What sh!t tests do men often fail?

[TheProspect]

From personal experience, and what you've seen,

What sh!t tests do most men fail, or often fail? Why do they fail, and what is the appropriate way to pass/handle them?

Some sh!t tests can be so subtle that men are unaware of them or their infatuation for a girl can blind them.

Is there a blanket statement or maybe a certain attitude if applied can in itself be used to pass any sh!t test? Is there a different sh!t tests ( and strategies for handling them) during a first date/interaction/impression compared to a long term relationship?


Just think everyone's experiences can help the newcomer, after all, we all have failed a sh!t test at some point in our lives.

 

[Throw_away787]

As a newcomer, I would really appreciate some insight on this one.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Couple subtle ones for LTRs

- in the first month or two that you're dating she may cancel plans on you the day of and counter offer with a sincere apology and vague target date to reschedule. She's wanting to see if you get all insecure and chase her. By saying "Damn, that sucks you can't make it. Maybe next time!" and not calling her or waiting for her to reach back out (it could be a few days or a week) you're showing her that you're not obsessing about her and shows that you have options (even if you don't) because most guys after 1-2 months of dates/sex with a woman would go into total AFC smother mode.

- She'll go out with her girlfriends on the town and send you pictures of them having fun. Instead of saying some gay sh*t like "hey now, don't have too much fun without me babe", "text me when you get home, etc.", just respond by saying "Have fun!". Again, this shows you're not worried about someone else hitting on her or picking her up because you have options (even if you don't).

Basically you want to give off the impression that she's complimenting your life but not the focus of it. You enjoy her company but she is certainly welcome to have her own fun and her own life outside of you because you do the same in your own life. Of course she'll keep pushing for you to make her the center of your world until you actually do, which at that point she'll disappear into the c*ck carnival jungle of manhattan (in my case)

 

[wifehunter]

I imagine most shiit tests are meant to target your ego:

Breakups, Cold shoulder, Jealousy, Hard to get, Insults, Flaking, cancels, stringing you along etc.

All are meant to get an rise out of you, aka emotional manipulation, and increase their value in your eyes.

No response is the best response. You can also smile and laugh to let her know you're wise to her. Either way.

They want to control you.

 

[Throw_away787]

I imagine most shiit tests are meant to target your ego:

Breakups, Cold shoulder, Jealousy, Hard to get, Insults, Flaking, cancels, etc.

All are meant to get an rise out of you, aka emotional manipulation, and increase their value in your eyes.

No response is the best response. You can also smile and laugh to let her know you're wise to her. Either way.

They want to control you.

Are **** tests a red flag? It sounds like attention seeking behavior.

 

[wifehunter]

Are **** tests a red flag? It sounds like attention seeking behavior.

They all do it... They want to know what you're made of.

Actually sh!t tests are interest indicators, they would not bother if they weren't interested. I've taken them a compliments many times. But too many at once ( my last chick went nuclear) is overwhelming. I have to eject at that point. Hope she cools down someday

 

[Trump]

As soon as you think about "passing" or "failing" anything with a woman, you've already LOST the game. You are not trying to pass a rigorous medical school exam, you are trying to connect with and have sex with a 28 year old woman who is looking for good sex, a good time, fame and fortune.

Don't be concerned about passing a "test" from a girl who has likely slept with 7 hockey players who are 6'1, and likely won't care if you are dead or alive the next day. Just relax and show her a good time.

 

[SummerNight]

One of the most frequent ones are taking away the attention and giving it to some other dude. It actually is a **** test (maybe unconscious but still) and a very good one at that. Most guys just lose their mood and start chasing like crazy when they don't suddenly get the validation that they are somehow special.

 

[Who Dares Win]

As a general rule when your gut let you feel some discomfort its either a sh1t test or a sign that something is not working.

Not responding is the best option is my opinion, the cost benefits ratio is the best one compared to other techinques like agree and amplify or looking for come back lines and behaviour.

 

[dude99]

From personal experience, and what you've seen,

What sh!t tests do most men fail, or often fail? Why do they fail, and what is the appropriate way to pass/handle them?

Some sh!t tests can be so subtle that men are unaware of them or their infatuation for a girl can blind them.

Is there a blanket statement or maybe a certain attitude if applied can in itself be used to pass any sh!t test? Is there a different sh!t tests ( and strategies for handling them) during a first date/interaction/impression compared to a long term relationship?


Just think everyone's experiences can help the newcomer, after all, we all have failed a sh!t test at some point in our lives.

You are the man in the relationship. You take the lead. They follow. You set the boundaries. They stay within them if they want to date you.

Any timea woman deliberately tests your boundaries, your patients, or tests you to see how you react to a certain situation, things they say or things they do, they are **** testing you.

They are testing your resolve and seeing if they have a man on their hands or if they have a wuss that they can use, exploit, and abuse.

Passing these tests is telling them once" im not playing your buul**** games. If you do any of this shiit again, you are history." And stick to your words.

Women are programmed to follow your lead. When you don't lead that is when they test, confuse, cheat, and abuse you.

 

[Roober]

You are the man in the relationship. You take the lead. They follow. You set the boundaries. They stay within them if they want to date you.

