I'll draw out the progression here since these are all the steps you'll go through. The only one you’ll need to "push through" so to speak is the first.
1. You are at the point where you have to grab your balls, walk up, and say something (anything) just to get the ball rolling and get comfortable talking to hot women. You freeze because you’re afraid and don’t know what to say. (proably because you're saying somethign to yourself like "**** hot chick, how do I score didgits!" which will kill you.)
This is ENTIRELY based on a lack of experience and can only truly be solved by doing it and getting experience.
Just be social for the most part. You're not going to fvck her, you're not going to get a number, you're not going to try and get a date, you're not going to give two ****s about what she thinks, and you're not going to worry about techniques for now… that’s for people who are already 100% comfortable and just like to have fun with the interactions they have with others.
How can you even think about getting a number when before you even talk to a chick you're nervous and frozen?
You can’t hit a home run before you learn how to swing a bat.
2. After a while you'll realize that most people are pretty cool and nice in settings where you're expected to be social, or in general. So you'll start talking to more people.
3. Next your comfort will increase dramatically. You'll be able to naturally lead the interaction where you want to lead. It will become effortless and fun and you'll date some women.
4. You'll start to see things in women that you like and things that you do not. You'll become pickier and only date the ones you like, screening out the ones you don't. (lol here is were you usually experience a stalker or two)
5. After a while you find one you really like, you're cool, confident, collected, fun, interesting, and since you know you can get another if you want it naturally makes you a challenge since you don't take bull****, tease a little, play a little, and express your personality to a great degree.
Going through this progression can take 10 years or 6 months depending on how quickly you get through step 1 since I think it's the biggest block to progression and the hardest to overcome. Just think about how much more in control of your life and better you will feel about yourself once you reach the last step and that talking to women is…really no big deal in the end.
Next time you see a chick, you're attracted to her, and she looks open to conversation or is giving you the eye... just walk up and talk and see where it goes. Don't put any expectations on the interaction like "OMG I HAVE to get her number" because then you get all stupid and weird and come across and "trying to get somewhere" instead of letting things flow naturally and paying attention to what's going on in the moment...which is far more important to making a cool connection with a woman (which will lead to her wanting to give you her number AND follow up with you) than trying to use some "technique" that totally doesn't apply to what's going on.
