What to do when another pua approaches your girl or your set?

[timmylivingalie]

What should you do if your with your girlfriend and a dude with some game approaches her?

A. Confront him?
B. Try to belittle him an make him look like a jacka$$?
C. Ignore him?
D. Walk away and hope your chic will follow?
E. Stand there and hold your drink to your chest?
F. Befriend him?
G. Tell him to leave her alone

 

[Bumsniff]

What should you do if your with your girlfriend and a dude with some game approaches her?

A. Confront him?
B. Try to belittle him an make him look like a jacka$$?
C. Ignore him?
D. Walk away and hope your chic will follow?
E. Stand there and hold your drink to your chest?
F. Befriend him?
G. Tell him to leave her alone

H. Watch what she does. If she is receptive. I'd keep it noted while doing the same thing she did but to other women. If she blows the guy off. No problem.

Anything you possibly do could be used as you being jealous other than keeping your cool.

 

[BadNews]

Be cool - act like you don't give a sh!t. Almost smug, as if she'd have to be a moron to choose this chump over you (kind of ****y - not an a$$ hole.)

 

[Boilermaker]

This happened to me once. I had met the girl for 5 minutes and this guy approached and said something from the Mystery routine, something like the "cube" or something ...

I waited for him to finish that BS and said "Nice execution there, bro!"
He said "Umm, what?"
I said " The Cube, did you practice it tonight?"
He said " Oops, and walked off"

It was funny. I genuinely liked the guy. I didn't have anything to do with the girl, but turned out I chased him away and she was all over me all night.

 

[Jitterbug]

In all of my relationships so far, the girl has always been the one doing the mate guarding when we're out & about. I'm not all that & a bag of chips while single, but for whatever reason become some kind of chick magnet when in a relationship, so my girl often is occupied with fending off other chicks (usually her own friends lol) to notice some guy hitting on her with or without game.

If your GF in a committed relationship is entertaining another guy's advance, then you have bigger issues to deal with than him, a random individual.

 

[drak_ool]

If your GF in a committed relationship is entertaining another guy's advance, then you have bigger issues to deal with than him, a random individual.

^^^This. My ex used to always give me the "who is this weirdo?" look. The bottom line: keep it cool like Talib Kweli "I don't really care who she's speaking with/ 'cuz she already made it clear who she's leaving with" If the girl you're with DOES NOT make it clear she's leaving with you, why are you spending any time with such a low class skank?

Funny story on the topic: in Vegas over Labor Day wknd, was bringing a girl I met that night back to my casino and we stopped at the bar before going up to the room. We ran into a bachelor party and 2-3 guys started talking to us, obviously trying to hit on the girl. The whole time they're buying us drinks, ended up spending over $100 on us. I was teasing her about going with them, they really like her, etc... which only made her get more cuddly with me. When we finished our last shot, I said bye to they guys and got up, and the chick immediately did the same and followed me.

If you maintain your frame, you have nothing to fear from anyone

 

[DJDamage]

If its your girlfriend and she acts receptive to his advances then maybe it time to evaluate if she is still worthy of being your girlfriend.

If its just a random set in a bar, you must have not acted fast enough to isolate the girl and thus left her open to other interlopers to pop in. The worst thing you can do is worry about it. This is what I usually do when it happens:

if she is receptive to his advances:

a) walk away & come back when he is gone or open a new set - the worst thing to do is try to compete for her in front of him & let her know that you were bothered by it. You usually wont end up looking good.

b) Stay and listen, maybe you can learn something from someone that got it right.


If she isn't receptive to his advances:

a) shut your mouth, drink your drink and let the poor guy bury himself. Once he fails just smile and continue the convo with the girl as if nothing happened.

 

[BlackEricNorthman]

There was a pua from another forum I use to frequent. He was the only one who really "got it" and realized it wasn't about the techniques as much as the attitude much like many members of this forum. I've field tested this soo..

Here's what happens when an Alpha Male/PUA attempts to approach your set or woman. You'll want to use this as an opportunity not to prove you are more alpha but to run more game on the girl. You want to disqualify, disarm, and escalate to get the girl running back to you.

Say an aggressive Alpha starts obviously hitting on your girl. Be aloof and humor the clown at first. Find out his name and with a smile turn to the girl...

YOU: "Hey I think whatshisface is really into you, you should totally hook up!"

1) You use kino. Rub her back or something similar physically to "convince" her to go with the guy.

2) False-Disqualifying. Hopefully you have been building up her attraction in you so she is already more into you than the new guy. So you actively disqualify yourself (basically step down or retract your interest in the girl when you said "You two should hook up") while attraction-spiking with physical kino. Done right this will make her MORE attracted to you and she'll want to continue to chase you.

3) Instead of trying to compete or hand her over to the Alpha/pua use this invasion to run more game on the girl. Indirectly flirt with her by speaking to the Alpha ABOUT HER. Continue to rub her back and say something like...

"She's cute isn't she? You be good to her or I'll have to kick your ass, she's like my adorable little sister."

Then you hug her close, kiss her on the forehead (I like to whisper something naughty or funny in her ear), pat her on the booty then push her toward the Alpha.

4) You'll highlight his interest which contrasts with your flirtatious disinterest. This makes your value appear much higher than his.

The Alpha will think you are helping him out and will overgame her, meanwhile the girl's attraction will be focused on you because you showed a A) protective side "Treat her nice or I'll kick your ass" B) Leadership/High value by pushing her off towards him while C) Romance/Sexual escalation by kinoing her the whole time.

