what the hell does she want??

[bayoujohn03]

I hooked up about 5 months ago with this chick that i knew from long ago, kinda childhood friends. I'm 33 shes 25. We were intimate a few times in the course of the first month she came over to my house. She told me she didnt want a relationship yet and that we both should be dating other people as well. Bout a month and half later I find out she just started a serious relatiohship. Of course when i confront her bout it she tells me that it wont work out between us and we can be freinds. However , after i make it clear that I'm not worried bout her being with another guy , we go back to our usual talkin on phone and texting. We've only hooked up maybe twice since then but shes always talking dirty to me on phone and sending me naked pics. And I always know when shes with her bf cause I wont hear from her for a couple days , usual fri night til sun, and sure enough sunday night shes text/calling me and talkin dirty again and wanting to hang out. Thing is she talks more bout hanging out than we actually do cause shes flakey. Anyway I just wonder why she keeps coming back to me when he's not around if she claims to LOVE him so much?? theres soooooo much more to this story so I know its difficult to understand , but i just dont know what she wants from me. I've even stopped being extremely nice to her and she always comes back to me. I know for a fact she did have a giant crush on me when she was a teen so i dont know if thats matters or not. someone please help!!!

 

[youngmack]

Two words : "Attention Wh0re"..... Shes just looking for some attention shes bored and is stringing you along. You have to forget about this broad and go spin some other plates. If you wish to continue to mess with her,DONT catch any feelings. Make moves to try to fvck her and that's it....Nothing more nothing less...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Exactly what the others already said.

Your listening to her WORDS, which you should know don't mean jack shiat, instead of watching her actions.

In other words, your the BACK-UP; the #2, hell maybe even the #3 pitcher in her rotation.

If anything you should be HAPPY that she didn't try to bf you because clearly she was giving you the respect of saying "this dude isn't a chump and he won't be okay with me being with him in a LTR, while I phuck other dudes on the side."

But she found a chump who is!

Separate yourself from her if you have feelings (which I think you do whether you admit it or not) and find other girls.

If you can come back to her and not get attached, then you have a nice little play thing, but she can NEVER be anything more than that, unless you don't respect yourself and want to be the next chump in line.







PIMP

 

[nismo-4]

It's easy for Judge nismo to understand.

I facepalmed myself. I can't believe you're chasing this girl.

After your princess TOLD you she's in another castle! Why are you gonna chase this girl all the way to beyond World 8-4?! While you're in the friendzone? Pathetic.

When a woman says she has a boyfriend, act unfazed and cut your losses.

You have been found guilty of feeding an attention wh0re, failure to move on, catching feelings, living in the past, and failure to understand why she's stringing you along. You will be promptly flown from Friendzone, Georgia to Unwanted Wood, Alabama.

Spinning more plates is the best thing that is for you.

Case closed.

 

[bayoujohn03]

thanks for all the help. I was pretty sure thats shes a attention *****, just didnt wanna believe it I guess. I did have feelings for her but they are slowly goinhg out the door. lot of my friends say I should keep her around just for some booty. I gotta stop being so nice to her and treat her like the slut she is. thanks everyone!!

 

[floydb25]

You're a back-up plan, ego boost, person she comes to when she's bored (possibly to dump her problems onto), etc. Bad news. Don't stick around, and get played like this.

Whenever a girl says she's not looking for a relationship; she just wants to be friends; you should date other people; etc - get out immediately. Don't think its all one big test to see how genuine you are. Don't think you are special, either. She can have a crush on you, and still pull this crap. Don't believe there is potential there based on her flirtacious actions.

Remember that interest can be lost at any time, for any reason. Don't assume that its in the bag because she had the hots for you at one point. If she rejects you and dates others - thats all the evidence you need. She is NOT keeping you around because she sees so much potential in you, and blah blah. It's incase things fall through with someone else. You are her fall-back guy. She will keep the hope alive to keep you interested - without ever getting involved with you. Once things go south with her current interest - she'll come straight your way... Until she finds someone else.

Again, she can be sexually interested in you, fool around with you, have sex with you, and still not get involved with you. This is especially true of good-looking women.

Her interest is low; you have all the evidence in front of you. Respect yourself, shrug it off, don't take it personally, and find others. Don't get caught up in this BS.

 

[evan12]

She will keep the hope alive to keep you interested - without ever getting involved with you

correct

 

[floydb25]

It also sounds like you're familiar terrority; someone she's comfortable with, and has known for some time. This doesn't ignite sparks or passion, or the feeling of something new and exciting. So, she can be physically attracted to you, but not have any romantic feelings for you. This is why good looking nice guys can fail, as well. No action, excitement, mystery, challenge, etc.

There is no reason for you to be confused. She says no relationship; just friends; date others; she found someone else; and claims to love him. What is there to be confused about? You don't need to know anything else. You're in the friend zone, as they call it. She flakes because she's not interested.

It sounds like you might have a **** on your hands. She's teasing you and stringing you along, and probably isn't even a good friend. Stop focusing on her. She doesn't care about you.

 

[whosthat]

attention

 

[JohnChops]

wow this ***** is a huge attention *****.

 

[yuppaz]

Omfg -some of these responses. She's not an attention whote she just liles to ****.....so good deal, just **** her and **** other girls. Def don't date this one though