what the hell!!!

[That_Guy49]

How come all the males around me seem to have girls initiating conversations with them and I talk and approach a bunch of chicks, but few actually will say hi to me from across the room, or will start a conversation with me. What the f*ck do I not have that they do?

 

[assassin]

I'm assuming this is at school. You probably just haven't built up a big enough DJ reputation with the chicks yet. Just keep being the DJ you are and give it time.

 

[hardwork]

Originally posted by assassin
I'm assuming this is at school. You probably just haven't built up a big enough DJ reputation with the chicks yet. Just keep being the DJ you are and give it time.

That, and girls can smell attitudes like yours, That_Guy49, from a mile away. Even if you don't realize you're doing it, having a mindset like "What do I not have that they do" makes your body language tell girls, "I am easily frustrated and I get down on myself quickly."

Relax a bit more, work on your street cred. It'll come to you if you let it.

 

[big_jeffry]

ya, remember, you are the prize. but keep dj'ing

 

[wootapotky]

That, and girls can smell attitudes like yours, That_Guy49, from a mile away. Even if you don't realize you're doing it, having a mindset like "What do I not have that they do" makes your body language tell girls, "I am easily frustrated and I get down on myself quickly."

Not necessarily true. I've had that attitude before and still had girls talk to me without me initiating anything. It doesn't happen all the time, but I still get HB7-9's initiating conversation sometimes. Only problem is I didn't do anything about it. Maybe you should try initiating conversation in the classroom, you have nothing to lose everything to gain. Also, I've noticed, many girls won't start saying hi to you even if they were the ones to initiate the conversation until you say Hi to them first. They will afterwards though.

 

[Sterling the Runner]

I wear sunglasses the kind where no one can see your eyes and i have had more girls initiate conversations with just because of the glasses. they "those are awsome glases" and start talking to them. Also it gives off an aura of mystery. After a decent amount of conversation i take them off and make good eye contact. this shows that you trust them and are comftorble around them which will have the same effect on them.

 

[Porky]

Attitude is part of it. Wake up everyday feeling like it's the best day of your life. Think of all of the new people you meet and the conversations you'll have.

 

[MarcP]

Yeah everyones right attitude is the differance. You really have to not care. Its funny cause alot of these posts are about caring what others think like in this one you're wondering why people don't initiate conversation with you. That is giving a **** which is not a DJ thing to do stop analysing why and what is/is not happening and focus on getting to be a real DJ.

 

[hardwork]

Originally posted by wootapotky
Not necessarily true. I've had that attitude before and still had girls talk to me without me initiating anything. It doesn't happen all the time, but I still get HB7-9's initiating conversation sometimes. Only problem is I didn't do anything about it.

I had the same experience, too, but those "HB7-9s" are generally the outgoing, peppy type who talk to everyone anyway (my girlfriend's one of them).

Sure, he could sally forth with his current, piss-poor attitude, by why waste time banking on, "Okay, statistically speaking, one of these girls is bound to talk to me some day" when he could change his approach to things just a little and drastically up his chances of conversing well?