What to do if she is unsure about her feelings ?

[DarKnight]

So I approached a girl about 3 months ago. We were texting meeting from time to time etc. One day she asked if I have a girlfriend. I said no. After that I felt that she is getting a bit distant. She flaked several dates. So I told her that I like her. I said I wanted to discuss this face to face. And asked if she wants to continue to meet or not. (I know it was a mistake)
She said she wants to meet. We met. Had an awesome date. At the end of the date she asked to wait till that evening to answer. That evening she said she really likes me too, but wants to get sure about her feelings. Because flirting etc is not for her. If she gets into relationship this is for serious. So I said ok. We were really close during that week. She was writing good morning every morning to me. Things like hug you, dear etc. But on the forth day of that week in the middle of conversation she said she does not want to continue anymore. I said "r u serious ?" what happened ? She said "I have been thinking about this a lot. I am not sure about my feelings. this is really dangerous. I said ok. She said She really appreciates me and thanked me for everything.

It all was yesterday. Today I want to talk to her. just a little conversation. First ask if she is sure about stopping everything. Second suggest her to stay acquaintances. And get to know each other better.

I have two questions:

1) Do I still got a chance with her now ? Is there possibility that she will make her mind and want to be together again ?

2) If I write to her now will I lose all chances I got with her ? (if I got any of course)

Actually if I got nothing to loose I would like to try at least.

 

[DreamAgain]

1. Never tell her you like her directly.

2. Do not contact her, you need to let her chase a bit.

3. It is not completely dead but if you show any more neediness it will be.

 

[The Duke]

This girl was uncertain about you from the start...she just lied to you and tried to convince herself you were what she wanted. I'm sorry this happened to you, but welcome to the world of women.

Here are some golden rules I always remind myself of:

1. A woman that is totally into you like she should be will leave no question in your mind about her interest level. She won't risk losing you either.
2. Judge women by their actions and you won't be fooled by their words.
3. Actions speak louder than words, As long as they are doing what you want you are good. Be careful listening to what they say.

Tell this girl that due to her recent actions you aren't so sure about her. She needs to convince you she is so great that you shouldn't be looking for other girls. Walk away. Don't contact her. Go find other girls.

 

[bigneil]

It means she is certain she has no feelings for you.

 

[bigneil]

OP lost her at r u.

 

[DarKnight]

It means she is certain she has no feelings for you.

I really don't understand why wouldn't she just say it directly.

OP lost her at r u.

you mean at "r u serios ?" ? I mean what's wrong with that phrase ?

 

[MrJack]

you mean at "r u serios ?" ? I mean what's wrong with that phrase ?

Lol whats wrong is the fact that you said "r u" instead of "Are you" makes you come off ghetto lulz.

But pertaining to your situation.. go no contact at this point and let her chase but don't count on it so you're not disappointed when she doesn't. Focus on dating other girls. Once you have abundance you won't care about this one girl hitting you back up.

 

[Dash Riprock]

1. Never tell her you like her directly.

2. Do not contact her, you need to let her chase a bit.

3. It is not completely dead but if you show any more neediness it will be.

Exactly. Go NC and date other women. If she comes back play it very very cool. DO NOT project your feelings no matter what.

 

[bigneil]

I really don't understand why wouldn't she just say it directly.


you mean at "r u serios ?" ? I mean what's wrong with that phrase ?

I advise typing the extra four letters so she knows you can type and aren't texting from an Obamaphone.

 

[TheGambino]

Low interest, be indifferent, don't give her anything about that. OR a big sh1t test because you f8cked up somewhere or she likes another guy too. Probably that you told her you like her, this only works with women that feel they are under your value, that you are the catch and that are HIGHLY interested. Most women will become distant when you show her feelings without even f8cking her.

My number 3 plate last week after cex.

HB7 plate: ''I was dating a guy, we made out twice and dated twice. He told me he really liked me and want me as his gf after only 3 weeks. That was so weird. We are done, I lost feelings for him''

Don't show her your being affected by her being unsure. Just say ok, change subjects about something else and stay confident. Show her your masculine, your a man in this case. If she tells you in person, go about your business, change subjects to something funny instead and go along with escalating to making out, kino and having fun. If she shuts you down, grab her hand and be silent and end the date after a drink or two casually, kiss her cheeck and bail.

Then end the date and go NC. Don't be butthurt, don't act patethic, don't be mad, just don't give her ANYTHING at all. And her hamster will spin like a maniac. She would be attracted to you being indifferent about what she feels.

GO NC and let her reach out, at that point set up a date again and act like nothing happened, focus on escalating again. If she shuts you down or anything NO CONTACT.

This above is what you have to do, Ive been in that situation countless times and it always ended in her chasing me.

I should charge money for this golden advice above because it worked in almost all of my cases.

We and you don't give a sheit about her texting you good morning or everyday or whatever the f8ck she texts, its about getting together, making out and putting you rhands in her panties. Focus on that, if she gives you a hard time to do that, GO NC. Read the bible.

 

[TheGambino]

Exactly. Go NC and date other women. If she comes back play it very very cool. DO NOT project your feelings no matter what.

This is it, GOLD, straight GOLD..

I know talk is easy... But I always do this.