It should hit enough attraction switches so quickly in her and raise her interest in you more. She'll be so invested in you and the Alpha/pua will be overwhelmed and stumble because he thinks you gave him what he wanted. He will overgame and show too much interest to a girl you just heavily flirted with while similarly passing off as no big deal. It's the same effect as seeing a parent with a really shy kid trying to get the kid to say hi to another grown-up. The parent tries to push off the kid "Say hi to the nice man" but the kid doesn't know this new grown-up so they hide back behind the parent and cling to their leg.

If the attraction is already there than this technique should have the same effect.

 

[Nutz]

What should you do if your with your girlfriend and a dude with some game approaches her?

A. Confront him?
B. Try to belittle him an make him look like a jacka$$?
C. Ignore him?
D. Walk away and hope your chic will follow?
E. Stand there and hold your drink to your chest?
F. Befriend him?
G. Tell him to leave her alone

Here ya go:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PqQKoxYVwIY


Something I like to do is tell the guy he's cool, cut him off, tell the chick we should go get one of her friends and how I bet they'd hit it off. I tell the guy to stay right there and I grab her by the hand and lead her away.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Timmy,
Nutz has got two.....Depends on the size of the Guy,if he looks My size or smaller,I just stand sideways on to him and say with a smile,this ones taken Pal...rarely will he turn aggressive...If he does,he will just loudmouth, it is unlikely he will hit you sideways on,if you adopt a defensive posture with your elbow tucked in to your stomach,hand under chin,you are best prepared for the unlikely situation that he chooses to attack...If things stay nasty,then just move your Baby on but be prepared for anything,and if you have exchanged words,take care as you are leaving.

 

[backbreaker]

i would actually get pissed off at my wife if she acted like a **** to a random dude who approached her. she knows how i feel about girls who are ****s to dudes who are just playing the game.

i don't expect her to be recpetive but she won't be a ***** either. now if he doesn't get the memo that's a different story.

to answer the question i would watch him and once he's done give pointers on how he could improve his approach. i have no issue with the dude

 

[zekko]

I think there's a big difference between a girl you just met who you are targeting, a girl you are out on a date with, and a girl who is your girlfriend/wife.

I used to date a girl who I considered an HB9.2. She used to get hit on by guys everywhere she went, and I mean everywhere. Dear Lord, I got sick of it. But I have to give her credit. Any time a guy was obviously running game on her, she would shut him down. If a girl is on a date with you, I think that's her job, unless the guy won't listen, in which case you can step in.

If it's just a guy doing some casual talking or flirting, I wouldn't sweat that. If it's a wife, I might even be grateful, lol. If they're going for the number or whatever, that's a different thing.

YOU: "Hey I think whatshisface is really into you, you should totally hook up!"

That's probably not bad advice for a girl you just met. Only thing is, that line is so old it screams "PUA! Mystery!" louder than The Cube does.

 

[backbreaker]

well the OP did say "your girl" he didnt' say "your date"

if i were on a date, and i've hd it happen before a few times.. i mean what the **** can you do. in fact, i don't mind at all beucase it will let me know at that point in time how serious this girl is. if she's entertaining him in any other way then just being nice but not interested it's an autonex. the guy either saves me time from trying to run my game on a girl who isn't really feeling me like that or the guy assures me i'm going to hit it.

 

[Lexington]

Here's a good example of how to handle it well:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dc6qxajsbuQ

Whether that show is scripted or not, the way the second contestant handled it was a good illustration of one way to deal with that situation.

 

[Jitterbug]

Yeah it's a world of difference if it's just a date or some girl you yourself are gaming. Then there are a host of ways to deal with it, but at the root of those is the principle of caring the least about the outcome (getting the girl). The guy more emotionally invested in getting that girl will often lose.

 

[Boilermaker]

I think there's a big difference between a girl you just met who you are targeting, a girl you are out on a date with, and a girl who is your girlfriend/wife.

Very good point. I think this is a central issue PUA people miss all the time. That every different situation requires different and concrete analysis.

Principles and canned material to every different situation is what causes these guys to look like clowns.

 

[sageproduct]

to answer the question i would watch him and once he's done give pointers on how he could improve his approach. i have no issue with the dude

That's basically how a girl's DAD reacted once when I cold approached her in front of him at the airport. He was utterly, genuinely unfazed, and gave me a non-fake smile that said he appreciated my balls in approaching. But in actuality, that dominant reaction he had discouraged me from re-engaging her more than any other sort of resistance from a male would have

EDIT: SH!T didn't see this was the Mature Man section. Sorry guys.

 

[st_99]

to answer the question i would watch him and once he's done give pointers on how he could improve his approach. i have no issue with the dude

thats pretty pimp. i can see myself being like.. "yeah, i would have actually followed that up with kino, scrapped the negs, and used a more commanding tonality" LOL

the guy would be like... wtf just happened. :crazy:

 

[origin138]

None of the above.

Complete lack of jealousy or defensiveness. I certainly wouldn't walk away like a chump, or sit there and listen unless he was making a fool out of himself.

I'd start chatting him up like he was her ugly friend (no homo). Handle him by asking a ton of questions and inflate his ego with compliments where needed. Keep him on his toes so he can't talk to her because he'll be too busy answering your barrage of questions. Eventually he'll walk away. If he gets defensive toward you for getting busy with him, you also win.

1. You look strong socially
2. You gain mastery over him
3. She pines for you since he has your attention

 

[timmylivingalie]

Chics can probaly use this as **** test and flirt with the guy to see how you react.