What seperates the guys who are always successful from the others?

[I_Only_Live_Once]

I see some guys have virtually no problem at getting HBs. For them, it's like an endless rotation, one after another. What do they ultimately posses that average guys don't?

 

[blinkwatt]

These all come down to having coinfidence in yourself.

 

[oakraiderz2]

A combination of all of the traits mentioned. You may take charge but if you have no social skills then you probably wont get very far. Heres how i would rank it: (no particular order)

Confidence
Social Skills
C&F
Ambition
Masculinity

Even if one lacked one of the less important traits they could still managed to pull a girl.

 

[Hockey Playa]

Im pretty sure in HS its mostly looks & social status

 

[Brian20o2]

Why no "All of the above" option?

 

[diplomatic_lies]

They're not afraid.

 

[Socialreject]

I say confidence is nr1. The reason why i say this is because that's where it all starts. You can't play a good game is you have insecurities and fears, and if you do somehow manage to pull off a good game, you won't be able to keep it up!

Other things like communication skills, humor, social proof and just knowing how to dress right, they are all important yeah, but without confidence they mean very little.

Build up your confidence and hammer out your insecurities. Only when you accomplish this you gain the power to truly reprogram your beliefs about yourself and about how you perceive the world around you.

 

[thederekeffect1]

Hmm, this question hasn't been asked a million times before. (sarcasm)

You need an all of the above option.

 

[BBX]

Im pretty sure in HS its mostly looks & social status

Your 110% right about the social status...but if you have game in high school, looks don't matter for a guy.

 

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Can someone please describe the difference between CHARISMA and CHARM? Basically 2 same behaviours IMHO

 

[Dark Haired Alpha]

Yeah and to add my opinion... some guys tend to think it's "all of the above" etc... I'm sure it's not true and can prove it - the question was "what SEPARATES the guys who....". ALL successful guys have confidence + a few other things, but usually not all the things. That's why confidence seems to be what SEPARATES them.

 

[Keeper]

Charisma affects how you deal with everbody. From how you handle yourself when giving a speech to a bunch of businessmen, to how you present yourself to your girl's big brother.

Charm affects how well you use your personality to acheive favourable attitudes from people you're interested in, or interested in obtaining from. Either a girl, or a sales man you're trying to get a discount from.

For the most part, though, the two are very the same and I would have put them in the same line.

 

[PRMoon]

Confidence

Nothin gets the job done like brass balls.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

my friend was chosen by Cosmopolitan as 2005s most elgible bachleor in the state of Arkansas..hes always around hoes

 

[DrStrangelove]

Confidence is king.

 

[undesputable]

out of all those things listed the only thing that cant be faked is confidence.

 

[undesputable]

Can someone please describe the difference between CHARISMA and CHARM? Basically 2 same behaviours IMHO

a charismatic person has a lot of confidence, he knows where hes going, and has a sense of purpose...think of john f kennedy or malcolm x.

a charmer simply directs all attention towards the person whom hes talking to. They dont really fight or argue or complain...as "the art of seduction" says about charmers, these people aim at peoples primary weaknesses which are vanity and self esteem.

 

[Friendly Otter]

Being a winner, not a loser.

All of the above count, of course. However, I note that 30 percent choose "confidence," and my guess is that's because it is easier to get than a large social circle, brains, a career, etc.

 

[Distant Light]

Well I will just write from most important to least important based on what i think.

1. Calibration
2. Game (C&F, Negs, DHVs,cold reading, etc)
3. Inner game
4. Body language
5. Tonality
6. Cloth (dressing cool)
7. body (Workout)
8. Height
9. Looks

Without calibration you won't be able to have good game, and without that you won't have good inner game which will cost your body language and tonality to go down, which will then have you thinking and making excuses which will cause you to keep focusing on cloth,body,looks and just keeps on repeating itself over and over.

 

[I love Hyori Lee]

I think the only thing that separates the successful ones from the others is initiative and action. Most of the complainers and "failing" performers have a lack of preparation, lack of action and a lack of initiative.

All those qualities that you have listed are all useful in one way or another, but the difference between a failure and a success is that the successful ones initate action. They do it. Whereas the failures just talk.