thinking ill just act distant then even possibly give her the I need space speech or find myself speech cause im confused about everything and need to see things clearly. It could do the trick or backfire. Or I might not talk to her for the whole time she is inn vegas and when I pick her up shell be like why didn't u call etc ill just say hey seemed like u wanted space so I gave it to ya and im going to give u more cause I cause I don't want some who is so wishy washy in my life being hot one minute then cold. Tonight im leaving my phone at work so if she calls there will be no way to contact me and I can't call her back. That should do the trick

 

[jophil28]

Tonight im leaving my phone at work so if she calls there will be no way to contact me and I can't call her back. That should do the trick

You tactics are as juvenile as her behavior.

 

[MKS82]

Well no call from her yesterday. Don't know what is going on or what I should do. I know I probably shouldn't engage her aggressively. "Probably send a text and say hey hope ur having fun over there and ill see u later." Any other suggestions? Anyone ever have theor gf not vall them when they went on vacation?

 

[NewMan]

Don't send a text or call.


Stop being a pvssy about this - sorry, but it's the truth.

She's not calling you, because she doesn't want to.

Instead of waisting your time wondering about it, go out there and start spinning plates. Hit the gym. Get some beers with the guys - and chill out.

 

[MKS82]

Im picking her up from the airport I have her car and keys etc. I work out like 6 times a week btw. No problem getting stares when I go out. I called her earlier today. She answered sounded happy. Asked her how things were etc cracked some jokes. Then I told her im going to the mountians to go snowbiarding and got a hotel etc. Right away she got jealoous and curious and asked three times whom im going with I just said some friends. She knows I got a lot of friends. I then said my phone might not work and ill just talk to her in 4days when she gets back. She got all worried. Non needy light simple, made her worried and jealous and made myself scarce.
I like party bgirls that's all I datemakes sh1t interesting. She goes through these stages. Trust me I know I've seen it before cause I dated her for 2 years and lived wtih her 2 years ago. Seen this sh1t before. We are bf and gf according to her last week as we have gotten back togehter within the last 2 months.
By the way this is aix237 if u couldn't figure that out. Changes ur reponses a lilttle I bet. I get bored at work and need soomething to do so I type in my problems in my love life. I know what to do most of the time espically with her. Just wan to see what people have to say. She has bpd which explains this situation.

 

[ZenGodMod]

You have a tempory solution to a perninate problem.

You are the type of guy she tells all her best friends about how great you are because your the only man who takes her **** and still comes back. How happy she has some like you.
Translates to 'got a idiot who i've successfully whopped into submission. Eats my **** for breakfast and believes his got an upper hand but still listens to me act like a lunatic' she is the perfect example of a guy who's i'd high 5 if you where his girl.

 

[SoCalMike]

bro, listen to me and listen good: DO NOT GET THIS GIRL PREGNANT.

make sure you use condoms, or that she's on the pill, or at the very least pull out.

you are going to get sick of her crap eventually. and the last thing you want is to be stuck having to deal with her for the rest of your life because of a child.

i only warn you on this because i dated an emotional/immature/disrespectful party girl like this too when i was your age. just as i was nearing my limit of her BS i found out she hadn't been consistent in taking her pill and was pregnant. it was the worst feeling of my life. luckily she had a miscarriage at 9 weeks... even though i hated to see her go through that (had to take her to emergency room), and it did make me feel crappy too... i realize now it was for the best.

 

[MKS82]

Well she called me at 6am I was still up w my friends. She was drunk and locked out of her room lol. She still kept asking who im with I said friends. she said who u with "b1tch" I was like what? U better say sorry. She was like oh whatever. I got off the phone with her and texted her "just to let u know calling me a b1tch isn't the best thing to say to me so don't do that sh1t again" that was at 630 am. I go to sleep and wake up at 2pm I see 3 missed calls. One at 945 am 1130am and 130pm. I call her back and acrs normal I nonchalantly bring up the sh1t about her saying b1tch to me and ask if she got my text she says oh I didn't see it so itold her. That was the end of that. Then she ws like who u with did u hook up with someon, why were u up to 7am?? I was like no stop asking im respectful and wouldn't cheat on u geezus. I said something about her and she said im too old to be running around like that blah blah. Pretty weird sh1t. Its twisting her inside cause she thinks im fvkin around on her guess it will make her keep me closer. Good thing I told her that suff to get her I'll back up cause I sensed it was going down before she left.