I f8cked up last week being drunk in bed with my ex and saying stupid sh1t but mainly 95% of the times I wouldnt give her a inch. (ye my d1ck but no feeling talk, thats women, we are man. We are on this planet for the big things, let them worry about feelings)

 

[TheGambino]

It means she is certain she has no feelings for you.

Ignorant. You can win this case by being indifferent like I said but the question is, do you want that? I would chase other women instead but you could follow my advice and keep HER in YOUR orbit. Not the other way around.

 

[bigneil]

Ignorant. You can win this case by being indifferent like I said but the question is, do you want that? I would chase other women instead but you could follow my advice and keep HER in YOUR orbit. Not the other way around.

I was quoting Louis and Copeland from 2000. The dating bible.

Any photos of you with that HB100 girl?

Photofeeler changed their rating system to prorate by age (I estimated her age to be 30). She is now the #1 rated girl in my queue, still rated 100 (my girl dropped from 99 to 98 (meaning hotter than 98% of 21 year old women).

 

[TheGambino]

Vids on snapchat together, Im not sure how to upload it. I tried but i got a hard time. Tried to google Video to url converter? any tips?

 

[bigneil]

What is her age?

 

[TheGambino]

Vids on snapchat together, Im not sure how to upload it. I tried but i got a hard time. Tried to google Video to url converter? any tips?

She is 24, im heading to the gym Neil, you should too, tonight theres a great party in a local club. Expect a MINDF8CKING field rappporrttttttt

 

[The Duke]

I really don't understand why wouldn't she just say it directly.

Because women roll thru life worried about others feeling and what they think. She feels that it is best to lie to you instead of hurt you with the truth. It also prevents you from getting pissed when she tells you something you don't want to here. The last 2 girls I dated both told me "I will always love you". I haven't heard from the first one since she dumped me back in January. So much for always loving me! She didn't even bother to send me a text on my birthday.

You can't take what they say serious. The majority of it is emotional bs.

Do you think such a creature that wears make-up everyday, makes her boobs look better with push up bra's, uses volume-izing hair products, wears high heels to make her look taller, etc is about being honest and straight forward? NO, they will create an "illusion" and mislead you every time.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

It means she is certain she has no feelings for you.

Good translation. You DO have an opportunity to create feelings. Distance from her and spend more time with plates or make new plates. Her feeling will come from losing the certainty of your interest and knowing your desired.

 

[sph21]

She flaked several dates.

Clearly you haven't read DJ Bible. Lesson 3 from Pook: “Judge by actions, not by words.” Flaking without rescheduling from her side is a very good sign that she has a very low-interest level in you.

So I told her that I like her.

Never tell her that you like her FIRST! It will kill mystery & challenge. Women LOVE mystery & challenge. You were too easy to get.

I said I wanted to discuss this face to face. And asked if she wants to continue to meet or not. (I know it was a mistake)

It was. You scared her.

She said she wants to meet. We met. Had an awesome date. At the end of the date she asked to wait till that evening to answer. That evening she said she really likes me too, but wants to get sure about her feelings.

This phenomenon is pretty common if a girl has no attraction in you. She was not unsure about her feelings. She was unsure about how to reject you politely.

Because flirting etc is not for her. If she gets into relationship this is for serious. So I said ok. We were really close during that week. She was writing good morning every morning to me. Things like hug you, dear etc. But on the forth day of that week in the middle of conversation she said she does not want to continue anymore. I said "r u serious ?" what happened ? She said "I have been thinking about this a lot. I am not sure about my feelings. this is really dangerous. I said ok. She said She really appreciates me and thanked me for everything.

You see... She then rejected you politely. "flirting etc is not for her" is bullsh!t. Again, always “Judge by actions, not by words.”

It all was yesterday. Today I want to talk to her. just a little conversation. First ask if she is sure about stopping everything. Second suggest her to stay acquaintances. And get to know each other better.

Women speak a different language than us. You still hasn't understood what she was trying to say by telling you indirectly. If you keep doing this (by annoying her more) she will ultimately tell you directly some harsh words so that you will understand what she said to you. Remember that “Rejection is better than Regret”. Pook's fist lesson.

And get to know each other better.

No... no... no... You must remember: "Friendship- Abandon all hope ye who enter!" (lesson 2 from Pook). You are too desperate to let her go and the only logical thing you can come up right now is to win her by becoming her friend first.

My guess is, you were giving her too much of your time & attentions. You invested in her too much and now you want that investment to be a good investment. You didn't use you time & attentions wisely. It was a bad investment. Let it go.

This might not sound logical to us, men, but a girl's mission is to find love. Once she knows that you love her with all your heart and soul, her mission is over. You have no use for her anymore.

About a month ago, a girl asked me:
Girl: "In percentage, how much do you love me?"
Me: "Well, you do love putting everything in percentage, don't you?" She was sabotaging our relationship unknowingly and I had to do something so that the spark still remain in her heart. "I won't tell you that, but I'll tell you what I do love about you."
Girl: "Okay"

And then I told her 3 things I love about her and it was more than enough for her. What she wanted in the first place was not the certainty of how much I love her but she just wanted to feel my love. I did it by praising her. Praising can be a risky action if you don't know what you're doing.

“The masculine grows by challenge, but the feminine grows by praise. A man must be unabashed and expressed in his appreciation for his woman. Praise her freely.”
— David Deida​

DarKnight, you still have much to learn. Start learning from DJ Bible is a wise choice.