Any timea woman deliberately tests your boundaries, your patients, or tests you to see how you react to a certain situation, things they say or things they do, they are **** testing you.

They are testing your resolve and seeing if they have a man on their hands or if they have a wuss that they can use, exploit, and abuse.

Passing these tests is telling them once" im not playing your buul**** games. If you do any of this shiit again, you are history." And stick to your words.

Women are programmed to follow your lead. When you don't lead that is when they test, confuse, cheat, and abuse you.

This is spot on. When you lose frame, the $hit tests begin. If you are strong and stable, they are often minimal and subconscious. For example, she can't control if a guy hits on her while you are around or if some family thing comes up and she has to cancel last minute. If you don't handle these situations correctly, she may begin to doubt you and test more consciously... I believe that is the trap I fell into...

 

[Poon King]

The biggest mistake men make is trying to play "fair" with women.

White Knight mentality is the reason men fail sh!t tests. They allow themselves to be manipulated by emotional arguments and threats of abandonment. How often do faggots on this very site post about how they fear if they do (or don't do) xyz they will "lose her" or ask questions about how to avoid "losing her".

If you have to be someone's b!tch to keep them in your life then they don't deserve to be in your life. No fear of loss should enter your mind. That is the attitude ALL men should have. But most men are too co-dependent and thirsty to have any discipline in the game. And since women have no interest in "playing fair" whatsoever.. they usually keep their advantage in most relationships. An advantage they only have because most men are morons who follow "rules" that don't benefit them.

 

[AttackFormation]

The #1 **** test is very fundamental, it's believing that men and women are the same and behaving with her the way you think you should behave with someone who's like yourself. That's fundamentally what puts guys a step behind. If a man knows the truth and he's not afraid of or in denial of it, he's made it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Girls with big boobs let them hang out of their shirt so they can find the one guy who doesn't stare at them. It's not that they don't enjoy the attention of guys staring; they do. But those guys are disqualified immediately as potential partners.

 

[bigneil]

Working Example - Turning Like to Love

Recently I reached the promised land but not without one key move that was so essential I must document it here. It had been 3 weeks since I had last seen a girl I had fallen for. This was after I learned of her (until then secret) cosmetic surgery and she hadn't replied to my last 2 messages. I was crushed. So I got in my car and I drove to her work and I came face to face with her. At that moment another girl threw herself at me and I elected to sneak out rather than explain things. I just went with my gut instinct. I don't think this can be forced so tread lightly choosing when to walk away.

Anyhow, the next week we spent our first night together and she has been gushing ever since. As always, I interviewed her to find out what I did right.

So what was the key? Well it turns out that when she saw me at her work she had a 1% feeling that I might be stalking her. But when I turned around and walked away, she said she felt her heart breaking. I waited 3 days and then asked her out again. That moment when I walked away was the snap of the pole that set the hook as she took the bait. It might be essential, especially with beauties who we have fallen for, for us to walk away at some point so they can pursue us.

 

[skinnyguy]

I love failing sh_t tests.

If a girl is testing me, that means her interest level is low and it's time for me to eject. Only a weak man would fear failing these tests.

The best girls I've ever dated have never used a **** test on me.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Sh1t test are not always about low interest. Sh1t test are passive aggressive dependency insecurity moves trying to find security within something. There's a lot of cases with this generation that chicks who DONT sh1t test you REALLY ARENT that into you. I know people speak about the growing number of betas, but I also think women are growing more and more insecure too bc of social media.

If a girl thinks u are getting bored with her in a ltr, she will sh1t test you. I have found that some times it's cool to fail them in a longer relationship especially if u pass them most of the time. Passing sh1t test all the time in a longterm relationship almost becomes predictable. It's like how there's the theory that liberals give blacks hope by allowing several of us to succeed and they are on our side...and how they think conservatives do it wrong because they don't give any hope and create resentment. When u get really good about your mindset and controlling your feelings, You HAVE to give hope in LTRs. But u have to show her and MAKE HER REALLY BELIEVE u dngaf and will leave if she keeps this Riot going (that's basically what it is...a riot to fight an alpha superior). Wash and repeat and learn that in 2-3 months time, she'll get the itch again.

 

[kenpiffyjr]

Also id like to add, after u fail it...fight, and then she admits she's sorry and sees your point (trust me if she's into you she will) - u have to f--k her. Inviting her to "talk" about it has to be immediate shove against the wall and a instant bang. If you actually sit and talk about the fight () you basically failed and then REALLY failed. I do not advise doing that as I think you have to be on such a social status level to maneuver that down the line.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Most of the time we don't even realise we are being **** tested...

 

[Roober]

$hit tests are both signs of low interest and insecurity. It depends on the extent of the test. Women will always throw little tests in there...

I would say these are more "checking" or insecurity issues...
-She may comment something about your looks, in my case it was "you need a haircut"
-Saying no to secks
-Asking if you are mad at them
-Little comments towards other women you are nice to

Bigger ones that I should have been more aware of...
-Not responding to calls or texts for extended periods of time
-DISTANCE!!!! I failed this hard as most men probably do. This will be the beginning of the end if you do not play it right...
-Anything dealing with "needing space" or being "too available"

Wayyyyy too many to list...