PlayHer Man said:
Well the entire point of NC is to shift the power back into your hands. It allows you to get to the bottom of things and learn the TRUTH about her. The harder she chases you the more invested she is/was.
Once you have succeeded with NC the next step is to continue the relationship strictly on YOUR TERMS. You will simply live as you please and let her come along for the ride. If she can't accept your terms.. there's the door.
Any women you're using NC on has already "blown it" with you and can never be fully trusted again. If she was right for you, then you wouldn't need to use NC. So the only real point is power/revenge to allow you to use/bang her on your own terms and throw her away like trash later.
Never totally take back a woman after NC.
There may be exceptions to this rule, but for the most part I sadly agree with this. My last NC went exactly according to this script. At the end of the day she was still unsuitable for me and I ended up letting her go. Only after she acted a bit off did I just let the cat out of the bag to ensure maximum emotional damage.
The other girl I was seeing, I never had to go NC on and we're still together.
At the end of the day I was curious to see what would come of girl #1, but ultimately I knew I needed to get the goods and then bounce because of her attitude.
Like what was already said, if you have to go NC on someone there is very little chance she will EVER be right for you in the long run.