What the **** is wrong with me?

[The Brufri]

Im a 22 years old guy and have never had much success with women. I was told by many people that im ugly. I was also told by many people that i have a strange face, but i was also told by many girls that i am cute. When I look in the mirror I see a mixture of all that.

Looks means a lot to me, since my self confidence was destroyed years ago in school. People used to make fun of me, like i was some sorta of geek. Girls would never talk to me since i was very shy, had low self-esteen and was an ugly guy. I have NEVER flirted with a girl until i was 18 years old. Since then i became an AFC and started doing some cold approches whenever i would hit clubs. Through these 4 years of sarge i must have been rejected a thousand times and must have kissed around 70 girls... On the other hand, i only had sex with 2 of them. They were the only girlfriends i had. I had other opportunities but it just didnt work out, i made too many mistakes, AFC moves.

Im 6'2 tall and have a fairly athletic body worked out in gym. I have found a great hairstyle. I know know to dress well and impress others whenever i go out. The problem is: i feel my life is passing through my back and im not enjoying it at all. I see the most part of my friends ****ing girls in a regular basis and all i do is stare and imagine i was the one.

I discovered fast seduction, sosuave and read lots of books in the last two months and it indeed has helped me a lot because im naturally a funny and smooth talk guy and have pulled many chicks doing this. But im shy also and my biggest problem...i dont have the right self confidence. Im trying to rebuild it in the last months. But as much as I hate to say it, self confidence does not come from results, but self confidence comes from how you feel about your self, how you feel about your LOOKS in my case. Sometimes i look in the mirror and say " man i look like ****" and just stay at home because i know i wont be able to get into the right vibe for the sarge. Other times i feel like im the best looking man and approach loads of girls without caring about rejection. Still, i go for the average looking girls (HB5-HB7).

All I want is to be able to turn the table and be in control of the cards. I want people to feel great by my side, i want to be admired and I want girls to feel deeply attracted by me. I need to change. There is so much power inside me just waiting to be released, but its getting late. Im not happy at all, but trying hard.
If anyone there is in the same boat, i know how you feel.

All I have to say is SELF CONFIDENCE is the primarily key for the sarge. Forget all these techniques, routines, stories. At first, build your confidence and then you can think about the game.

First post, thank you!

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by The Brufri
All I want is to be able to turn the table and be in control of the cards. I want people to feel great by my side, i want to be admired and I want girls to feel deeply attracted by me.

You can't make other people think you're great. They're going to think what they want. But you can BE great. And then it doesn't really matter WHAT they think.

 

[Big Pappy]

Getting late? Nonsense! It's never too late.
Confidence will come from you personal accomplishments, not from how you look. Who cares what you look like? The only reason people look at your face is so that they can recognize you the next time they see you.

Continue to dress well, remember to smile. Most have no idea how much a smile improves a face!

Forget about chicks for awhile. Find the things that you enjoy doing. Figure out if you're the guy that does Karate or the guy that washes his car 3 times a week. Every great guy ought to have something that people identify him with besides his face.

Hang out with the guys. Flirt with their chicks right in front of them. Gauge their responses.

Never admit to yourself that you're ugly. It's just not true. God doesn't make ugly people. You look the way you do because if you looked like Brad Pitt, none of us would get any action. You'd be getting it all. So, Big Pappy says, "Quit yer belly-achin'! Go out and live for yourself."

Don't seek validation for yourself from others. This comes from within - after you achieve personal goals.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Your value and self worth and thus confidence must come from other factors that make you a man besides your face! If your worth to others is purely based on the physical then you are letting others have power over you and you diminish yourself as a person. Women don't solely base a man's attractiveness on looks alone...keep company with woman who are open to accepting your other masculine qualities that are beyond your face!

 

[NewMan]

All I want is to be able to turn the table and be in control of the cards. I want people to feel great by my side, i want to be admired and I want girls to feel deeply attracted by me. I need to change. There is so much power inside me just waiting to be released, but its getting late. Im not happy at all, but trying hard.
If anyone there is in the same boat, i know how you feel.

*************

Wouldn't that be nice?

Look every guy wants the ladies to feel great by their side.

Every guy feels like you - and has days where things just feel fantastic and some days where things feel like sh#t.

What seperates the men from the boys - is the fact that even when things feel like sh#t - you can put that shirt on, slip those shoes on, style your hair - then hit the bars or clubs and meet people. Because trust me, you will have in the future more difficult things you will need to overcome in this life. Your only just starting on the road - but it's how you act and deal with these things that make you the MAN.

One other thing.

You need to realise that not ever chick will be attracted to you. Some will, some will not - just a fact of life.

Your attitude is all important.

Don't you think every girl want's all the guys fall for them? but it doesn't work that way - and neither will it for you.

Keep doing what your doing. dress well, work out (and use your size and height to your advantage).

Believe me, taller guys have it easier with women.

I went through my younger days *****ing and moaning because I was not tall - that helped not one bit.

The only thing that helped was realising that I couldn't do a thing about my height - so I have to use what other tallents I have.

I was soon landing chicks left and right.

Again, It's all about your attitude.

 

[smooth666]

WTF are you complaining about ?

WTF are you complaining about ?

