what The Fuk do you do when your in love

[clueless61]

Hey guys just lookin for some friendly advice here, Long story short met a girl played the C&F routine and all that then Got the girl. Fell in love with the girl, she tried to play games I ditched the girl then a few months later we recontacted eachother and we both Love eachother Now, I Love her and she Loves me but she isn't ready to be invovled in a relationship at my level and she's not lookin for no one else But just tryin to establish her own identity and is gonna travel and plans to come back to be with me. Am I STUPID for loving this girl, do I continue on in the DJ routine with someone else and when she comes see what happens, I am just lettin her do as she wishes and same for me and we're just together but nothin leading one way or another and my theory is what happens happenes and only time will tell. whatta you guys think. PS, this site is what helped me land this girl I love in the first place which is why I am asking your guys help.

 

[DeathDealer]

What's the question?

 

[clueless61]

Ya good point Haha, sorry guys, K I tossed her before cuz she was tryin to make me jealous over every other guys and I couldn't take it, But now I realize if she's gonna leave then leave. But she tells me she loves me and I feel the same way But she also feels she maybe fallin in love with some dude over the net half way across the world (she's an idiot like that,even though I know this is just her young foolish heart tryin to read somethin into nothin) and cuz we're just chillin out together and aint ready to commit fully she thinks I should be OK with her venturing out and exploring other 'things' and when she is ready and fully matured that she will come back to me since I love from the bottom of my heart I have agreed to this, my buds tell me Follow your heart but dont let this Jealousy thing control me and to just let her go and see what happens, WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK

 

[cave dweller]

waste..........

Hey,

She just wants to be a friend.

You are wasting your time trying to date her.

Go find another one. Next...........

cave dweller

 

[Kaine]

But she also feels she maybe fallin in love with some dude over the net half way across the world

Bzzzzzzz!

She's playing you like a toothless red neck on banjo. Ain't that a pretty picture.

Kaine

 

[MacDiddy]

She's confused and you've left her to make a choice... you've put the choice in her hands by going along with this pitiful charade (aka Drama) that women the world over are known for.....

This long distance BS is nothing compared to what she has in close proximity... thats you... real... touchable.... emotions and all....

If pressed, and I'll bet my grandma's farm, she will choose you....
(ok... I'm kding about the farm)

If you start to fall for her, then you begin to live in her world... in her reality.. The AFC symptoms should have already warned you about this...

Now don't make ultimatums, just moving on with your life while still sarging her like she's another catch, will force her to make a decision....

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by clueless61
Hey guys just lookin for some friendly advice here, Long story short met a girl played the C&F routine and all that then Got the girl. Fell in love with the girl, she tried to play games I ditched the girl then a few months later we recontacted eachother and we both Love eachother Now, I Love her and she Loves me but she isn't ready to be invovled in a relationship at my level and she's not lookin for no one else But just tryin to establish her own identity and is gonna travel and plans to come back to be with me. Am I STUPID for loving this girl, do I continue on in the DJ routine with someone else and when she comes see what happens, I am just lettin her do as she wishes and same for me and we're just together but nothin leading one way or another and my theory is what happens happenes and only time will tell. whatta you guys think. PS, this site is what helped me land this girl I love in the first place which is why I am asking your guys help.

No...you're not STUPID for loving her. But if she's not giving herself to you, she's not "loving" you back. It sounds like you're just being used, man.

I don't even think she's capable of "love". When a woman is capable of "love," it means she loves herself and is secure with herself...if she's going to "find herself," it's an indicator that she hasn't reached a point of maturity where she can talk about something like "love".

And I'll venture to say that you haven't, either. No offense, but I don't think you "love" her either.

Now the problem is how to get over the experience and get your mind back on level ground. As for that...I'm open to suggestions myself.

 

[madgame]

do I continue on in the DJ routine with someone else and when she comes see what happens

EXACTLY! You can still hook up with her when she comes back (if she comes back and stuff works out as u wish), but for now BE A DON JUAN if u dont ull regret it later no matter what the outcome is! lol

 

[DeathDealer]

well there is no such thing as love in the early stages of romance. it's just wanting something you like. love happens after a long while..maybe 6-9 months later. when it matures.

 

[clueless61]

Thanks guys, readin some of your guys's advice has really opedn my eyes, realize that is she has to 'find' herself then she does't really know what she wants NOW, Sooo if I ever wanna be with her do I just stay away from no contact? Very lil contoact just to keep in touch? or try and become a close friend in hopes for more later on in life?

 

[rsxy]

I would keep her as an acquaintance. Just talk every now and then to see how things are going. I would also date some other girls, and "explore yourself" as well. There is certainly the possibility that she won't come back as harsh as that thought may be. I wouldnt sit around and put all of your hope on this one girl.

Just live life, and whatever happens will happen.

 

[clueless61]

Ok so your guys's Idea is just forget it, I dont think i can do that right now But I am takin steps towards that I guess, Right now we're for sure more then friends but just sitting back and enjoying each others company, and not trying to force anything outta our relationship. I really do love this girl so I dont wanna just push her outta my life but I am starting to indirectly push her to make a desicion and stop wasting my time.