 

[MKS82]

Well she called me at 6am I was still up w my friends. She was drunk and locked out of her room lol. She still kept asking who im with I said friends. she said who u with "b1tch" I was like what? U better say sorry. She was like oh whatever. I got off the phone with her and texted her "just to let u know calling me a b1tch isn't the best thing to say to me so don't do that sh1t again" that was at 630 am. I go to sleep and wake up at 2pm I see 3 missed calls. One at 945 am 1130am and 130pm. I call her back and acrs normal I nonchalantly bring up the sh1t about her saying b1tch to me and ask if she got my text she says oh I didn't see it so itold her. That was the end of that. Then she ws like who u with did u hook up with someon, why were u up to 7am?? I was like no stop asking im respectful and wouldn't cheat on u geezus. I said something about her and she said im too old to be running around like that blah blah. Pretty weird sh1t. Its twisting her inside cause she thinks im fvkin around on her guess it will make her keep me closer. Good thing I told her that suff to get her I'll back up cause I sensed it was going down before she left.

 

[MKS82]

Well she called me at 6am I was still up w my friends. She was drunk and locked out of her room lol. She still kept asking who im with I said friends. she said who u with "b1tch" I was like what? U better say sorry. She was like oh whatever. I got off the phone with her and texted her "just to let u know calling me a b1tch isn't the best thing to say to me so don't do that sh1t again" that was at 630 am. I go to sleep and wake up at 2pm I see 3 missed calls. One at 945 am 1130am and 130pm. I call her back and acrs normal I nonchalantly bring up the sh1t about her saying b1tch to me and ask if she got my text she says oh I didn't see it so itold her. That was the end of that. Then she ws like who u with did u hook up with someon, why were u up to 7am?? I was like no stop asking im respectful and wouldn't cheat on u geezus. I said something about her and she said im too old to be running around like that blah blah. Pretty weird sh1t. Its twisting her inside cause she thinks im fvkin around on her guess it will make her keep me closer. Good thing I told her that suff to get her I'll back up cause I sensed it was going down before she left.

 

[Janez]

the problem with BPD chick is that they accuse you of something they are actually doing. So if she is in Vegas with friends and drunk and saying that you are cheating her.... it is a good chance she is cheating on you.from what you say she has totally wrapped you around her finger. It is not good news that she is BPD, so I wish you best possible outcome there...

You don't listen to good advice (for not calling her, taking her sh*t etc) because you are already living some kind of dream world (OZ). And it is hard way out of there. Read "breaking up with BPD chick" thread...

because, as expirienced people say, one day you will want to go out. And that might be the day that she totally crush you or it can be sooner. My BPD crushed me down so bad and I still want her... so sick :\

 

[Sinistar]

By the way this is aix237 if u couldn't figure that out. Changes ur reponses a lilttle I bet. I get bored at work and need soomething to do so I type in my problems in my love life. I know what to do most of the time espically with her. Just wan to see what people have to say. She has bpd which explains this situation.

...first prove to us that a licensed shrink diagnosed here as borderline. Until you can do that I figure you've just self-diagnosed her to explain your being a complete tool and dumb azz.

Being completely honest is the first step to reaching the next level (ie DJ, MAN). If you look back at past posters who have created multiple accounts there is a common thread. First, the poster is completely fvcked up over some girl. And second, you aren't getting the advice you need but you can't possibly stand to take it.

Face it, you are so deep into this chick that she isn't the problem - you are.

Pull your head out of your azz, realize that you or her (or both) are not right for each other and it's time to move on. Maybe you like playing these games. I will guarantee you that she will win in the end because either she's BPD (as you say) and they are the ultimate masters at fvcking over a tool like you. And you surely are a mega AFC bordering on being obsessed with her.

borrowing a bit more of your aix slang grow some ballz and grow up.

I think the mods should lock this thread and the MKS82 account. The OP started under aix237 so why not move these posts there and let it run as he originally started it.

Oh yeah - Good Morning