What should i do?

[ZMan]

Married for 11 years to a girl who was abused and molested as a child. This can make for a really long hard relationship. Tiresome, and unrewarding. It's not the girls fault, but the fact remains that it can be a very unsatisfying relationship for you. The behavior doesn't stop, even if they think they love you. Sex is different for them, it means less. So at heart they are Who#es. These girls are easy at first. In the long run though you never quit reach that same level of intamacy. Damaged goods.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Rico186
There is the girl that i like, but she only wants to be friends. It took me a while to get over that at first, but i am over that now, I still like her and wish that something more will happen.

Then you're not over her.

But I need to move on and if she changes her mind she changes her mind. But even thought she says she just wants to be friends she is sending out mixed signals, EX. love songs remind her of me. I have told her how i felt so she knows that

Attention wh0re maybe?

I got into a fight with her today for calling her a Wh**e, because last night she was flashing two other guys in my car and she made out with this guy that she just met for the first time.
She seems like the kind of person that doesn't do that, anyways she told me to night that she was melested for like 6 years. and that she needs attention from guys. So she is just doing that because of that.

Yup. Attention wh0re. Run, don't walk, to the nearest exit.

and i think that she is going to ruin her life if she keeps up that attitude.

Um...as opposed to the excellent life of "Girls Gone Wild" that she's living right now?

I really hurt her by calling her a Wh**e, but she just needed a slap in the face by me calling her that.
I care for the girl even as just friends. I was just wondering what you all think and what i should do?
I think that that is it if there is anything you need to know then just ask? Thanks
Andy

You can't save people that dont' want to be saved. And you can't have a relationship with people who don't want a relationship.

If you REALLY care for this girl "as a friend" and you're not just using that to stay close to her because you can't bear the rejection of being out of her sight, then you can talk to her and tell her what you think. But don't take it upon yourself to SAVE anyone. Offer your help. If she wants it, she'll take it. If not, she won't.

Oh, and get this through your head now...unless this girl pulls some kind of radical life 180, YOU HAVE NO CHANCE with her romantically. In fact, you don't WANT a chance with her romantically. She wants your attention. That's all. First thing you need to do is find a girl (or two) worth your time. Once you've got that, if you STILL want to be friends with this girl and help her out, then ask advice.