I've searched the forums and haven't been able to find any topic quite like this, so I figured I'd just post about it.
I've been friends with this girl for probably nine months I guess, and since about the beginning of this year we hung out and talked alot, just being buds basically. Well, in early March she broke up with her boyfriend of about 5 years, and sometime after that she started saying a few things that made me think she liked me more than just a friend. Keep in mind that I can't read chicks to save my life, so maybe I was wrong about her "signals." Anyway, at that time I never thought of her as anything more than a friend so I didn't do anything about it. I just acted the same way I always had around her, but at some point my feelings towards her changed to where I felt attracted to her... I don't know why. I think it was just because I'd gotten to know her pretty well over the course of a few months. I don't really know what triggered my change in feelings, however, so that's just a guess. This happened during the last couple weeks of the spring college semester, by the way.
School ended and for whatever reason I never talked to her for about a week and a half after that. I don't know if it was because we were both confused or what. Anyway, I eventually called her and we talked for about a half hour and I told her I had to get going somewhere, but that I'd give her a call again soon, and she said something like, "You've got my digits, just give me a call." I think it was like 5 days later or something that I ended up calling her again, except this time we talked for at least an hour, and I again had to end the call because I had stuff to do. (I'll get to my point shortly.. hehe) Things pretty much went on like that up until now. We did get together and go out to lunch one time since school has been done, but the only time I really talk to her is on the phone, and the occasional email. I'm usually the one that calls though, but I'm also usually the one that has to end it as well. This is nothing new. The whole time I've known her it's been the very rare occurance that she would just call out of the blue for anything. It's weird, but I think she just doesn't like calling people for whatever reason. That's beside the point, though. I talk to her now MAYBE twice a week, tops, by the way.
The point of this post is that she said something to me on the phone last week that caught me completely off guard, and to this day I don't know for sure what the point of it was. We were talking about something, and then out of nowhere she tells me that she had started seeing some guy in early April that she had met through a friend of hers, and that they dated off and on through the middle of May or something like that. She then said something about how he was supposed to be going to jail for something he'd done, and so she basically told the dude to take a hike. Then she told me something about how she just doesn't see it working out and that she hasn't talked to him for a long time. Keep in mind that we were talking about something completely unrelated when she decided to tell me this. After that, we talked for a little while longer until I told her I was going to let her go. I probably wouldn't have thought anything of what she told me, but we used to hang out and talk all the time in April and early May, and she never once mentioned anything at all about that guy. I had absolutely no clue about him. Why did she decide to tell me about him now, and especially the part about it not going to work out and not talking to him? Is it nothing, or is she trying to give me some kind of a hint? I was talking to my sister about it, and she thinks that's what she might be doing, but I don't know. But like I said earlier, she's said some things to me before that kind of got me wondering.
As far as I know, she's got no idea that I like her as anything more than a friend. I haven't acted any differently towards her than I always have. If anything, I talk to her less now than I did before. Lately, though, I've been debating whether or not I should somehow let her know how I really feel. I don't NEED her by any means, but I'd kick myself if there is something there between us and I don't act on it somehow. I've been there before, and I hated it. There is a problem though... She's going to be leaving the country for an internship in a little under three weeks for somewhere between a month and a month and a half. I'm in no rush for anything with her, since I've got plenty of stuff to keep me busy, but I feel like I should say or do something to let her know before she leaves, if only because I wouldn't be left with any "what if" feelings if I did. One time before the semester ended, we were sitting on the couch or something, and she got really shy, looked away, smiled and asked me if I was going to come visit her while she was gone on that trip.. That's one thing that she's said that really sticks out, but like I said, there have been other things she's said as well.
Knowing all this stuff though, I have absolutely no clue how to go about letting her know what I feel. I see one of two things happening. I let her know, and she gets turned off BECAUSE I let her know, OR I tell her, and she feels the same way. I think it really could go either way based on what she's said to me. The big thing though is her leaving. A month and a half really isn't that long, but what if she meets someone while she's there, and I never said anything to her? I'd be kicking myself for not doing anything.
I'm really hoping someone on here has experienced something similar to this, because I really could use the advice. This is freaking new to me. I don't think I can just forget about her either...
