What to do about....?

[Kidd]

My "friends"?

I use to be in a group of friends. After a while, I was seen as the weak kid by the group and started getting messed with. Even when I did something back, they would still keep messing with me even more. Aside from physical violence there was nothing I could do. One of them, E, would go out of his way to try to piss me off as much as possible. He made it clear to me that he had no respect for me.

They would make me do all this sh1t for them, and then made me look like the bad guy when I didnt, because I did not want to be their b1tch.

After a while, I got sick of their sh1t and left the group. I just stopped hanging out with them, stopped picking up their calls completely. They still tried to call me and ask to hang out.

Now, after about 6 months of not talking to them, I chilled with a few of them. At first, it was pretty chill, but after a while I started to notice that E, the same guy that was ****ing with me the most, started doing the same sh1t, trying to test me for weaknesses and trying to talk smack to piss me off. This time around, though, I spun all his **** back on him and not let him affect me.

I need a solution to this. I can either keep ignoring them and not hang out with them, but that's not really what I want to do. Since 6 months have passed, I have been lifting hard and got bigger, stronger and way more confident. If we hang out again and E tries to push me, Im afraid that I might snap and hurt him. This guy E use to be stronger than me, but I think now he is no longer.

In a way, I want to let this go and wipe these "friends" clear out of my life. But another part of me wants to regain back my honor with some old-fashion street justice.

Any comments on what I should do?

 

[S.Y.L]

Make yourself look better than them. Step up and be alpha, beak them when you can, and fight em, if you can fight

 

[Analyzeit]

To be honest i've always been an Alpha male and haven't personally experience anything like your situation, but i've always thought (don't want to blow my own trumpet haha) That i've understanded male groups very well, too well that it affected how i acted with girls and so i ended up on this website.

Chances are, you might agree with me might not i don't know your full situation with this but this E guy he actually does hate you OBVIOUSLY, but the other guys don't but this E would of gone behind your back and said stuff to your other mates like "That kidd guys a bit of a d!ck" and then the other guys woulda just been like "okay" "maybe" something along those lines and then E hearing the other guys say "okay" or '"maybe" which they most likely said just to please E and then E knowing this decided to take advantage of you as one would that is trying to get you to leave the group and then the other guys have seen this and maybe tooken advantage of you once or twice and that mostly all your fault for not telling E to go fvck himself in the first place. As you said they still called to ask you to hang out and stuff which shows that they do still want to hang out with you just E doesn't, and i didn't have to say this because you probably know all this but i'm quite bored right now haha

You don't need to fight, i'm alpha and have never fought (for my own position that is)

My Advice would not be to deal any street justice no point, okay he will stop fvcking you about but i hate fights they just fvck you around alot.

Hang out with those guys if they alright and just ignore E maybe if you get closer to one of them you can ask them whats up with E and they'll probably tell you if they like you better.

As S.Y.L said be better then him be the bigger man if you ignore E you'll look better and make E look like a total D!ckhead in these situations if you do this you'll come out looking better very very quickly, but if this E d!ck keeps getting up at you and even picks a fight waste the cvnt and show him whose boss.

I don't believe in resulting violence but some guys need to be taught a lesson, I know some of you older guys won't and will agree with me but highschool is the place you get these lessons and learn from em

 

[War Against Betaism]

A lot of people are afraid of confrontation because they all think they'll end in fights, that's why they don't stand up for themselves. I used to think like this and never stood up for myself, now I changed that though and the more I stood up for myself, the more respect I got.

Life is a constant battle of status. People are always giving you tests to see if they are better than you or vice versa. These sh1t tests that women give to men are also given between men to see who is the superior male. You're always going to be facing these battles, but remember people don't do this because they want to fight with you, but to see where their status lies and where yours lies as well.

The simple solution? Call him out on it. You don't have to necessarily turn it into a serious matter. When he does something that bothers you, just say something like "Hey man don't do that sh1t, it's kind of annoying." Hey, it's the truth! It does bother you, you have every right to stand up for yourself!

If he's really being unfair, then the group will catch on to this and it is do or die; are they for you or against you? If they stand up for you, then it means they're great friends to keep around. If they don't stand up for you and back up E instead, then it doesn't matter how much logic you try to put through those friends; they'll have a clear bias against you and the answer would be obvious; leave them.