What the hell did I do wrong?

[mrgoodstuff]

No, asking for money from a man that you're not in a relationship with is crossing the line. This is a red flag to me, especially with her mom involved in it. You stay away from women like this, they're either horrible with money or evil.

Its bad business. But once she sees he wont fall for it she can leave him alone.

 

[devilkingx2]

What I can’t figure out is what did I ever do to make her think she could ask such a favor? How the hell did buying a couple shirts and paying for an oil change equate to “oh I’ll ask Robert for $200 for my moms rent even though I haven’t spoken to him in almost a year?”. I’m sure I had some “nice guy” moments when we dated but nothing over the top. I’m siting here thinking “damn I can’t even be my normal self cause it’ll get taken wrong by some woman”. Makes me want to go monk lol

If she actually needs the money and is desperate I don't think you should take offense to her merely asking you. (Nor do I think you should do it lmao. Not unless they'll be homeless tomorrow)

 

[Julian]

Why are you dating females in poverty? Thats the major sign right there of your personal lack of confidence and ineptitude. The fact you even gave her broke ass the time of day let alone spent $ on her and dated her shows you are at their level. Lower vibrationals.

You should be dating chicks with $ either self made or generational. Either way..stay in your tax bracket my guy.

 

[RickTheToad]

My ex girlfriend text me out of the blue yesterday asking if her mom could borrow $200 for rent. The fvck? So many problems with this but the biggest one is I keep asking myself “where did I go wrong for her to think I’d say yes?”. I know I was considered a “nice guy” but she never would say “nice” she’d always say “you’re an amazing guy!” so not really the traditional “nice guy” meaning....I guess. I broke up with her because it wasn’t going anywhere and I just didn’t see a future with her. Yeah coulda made her a plate but then I’m right back to this money thing. I never let her borrow money BUT she knows I’m well off and I did buy her stuff when we were together (not expensive ****, just like t-shirts when we’d go somewhere or I paid $40 for her oil change one time). Still though, I can’t help but think why she’d reach out to me about this. I feel like a cuck, I mean I said no but the fact that she asked makes me feel stupid.

What made it more awkward is her mom text me about it too so at least I know it was legit going to be rent money and not some ba madeup story. Her mom thought I hung the moon though and she wants her daughter to be with me.....because I’m well off but she never admitted the reason even though I know what it is.

What’s funny is she started the convo like she was catching up on me and then here it came “I have a huge favor to ask you. God I hate asking, you know how much I hate asking”. She claims other people have held **** over her head in the past when she asked for favors and I guess I did feel sort of a soft spot for that. Still though, $200 for your MOM and I haven’t seen you or spoken to you since last year?? So weird. Dating in 2019, man, no wonder men have so many dating issues these days.

The more important question is why did you even respond?

 

[devilkingx2]

Why are you dating females in poverty? Thats the major sign right there of your personal lack of confidence and ineptitude. The fact you even gave her broke ass the time of day let alone spent $ on her and dated her shows you are at their level. Lower vibrationals.

You should be dating chicks with $ either self made or generational. Either way..stay in your tax bracket my guy.

More money = more busy (unless she doesn't actually work for her money). Who wants a girlfriend they see once a week?

 

[Julian]

More money = more busy (unless she doesn't actually work for her money). Who wants a girlfriend they see once a week?

Thats cope right there and a huge misleading assumption on your part.
Broke chicks work alot of hours too, they just get paid less. The level of how busy and if they spend time with you is individually determined by their interest level.

 

[backseatjuan]

@Robert28 Women need two things from men, financial stability, and lack of emotional attachment. So let's say she falls in love with you and you pull back and she keeps chasing your validation and you are financially stable, you got her by her tits, she's in love with you and ready to nest. This is going places actually. You said your relationship wasn't going nowhere, that means either you were not financially stable enough for her, or you showed emotional weakness or as she perceived it to be that way.

However, most likely she did not have feelings for you, since she thought she could do better, and you pushed for relationship. She saw nice guy in you and used you as a provider.

Now you dumped her... Great, she needs now needs to validate several things so that she don't feel damaged. Since dumping her ass is the opposite of emotional weakness, she needs to validate your financial stability.

Anyway, your ex does not know what she wants, which is same as knowing she can do better. I'm sure you're not dumb enough to give her money, she won't be giving it back just for the turmoil she could have from it. Tell her though, your new girlfriend might not like that and send her picture of you and a chick with the biggest titties you have in your rotation, so that she sees you can do better than her. It will destroy her, she might even cry.

 

[devilkingx2]

Thats cope right there and a huge misleading assumption on your part.
Broke chicks work alot of hours too, they just get paid less. The level of how busy and if they spend time with you is individually determined by their interest level.

I suppose it depends on the situation, if she's so broke she has to work 60 hours at the supermarket to pay rent then I can see what you're saying. But I'd say that I'd rather date the wonan with more free time than less regardless of her job.

If she can make a lot of money without spending too much time at work that's perfect but I'd rather date a part-time anything than a doctor or lawyer or someone who has her own business.

 

[Poonani Maker]

You give her the $200 guaranteed she'd ask for more later on slam dunk. I'd say, "Hey, that would cost me 6 hours to make that kinda quid back, eh? Hello?"

 

[Robert28]

I guess the weird part is her asking for her mom first and then her mom texting me. Her asking me would be one thing (still wouldn’t give it to her) but it’s just weird the whole thing asking FOR her mom. I wonder how that convo between the two went prior to her texting me?lol

 

[Glassguy]

I think its really unfathomable for her to even ask you this. Like you're her personal ATM.

Not sure that I would even respond to such a request from an ex.

It just goes to show how selfish and self delusional some women can be.

 

[Glassguy]

Maybe the proper response would be "$1 a BJ.....if your mom wants to jump in and help we will call it $1.50 a BJ. I will pay as we go".

 

[RangerMIke]

When you have money this will happen to you frequently. Learn to say no even if they say they want to borrow it. This sh!t happens to me all the time. Just tell them you don't give or loan money to friends, period.... and friends will not ask for money.

 

[dude99]

Well I think the main thing is her and her mom are not well off at all. Which is weird cause her mom is a nurse and she works at a gym, but they never seem to have money. I don’t flaunt that I’m upper middle class BUT they both know I went to private school, graduated college, they know I own a business that does well and they know I have a 2 story house that’s paid for and I drive a 2018 truck.

I never did the expensive dinners or expensive weekend vacations or threw my money around like water when we dated. It took me awhile to figure out that she saw me as a financial provider even though I never paid a single bill or let her borrow money when we dated. Like I said, it was harmless stuff like shirts when we went to a concert or the beach and we were in a shop. The oil change I paid for because I drove her car to the place where I get mine done. I didn’t think much of it at the time but I guess that’s how I engrained this seed in their minds. Wasn’t like I was buying jewelry and expensive stuff like some sugar daddy pomp daddy war bucks.lol So weird how little things like that can make a girl see you in a different light.

You may have done nothing wrong at all. It could be nothing more than they are just used to using people in their lives.

There are many parasitical women out there that feel entitled to spend your money. Heck my older brother dated a parasite that moved into my parents house ate our food and though nothing of asking
Me for money, and treated me like the jerk when i said no. I had to remind her " you're sucking my brothers d!ck. Not mine."

Some just want to use you.

 

[redskinsfan92]

Ruin their day! Do not pay!

 

[redskinsfan92]

I have a brother who was always "borrowing" money from me. I started telling him no and he stopped asking. We still hangout sometmes.