You approach chicks, kiss a lot of them and you had 2 GF!
It is not late!
You are just F****ing 22 years old,man!

Make long term plans for your life,write them down and try everything to achieve them! Do you really want to **** 100 chicks(80 of them might be horrible in bed) or do you want a great LTR with a partner? I have four friends who have a HB8-9 as a GF for 6-8 years now and f*** they are far more happy and mature than some other friends who have ONS once in a while.

Do not worry about your looks!!!!!
You are not ugly,if 70 chicks wanted to kiss you(unless they were lethally intoxicated...).
My face is not beautiful either,but I learned,it ALL depends on your charisma and charme. Do not avoid HBs8-10,because if you do, you might subconsciously express low self esteem and women (HB1-7) will feel this.
Sure, if you look like Brat Pitt you will have women chasing you,but you will get laid even if you do not!

 

[Don Juanabbe]

The Brufri - man, I wish I had your balls. I know I'm a pretty good looking guy - I know because I see females heads turn when I walk by, and alot of women and friends have remarked that I'm a good looking guy.

My problem is and always was shyness and confidence. It might be great for the 'mystery' aspect of it all, but I've been trying to overcome it desperately. Sometimes I get blatant female attention and it makes me uncomfortable. I always hated too much attention because my parents constantly lavished it on me - constant praise at any little thing I did, always in front of other people - and it made me very uncomfortable at a young age. They almost built me up too much as a kid. I hated being centred out. I just wanted to be a kid - not pushed to excel at school so much, not pushed into taking piano lessons religiously. Not have them constantly point out how "great" I was at everything, even if I wasn't that great. It had the opposite effect. I never got to play alot of team sports that are so important. I was always pushed academically, and never learned to properly socialise. Other kids would hate me because I was good at school, and in hindsight, probably because of the way I looked. I got bullied.

All my life I was constantly made fun of for my features - my jaw and chin. I have a very defined jawline, even as a kid I had it. It wasn't until my later 20's that I discovered how much the ladies love it. I was constantly teased about my chin. Christ, if they wanted to cast for the movie Dudley Do-right, I'd have got the part solely on my chin, not to mention I'm a Canuck, so the accent would've been perfect. About a month ago, some broad in a bar that was sitting with a friend, pulled me aside to compliment me on what an amazing jaw/face I had. Guess what? Chump numero uno got all self conscious and bolted. Imagine that eh? I was the cute little blonde baby - the baby of the family, and I got so much attention it wasn't funny, and it always made me awkward - singled out. I can almost understand why women hate being overcomplimented.

I won't even go into the amount of attention I get from the ****in fags in the street or in the subway. That's just disturbing.

Don't feel bad about yourself. You have the balls that sometimes I fear I may never have. Really, I envy you. I wish I could approach tonnes of women and get rejected like that. At least I wouldn't get so down about myself on my 'off' days. Sure, I talk to women, but I need a serious amount of comfort zone. I've blown countless opportunities because of a serious lack of balls, and always worrying what other people thought of me. What I have in looks, I seriously lack in attitude. So count your blessings.

Keep going to the gym, and keep up that confidence man. Believe me, you got something I am forever struggling to achieve.

Good luck.

 

[easyjim]

If you feel great about being you, girls will feel great being at your side.

To do this, you gotta forget about relationships with all others for awhile and work on the one you have with yourself.

 

[The Brufri]

Thanks for the replies...

What´s happening with me is a ****ing contradiction. When Im very well dressed & groomed for the sargenights I feel great and my confidence is high to the level of being able to go out alone and approach lots of average/good looking girls. Sometimes I get EC. Sometimes I go out alone cause my friends are currently out of money, hooked up with one-itis or are out of the vibe BAFC´S.

When Im ordinary dressed (during the day/college), my confidence goes down and I just become a shy, introspective person and I also dont notice girls looking at me. I feel totally out of the vibe and game.

I would rate myself a 5.5 when ordinary dressed and possibly a 7 when well dressed.

When I say I feel my life is slipping through my hands, its because I seem to be stuck with the same poor results every year. Every year I promisse my self it will be different, i will get tons of ***** but no! I always end up wrong.

When you talk about attitude you are right. I dont have the right attitude normally. After reading all these amazing information about seduction I became avid to use it all in the field but I just get in the vibe when Im confident.

LOOKS > CONFIDENCE > ATTITUDE > RESULTS > EVEN MORE CONFIDENCE

Smooth, yes...i want to **** 100 women, thats my plan. I want to become a PUA someday.

Don Juanabble man, I envy you man. You need balls & I need looks, together we can make it! LOL

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Dude, I got ****. Looks don't mean a bloody thing. I'd rather have more of your guts and less of my looks. Yeah, I get noticed easier. I even score solely based on that, but not as often as I'd like. Not often at all. The only thing looks gets me is frustrated, as I get to deal with more crazed wenches that seem to always have ******* boyfriends. I just don't get it. Maybe I'm more comfortable with chicks that have boyfriends and I act more natural or something. I swear half of these tarts play games just to boost their own egos, and with my lack of game, I get stuck in it even more. At least now I know when to walk away. I still have a lot to learn and a lot to practice. I'm progressing very slowly.