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Don Juan
So here's the situation. I met this girl in early June, Anna. She's ridiculously hot and going into her Junior year (I'll be a Senior), so I figure she's had some experience before. I turn on the DJ, and we start dating. After a little bit, I learn that she's never had a boyfriend before and never really dated. Never even made out with a guy until me. She's very sheltered. So a few weeks into it, everything's going well, and she's turned out to be a great girl, so I figure I'll try to make things official soon. It came up in a conversation we were having, and she said she didn't want a serious relationship yet. I was thrown off a bit, but her friend thought it might just be nervousness, since she was in uncharted waters. Fair enough, I think.
But the relationship thing came up again a week later, and I asked a couple different questions. This time she said that now that she's dated me, she's kinda been opened up to the whole dating thing and might wanna date other guys once school starts. Yeah, there's a ****in stomach shot.
Thing is, she doesn't always act like that. After the relationship conversations, she found out that I had hooked up with another girl since then and seemed very upset about that. I told her that it was how dating worked and if she wanted that to stop, then officially going out with me was the way to go. Last week, she spent three days in New York and came back with a present for me on her birthday. She's very flirty and such when we're out.
When we're not out, though, it's a bit different. She keeps phone calls real short, which can be a good thing, but I usually look for trying to talk a lot on the phone as a sign of attraction from a girl. I've also tried to back off for the past few days and haven't called or seen her since Sunday. We'd usually go out somewhere about every other day and at least talk briefly on the days in between. Unfortunately, she hasn't called once in that time, which seems to me to be another bad sign, as girls who are into me generally will call at least once in a three-day period (and usually more than once).
So the question is... how exactly do I handle this, given her level of inexperience? I'd like her to slide over into wanting a relationship with me, and I've decided to try two things to see if that can happen: give her a bit less attention, and tell her that after thinking about it, I might want to just date around a while too. Reverse psychology might just work. Other than that, I need ideas. She's still up for dates, hooking up, all that, and obviously has some feelings towards me, but I need to make them stronger without getting into the really advanced stuff that she could really take the wrong way since she's new to all this. Hell, for all I know she hasn't called because she thinks only the guy is supposed to call in these sort of things (she's kinda like that). Anyways, any and all thoughts are appreciated, and if you have any similar stories yourself, go ahead and share them. But if you're gonna post something like "obviously she hates you, next her," then don't bother. I'm still dating around, keeping my options open, but she's the highest on the list of girls I know right now, so I'd like to make it work. Thanks.
But the relationship thing came up again a week later, and I asked a couple different questions. This time she said that now that she's dated me, she's kinda been opened up to the whole dating thing and might wanna date other guys once school starts. Yeah, there's a ****in stomach shot.
Thing is, she doesn't always act like that. After the relationship conversations, she found out that I had hooked up with another girl since then and seemed very upset about that. I told her that it was how dating worked and if she wanted that to stop, then officially going out with me was the way to go. Last week, she spent three days in New York and came back with a present for me on her birthday. She's very flirty and such when we're out.
When we're not out, though, it's a bit different. She keeps phone calls real short, which can be a good thing, but I usually look for trying to talk a lot on the phone as a sign of attraction from a girl. I've also tried to back off for the past few days and haven't called or seen her since Sunday. We'd usually go out somewhere about every other day and at least talk briefly on the days in between. Unfortunately, she hasn't called once in that time, which seems to me to be another bad sign, as girls who are into me generally will call at least once in a three-day period (and usually more than once).
So the question is... how exactly do I handle this, given her level of inexperience? I'd like her to slide over into wanting a relationship with me, and I've decided to try two things to see if that can happen: give her a bit less attention, and tell her that after thinking about it, I might want to just date around a while too. Reverse psychology might just work. Other than that, I need ideas. She's still up for dates, hooking up, all that, and obviously has some feelings towards me, but I need to make them stronger without getting into the really advanced stuff that she could really take the wrong way since she's new to all this. Hell, for all I know she hasn't called because she thinks only the guy is supposed to call in these sort of things (she's kinda like that). Anyways, any and all thoughts are appreciated, and if you have any similar stories yourself, go ahead and share them. But if you're gonna post something like "obviously she hates you, next her," then don't bother. I'm still dating around, keeping my options open, but she's the highest on the list of girls I know right now, so I'd like to make it work. Thanks.
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