I've been friends with this girl for probably nine months I guess, and since about the beginning of this year we hung out and talked alot, just being buds basically. Well, in early March she broke up with her boyfriend of about 5 years, and sometime after that she started saying a few things that made me think she liked me more than just a friend. Keep in mind that I can't read chicks to save my life, so maybe I was wrong about her "signals." Anyway, at that time I never thought of her as anything more than a friend so I didn't do anything about it. I just acted the same way I always had around her, but at some point my feelings towards her changed to where I felt attracted to her... I don't know why. I think it was just because I'd gotten to know her pretty well over the course of a few months. I don't really know what triggered my change in feelings, however, so that's just a guess. This happened during the last couple weeks of the spring college semester, by the way.
School ended and for whatever reason I never talked to her for about a week and a half after that. I don't know if it was because we were both confused or what. Anyway, I eventually called her and we talked for about a half hour and I told her I had to get going somewhere, but that I'd give her a call again soon, and she said something like, "You've got my digits, just give me a call." I think it was like 5 days later or something that I ended up calling her again, except this time we talked for at least an hour, and I again had to end the call because I had stuff to do. (I'll get to my point shortly.. hehe) Things pretty much went on like that up until now. We did get together and go out to lunch one time since school has been done, but the only time I really talk to her is on the phone, and the occasional email. I'm usually the one that calls though, but I'm also usually the one that has to end it as well. This is nothing new. The whole time I've known her it's been the very rare occurance that she would just call out of the blue for anything. It's weird, but I think she just doesn't like calling people for whatever reason. That's beside the point, though. I talk to her now MAYBE twice a week, tops, by the way.
The point of this post is that she said something to me on the phone last week that caught me completely off guard, and to this day I don't know for sure what the point of it was. We were talking about something, and then out of nowhere she tells me that she had started seeing some guy in early April that she had met through a friend of hers, and that they dated off and on through the middle of May or something like that. She then said something about how he was supposed to be going to jail for something he'd done, and so she basically told the dude to take a hike. Then she told me something about how she just doesn't see it working out and that she hasn't talked to him for a long time. Keep in mind that we were talking about something completely unrelated when she decided to tell me this. After that, we talked for a little while longer until I told her I was going to let her go. I probably wouldn't have thought anything of what she told me, but we used to hang out and talk all the time in April and early May, and she never once mentioned anything at all about that guy. I had absolutely no clue about him. Why did she decide to tell me about him now, and especially the part about it not going to work out and not talking to him? Is it nothing, or is she trying to give me some kind of a hint? I was talking to my sister about it, and she thinks that's what she might be doing, but I don't know. But like I said earlier, she's said some things to me before that kind of got me wondering.
As far as I know, she's got no idea that I like her as anything more than a friend. I haven't acted any differently towards her than I always have. If anything, I talk to her less now than I did before. Lately, though, I've been debating whether or not I should somehow let her know how I really feel. I don't NEED her by any means, but I'd kick myself if there is something there between us and I don't act on it somehow. I've been there before, and I hated it. There is a problem though... She's going to be leaving the country for an internship in a little under three weeks for somewhere between a month and a month and a half. I'm in no rush for anything with her, since I've got plenty of stuff to keep me busy, but I feel like I should say or do something to let her know before she leaves, if only because I wouldn't be left with any "what if" feelings if I did. One time before the semester ended, we were sitting on the couch or something, and she got really shy, looked away, smiled and asked me if I was going to come visit her while she was gone on that trip.. That's one thing that she's said that really sticks out, but like I said, there have been other things she's said as well.
Knowing all this stuff though, I have absolutely no clue how to go about letting her know what I feel. I see one of two things happening. I let her know, and she gets turned off BECAUSE I let her know, OR I tell her, and she feels the same way. I think it really could go either way based on what she's said to me. The big thing though is her leaving. A month and a half really isn't that long, but what if she meets someone while she's there, and I never said anything to her? I'd be kicking myself for not doing anything.
I'm really hoping someone on here has experienced something similar to this, because I really could use the advice. This is freaking new to me. I don't think I can just forget about her either...
