What situation would you rather be in your 50's?

[MatureDJ]

The old guy thread got me thinking about this question.

[1] Married to a woman that is not so attractive, and that rarely satisfies your sexual urges (she's the headachy type), but still costs a lot in financial and emotional maintenance, and desperately trying to hang onto your job because you had not been able to save for retirement (because you had to spend so much on your wife)

[2] Retired, seeing the world, hiring attractive, inexpensive prostitutes in low cost of living countries (who are always in the mood when they are on the clock), not putting up with any BS, etc., but yes, *technically* lonely.

 

[piranha45]

hookers are nice, but having a shriveled old bag lying around the house is hard to beat!

 

[speed dawg]

Very unrealistic question, but sinced you asked, the lonely one probably.

 

[DJDamage]

You are only lonely if you choose to be, just because you aren't married does not mean you stop interacting and befriending other people.

Just because you are married doesn't mean that you can't feel lonely. In some marriages the wife isolates the husband away from all his friends and doesn't even care for him. Now that's lonely.

 

[Magma]

I had this conversation with my coworker the other day.

He is 47 and is engaged for the first time in his life. Spent his early years partying and blowing money. Went to rehab, cleaned up, the whole nine. Now he's ready to "settle down." He sees me dating a bunch of different women and having meaningless ONS's. He asked me these questions:

"Do you want to die alone? Don't you want to grow old with someone? Don't you want to have kids?"

I said this:

"My great-grandmother was married to my great-grandfather for 40 years until he died. She's been alone for the last twenty and now she suffers from dementia in a nursing home. And, just because I get married doesn't mean that we'll "grow old" together as is the case with my great-grandma. She might die first or divorce my ass. Do I want to have kids? Probably not. But I'm not going to marry the wrong woman or do something rash to satisfy a biological urge to procreate. In fact, I don't even want kids. I have nephews. They're good enough for me."

I went on to say:

"Yeah, this life of mine really sucks. In the last twelve months, I've been to Africa three times, Hawaii, Mexico, Guam, and now I'm in Anguilla. In three months, I'll be in South America. Been here in Anguilla for three weeks. Whitest beaches on earth. I have a house, a motorcycle (with a sale pending on another one when I get back), money in the bank, a master's degree, and all the freedom in the world to do as I please. But yeah, you're right. I really SHOULD get married. I mean, who wants THIS kind of life."

 

[Hooligan Harry]

The old guy thread got me thinking about this question.

[1] Married to a woman that is not so attractive, and that rarely satisfies your sexual urges (she's the headachy type), but still costs a lot in financial and emotional maintenance, and desperately trying to hang onto your job because you had not been able to save for retirement (because you had to spend so much on your wife)

[2] Retired, seeing the world, hiring attractive, inexpensive prostitutes in low cost of living countries (who are always in the mood when they are on the clock), not putting up with any BS, etc., but yes, *technically* lonely.

Why people get married if they cant afford to is beyond me. Its amazing how many guys on this forum complain that they cannot maintain their lifestyle if they get married. The problem is not the marriage, its that you simply dont earn enough to get married. Its like buying a car and not being able to afford gas for it or the service on it. Then wondering why you dont enjoy it.

The only reason to get married is if you want to have kids. If you dont want kids its a waste of time. If you want kids and by default marriage, then make sure you earn enough so that you dont go without and they dont go without.

So you do have choices. If you dont want kids then there is no point ever getting married. If you do want kids and earn enough, you really are not going to be worried about the expense of it. If you want kids and cant afford a wife, then you need to consider if you want children badly enough that you are willing to sacrifice your standard of living.

Ill admit though, both scenarios appeal. I want kids. But I also want the travel with young *****es. So I have resigned myself to the fact that I will make as much money as I can now and when the time is right I will settle down and start a family. The nature of my work requires travel. By the time I am settled down, I will be working for myself. When I travel, I will be travelling as a single man.

Married man who provides a good life for his family. Single man when he travels. I wont even apologise for it. I reject utterly western concepts of fidelity.

 

[STR8UP]

Hmmm.....can I think about it for a few years and get back to you?





Or how about option #3?

[3] Retire, marry an inexpensive prostitute, and travel the world.

 

[Scuba]

"Do you want to die alone? Don't you want to grow old with someone?

I get so sick of hearing this hogwash.

I am a nurse and currently work in a nursing home. Do you have any idea how many people I have sat with while they died, no family visiting or if they do it isn't for very long?

Statistics show only 15-20% seniors will end up in a nursing home. Well guess what? That might not be you but it could be your significant other. So you still die alone. The odds are you will.

