Don't answer every text. You need to SERIOUSLY withdraw from her.
You shouldn't be doing all this to win her back. You should be doing it for your own self-respect.
A man should NEVER allow himself to be dumped (and you, my friend, are about to be dumped). You need to flip the script immediately by withdrawing your attention to the point where she is begging to have you back, or until she leaves, whichever it is.
NEVER, EVER tell a woman you need her. She should be living in constant fear of losing you. Any other dynamic won't work long-term. It should ALWAYS be the woman who is in fear of losing the man, and not vice-versa. When a woman asks the inevitable question, "Do you need me?", the answer should always be, "No, I don't need you. I like having you in my life and I choose this, but I don't need you." This is what a woman secretly desires you to feel.
All these principles seem non-intuitive and manipulative, but they are matters of survival in a modern relationship. The man must always frame everything in a way that gives him the upper hand. She must be made aware that you have the ability to leave at any time.
Now within that framework there's room for kindness, empathy, and gentleness, but these things must be meted out in small, appropriate doses at appropriate times. The amount and intensity of these things are completely dependent upon the particular people involved. You're not at this place right now. You need to show a firm hand.
You should consider yourself the king of your own empire, and live for yourself with a woman as an unnecessary adjunct to your life.
Be very careful... You are going to tend to go AFC at the first sign of her "acceptance" of you. Don't fall for it.
You should consider this relationship over at this point (she has already left... trust me) and instead get the upper hand and call the shots yourself. Design a new life, and demonstrate WITHOUT WORDS your newfound freedom as you unshackle yourself from her.
If she relents and begs to have you back, consider it. If not, it never could have worked out.
Q-boy, it's time to become fierce and take control of your life and relationships. You're in a GREAT place, as you are learning things that most men never learn, if only you will accept them and put them into practice.
If you don't listen to us, you will be in for a world of hurt. What we are saying sounds extreme to you and requires bravery on your part, but remember that we are speaking from a place of vast experience and we want to help you get a handle on this.
When a woman acts this way she has already grieved the loss of the relationship and she is frustrated because she can't find an easy way out. She will try to bait you into conversations where she'll trap you and therefore justify herself ("See, I know he was bad for me").
A man must control and administer his relationship NONVERBALLY. She will turn your words around on you every time. It is critically important to act with very little speaking and even less explanation. Act, and do not talk. Your own words will always be the noose with which she will hang you. Every woman is an absolute master at this. Every woman.
Think long and hard on these things. Lastly, you need to turn away from operating from a position of lack. There are plenty of fish in the sea, although for many men it seems utterly impossible to believe it. Therefore you need to tell yourself this constantly until it manifests for you. This is not "the secret" mumbo-jumbo, but rather this manifestation comes from the scales being removed from your eyes in order to see that which was always true.
Good luck, and let us know how you progress. Remember, some guys here express things harshly and some more gently. Everyone here responds in their own way not to hurt you but to help you.
