What to do in this situation?

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Warning: A bit of a long post.
Here is my situation with girls. Please check it out and give me some advice:
- junior in h.s., really good looking, i have alot of confidence, not sa
-had a bunch of girls interested in me in the past, my inexperience screwed me over but i learned from my mistakes.
- switched schools alot, none of them had many girls, most of them have moved abroad
- my school now only has 5 girls in each grade (theyre all really ugly and sa and the few hot ones, i put the moves on them but they arent interested)
- ive been on 1 date, have made some intimate contact with a bunch of girls. (aka touching and hugging)
- i use every opportunity to talk and flirt with all girls and women of any age to gain practice. im good at flirting but not good at just on the spot normal convo with girls, my text game sucks.
- i feel like alot of convos. i have with girls are just full of flirting, nothing else (you get the picture)
- im not into the "party scene" im working hard to get into a good college first. in my free time though, i pursue my passions (construction, taekwondo, tennis).
- its easier for me to talk to college girls and women than h.s. cuz of the maturity level for me.
- i plan on going to a really large college for "obvious reasons" (though mostly for academic reasons)
you prob. get the basic picture, i dont know am i doing something wrong? what can i do to get more girls? i feel a real "disconnect" in my convos. with most girls i talk to.

I've been through so many life experiences and situations in my life i feel more mature than most kids my age. (i.e. alot of people tell me i have the vocabulary of someone 4 or 5 years older than me) please tell me what should i do differently to get more girls? the lack of girls in my life, and not getting laid is painful at times. srs answers only. also at times im not sure if i'll ever succeed at getting a gf in my life though im optimistic about the situation.
 

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gsj23421 said:
Warning: A bit of a long post.
Here is my situation with girls. Please check it out and give me some advice:
- junior in h.s., really good looking, i have alot of confidence, not sa
-had a bunch of girls interested in me in the past, my inexperience screwed me over but i learned from my mistakes.
- switched schools alot, none of them had many girls, most of them have moved abroad
- my school now only has 5 girls in each grade (theyre all really ugly and sa and the few hot ones, i put the moves on them but they arent interested)
- ive been on 1 date, have made some intimate contact with a bunch of girls. (aka touching and hugging)
- i use every opportunity to talk and flirt with all girls and women of any age to gain practice. im good at flirting but not good at just on the spot normal convo with girls, my text game sucks.
- i feel like alot of convos. i have with girls are just full of flirting, nothing else (you get the picture)
- im not into the "party scene" im working hard to get into a good college first. in my free time though, i pursue my passions (construction, taekwondo, tennis).
- its easier for me to talk to college girls and women than h.s. cuz of the maturity level for me.
- i plan on going to a really large college for "obvious reasons" (though mostly for academic reasons)
you prob. get the basic picture, i dont know am i doing something wrong? what can i do to get more girls? i feel a real "disconnect" in my convos. with most girls i talk to.

I've been through so many life experiences and situations in my life i feel more mature than most kids my age. (i.e. alot of people tell me i have the vocabulary of someone 4 or 5 years older than me) please tell me what should i do differently to get more girls? the lack of girls in my life, and not getting laid is painful at times. srs answers only. also at times im not sure if i'll ever succeed at getting a gf in my life though im optimistic about the situation.
First off you have a lot of good things going for you. We are men and we tend to build things so getting through college will give you a good foundation. As for women their job is to cast webs around what we build. Hope that little imagery give you a different perspective. Just keep these three things in mind always have confidence/control which money can't buy(as in self control and self esteem), finally with women always be a challenge. Anything else you'd like cleared up?
 

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like i said, i have trouble reaching depth in my conversations with most any girls in my age range (15-17), and often even younger and older than that. any conversation tips? also btw i go out with girls and my guy friends every day for lunch and other stuff like that but a 1 on 1 date, i have trouble keeping the conversation flowing. also how can i keep trying to get to know the girl and the convo flowing (for an "end result") when i cant really establish/feel a connection between us at all and it doesn't seem as if she is attracted to me? this happens to me a bunch and im not sure what to do about that issue speciafically
 

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You efforts to provide us so nice and useful information are pretty good.
 

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gsj23421 said:
like i said, i have trouble reaching depth in my conversations with most any girls in my age range (15-17), and often even younger and older than that. any conversation tips? also btw i go out with girls and my guy friends every day for lunch and other stuff like that but a 1 on 1 date, i have trouble keeping the conversation flowing. also how can i keep trying to get to know the girl and the convo flowing (for an "end result") when i cant really establish/feel a connection between us at all and it doesn't seem as if she is attracted to me? this happens to me a bunch and im not sure what to do about that issue speciafically
In this situation based on your maturity level. What I can tell you is go for older girls. Women from 18-22 are little girls so there is little to be offered. What you can do is get some sort of part time dealing with customer service. That should give you some skills with not just dealing with women but all sorts of people.
 

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while i know practice is the key and even possibly the solution, i talk to alot of girls but have trouble bringing "meaning or depth" to at least part of at least 1 conversation i have with any given girl. in other words i have trouble creating a "pathway" to and reaching a convo. point further than the basic flirting with her or asking each other questions about each other. (getting her to open up to me and us conversing with each other rather than the usual me just conversing with her is the big problem here, when i talk to girls, i feel as though my convo. with them is really "shallow" and im usually the one doing all the talking. i dont really know what else to say or ask to a girl to help me progress in my conversations with any given girl). also maybe its just that i haven't really found the right girl yet since im not really interested in h.s. dating, but definitely want to ramp things up in college; as i have other priorities in my life at the moment. any advice or tips?
 

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gsj23421 said:
while i know practice is the key and even possibly the solution, i talk to alot of girls but have trouble bringing "meaning or depth" to at least part of at least 1 conversation i have with any given girl. in other words i have trouble creating a "pathway" to and reaching a convo. point further than the basic flirting with her or asking each other questions about each other. (getting her to open up to me and us conversing with each other rather than the usual me just conversing with her is the big problem here, when i talk to girls, i feel as though my convo. with them is really "shallow" and im usually the one doing all the talking. i dont really know what else to say or ask to a girl to help me progress in my conversations with any given girl). also maybe its just that i haven't really found the right girl yet since im not really interested in h.s. dating, but definitely want to ramp things up in college; as i have other priorities in my life at the moment. any advice or tips?
What you are decribing is something called rapport. Use the search feature to look for rapport. There's a good one by a guy called senior fingz. Check him out. Anything else let me know.
 

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vantagepoint said:
What you are decribing is something called rapport. Use the search feature to look for rapport. There's a good one by a guy called senior fingz. Check him out. Anything else let me know.
This is great ...!
 
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