If I ever get married it will be because I choose to for my specific reasons, not because I'm trying to avoid a few lonely years at the end, odds are it will happen with or without marriage.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MatureDJ,
Interesting post as usual....Str8UP our resident lateral thinker can see that there are more options than you give.but he is in a whimsical mood today....So yeah,on the dancing scene I meet many real characters, take ******he is 74 and going strong,an Italian born Australian,intelligent but earned his living as a labourer.Ostentacious dresser,you know the type,dressed in black,open shirt,hairy chest covered in ornaments but a lovely Dancer....two years ago he was stricken with terminal Cancer,poor fellow....Prostate,it had metastasised spread throughout the body....they burned his balls out ....but like the Cat he came back....A few of his old partners still danced with him,usually fat old Anglo cat herders,you know the type,it gets around that the Old bugger is screwing one of these Birds So I asked him how he manages it,"Well"he said," they have given me a Hyperdermic,and it is dead easy I am like a Stallion with three Balls"You may imagine our surprise when out of the Blue,he turns up to a Club Dance one afternoon with a dead drop delicious Laotian Girl 42 years old and introduces her around as his wife.This girl tho a bit of a Dillbrain is at least a nine....that was eight months ago he was only given three to live,she still fusses over him,and she is learning to dance,doubtless they have come to an agreement.So as life progresses so to do your options change.

 

[Magma]

Jesus Scaramouche, your posts are mind-numbingly difficult to read. How about a new paragraph or two in there for a little readability. All your posts are like that. ****.

 

[Da Realist]

Neither. I refuse to be unhappy in a relationship, and I refuse to let some woman get money for lying on her back while I go out and work. In fact, I'm tired of the choices people supposedly are given in life as it right now.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Magma,
Noo,it's the new World order You must get used to other cultures,if you hadn't developed a ridiculous habit for Tea we wouldn't have this problem,either that or Georges refusal of help from his relations 20,000,Russian Cossacks,at a pivotal point in your War of Independance,or our stupid Old German tart of a Monarchs refusal to intervene in your Civil War (Bluddy Woman).

 

[PeeGee]

Question is a false dichotomy -- just because you don't marry doesn't mean you'll be successful and just because you marry doesn't mean she'll be a *****.

That said, the best course of action will always be to live for yourself and to get the most of what you can get in life.

In my 50s I would hope to have saved / invested enough that the returns will either pay for my standard of living or be well on my way to retire within a few more years. Better than than a bunch of PG jrs running around costing me a fortune.

 

[romangod]

The old guy thread got me thinking about this question.

[1] Married to a woman that is not so attractive, and that rarely satisfies your sexual urges (she's the headachy type), but still costs a lot in financial and emotional maintenance, and desperately trying to hang onto your job because you had not been able to save for retirement (because you had to spend so much on your wife)

[2] Retired, seeing the world, hiring attractive, inexpensive prostitutes in low cost of living countries (who are always in the mood when they are on the clock), not putting up with any BS, etc., but yes, *technically* lonely.

I'm the #2 guy without the "technically" lonely part. I'm not lonely and that feeling never crosses my mind. I just turned 50 but still look like I'm in my 30s by being lucky with my genes and regular exercise.

I retired at 47 and own a home in the best neighborhood in my city and also own a home in my father's village in Europe where I'll be heading for a few months at the end of May.

I've had some of the hottest hookers from Jamaica to Holland and many places in between.


I have no regrets about not having any kids and luckily I have brothers that are carrying on my family name.

I've outgrown the need for a companion and the paradox is they're lined up for my attention.


Life is good!


Cheers!

 

[MrLuvr]

The old guy thread got me thinking about this question.

[1] Married to a woman that is not so attractive, and that rarely satisfies your sexual urges (she's the headachy type), but still costs a lot in financial and emotional maintenance, and desperately trying to hang onto your job because you had not been able to save for retirement (because you had to spend so much on your wife)

[2] Retired, seeing the world, hiring attractive, inexpensive prostitutes in low cost of living countries (who are always in the mood when they are on the clock), not putting up with any BS, etc., but yes, *technically* lonely.

I don't get #2. Why would you be hiring inexpensive prostitutes. First of all, if you are 50, and you can't even afford an "expensive prostitute" you have to reexamine your life. You have FAILED.

But, more importantly why would you be relying on prostitutes to get laid anyway? If you are 50 something in good shape and well off, you could live like a king in somewhere like Brazil for example and bang 20 somethings all day long without having to pay for it. The same thing if you went over to Asia or something. Or even a place like Ukraine.

 

[mrRuckus]

I don't get #2. Why would you be hiring inexpensive prostitutes. First of all, if you are 50, and you can't even afford an "expensive prostitute" you have to reexamine your life. You have FAILED.
.

Wait you have to have a giant wad of cash or you fail?

I can't wait for this "failed" internet fad saying to die.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I've outgrown the need for a companion and the paradox is they're lined up for my attention.

It's like being at some sort of "next level..."

 

[Maxtro]

I don't get #2. Why would you be hiring inexpensive prostitutes. First of all, if you are 50, and you can't even afford an "expensive prostitute" you have to reexamine your life. You have FAILED.

But, more importantly why would you be relying on prostitutes to get laid anyway? If you are 50 something in good shape and well off, you could live like a king in somewhere like Brazil for example and bang 20 somethings all day long without having to pay for it. The same thing if you went over to Asia or something. Or even a place like Ukraine.

I agree 100%.

If you're 50 years old and need hookers to get laid, you have failed at life. By the time a man is 50 he should be wealthy, confident and irresistible to women. You should be... The most interesting man in the world

Getting married is optional and it doesn't guarantee that you will have somebody at your side when you die. The key is to live a fulfilling life that draws people to you. Staying healthy and in shape is a big part of that.