What qualities does your ideal girlfriend have?

[Mr Wright]

I came across a list i made about a year and a half ago of the qualities I would want my ideal girlfriend to have. I thought it was important because I'd just got out of a relationship with a girl I didnt really want to be with, I just ended up with her. I still think its important and I've highlighted the ones i thought were deal breakers.

• Clever enough to hold an intellectual conversation
• Outgoing enough to have fun in a social gathering without my presence
• Open minded
• Passionate
• A good sense of humour
• Tall...ish around 5'7
• Speaks well (cant stand trashy, lazy speaking girls)
• Has played sport at some point in their life
• Non-religious
• Not superficial but not trampy
• A keen of adventure
• Attractive enough to turn heads
• Great sense of fashion
• Makes me feel good about myself
• Non-smoker
• A positive person
• Great legs

Well I have a girlfriend now and comparing the list to the qualities that she has i'd say they were very well matched. Out of my 8 "deal breakers" she matches 6 unfortunately she smokes when drinking and is a little set in her ways about some things. Its weird because I've found someone who really actually does match up to my ideal girlfriend and I do really love being with her and I'm just taking each day as it comes, its great, I couldnt ask for more.


I just set a sense that guys on here dont really go for what they want, just more for what they think they should want. So search inside yourself, find what you want, internalize that want/desire and you will naturally gravitate towards it. Sometimes all it takes is a bit of direction rather than just randomly hitting on whatever moves to change your game, whilst i've also been through the trying to do whatever moves stage. A bit of class and standards can go a long way as it eliminates that vibe of desperateness which is such a turn off for girls.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I think in the last year I met probably less than 10 girls with all those features and they were all with top guys, no wait less than 5 now that I read it well.

Let me tell you how is the average girl I see around:


-totally unable to talk about anything not related to parties or celebrities
-outgoing enough to make out with the first hot guy she can get
-open minded as media say, anything else is gross or weird or geeky
-condescending
-standard sense of humor as built from manifactures
-usually taller than wider (most of the times)
-speaks standard language
-dance at club or happened to visit one of those aerobic classes
-religious or atheist according to convenience/surrounding and people around
-adventurous regarding visit new clubs or parties abroad
-attractive enough to pass the bones test if properly dresses
-amazing sense of fashion, usually a professional in clothes
-piss the hell out of me
-smokes as bagdad after the raids
-standard person, see manifactures manual
-great ass, great in circumference I mean

Get this post as a joke but keep in mind that most of the times joke are based on exagerating reality and are the only way to speak the truth

 

[Atom Smasher]

Good post, OP. Some comments in-line:

•Clever enough to hold an intellectual conversation
Personally I'm not expecting a woman to match my intellect but she must rise above the vapid majority.

•Outgoing enough to have fun in a social gathering without my presence
Totally immaterial to me. I really prefer quietish to outgoing. Just a matter of taste.

•Open minded
Open minded in bed, fo shizzle, but not so open minded to be easily manipulated by the media. Open minded can easily connote "lack of principles".

•Passionate
A good thing.

•A good sense of humour
Very important. Ever notice in a long-term relationship you figure out that she has no clue what 80% of your jokes even mean? LOL... I find this happens exactly at the one year mark.

•Tall...ish around 5'7
I like both tall and short. You might say I prefer the extremes. I find that extremely tall women (even way taller than myself) take a liking to me (I'm 6').

•Speaks well (cant stand trashy, lazy speaking girls)
VERY important. My last LTR was with a girl who was very lazy in her speech and I am very well-spoken myself. There exists this horrible accent just north of NYC and she had it.

•Has played sport at some point in their life
Totally unimportant to me, again a matter of taste. I'm curious as to why this is important to you.

•Non-religious
Direct opposite for me. I'm a man of faith and I require that in my women if it's going to be a LTR.

•Not superficial but not trampy
Critically important.

•A keen of adventure
You must be from across the pond from the way you word that. I would say a sense of adventure is very important indeed.

•Attractive enough to turn heads
That used to be very important to me but less so now. Observe my formula:
"Good looks is inversely proportional to quality of character."
I'll take character over looks any day, but no battle tanks for me. Those squishy fat wrists disgust me. A decent looking woman who may not be a natural beauty but who takes good care of herself is fine with me. Thin or average is a requirement. I am hugely turned off by fat.

•Great sense of fashion
Yes, very important. I hate women who run around in sweats.

•Makes me feel good about myself
Critically important. She should make you feel like a real man.

•Non-smoker
Yes, a requirement for me.

•A positive person
Also very important. All women like to wallow in their problems for a while, but she needs to be able to snap out of it after I've "listened without trying to fix things", LOL.

•Great legs
Yes, an absolute must. I'll add feet to that. I love them, and they have to be in good shape.


To your excellent list I'll add the following:

• Respect
• A non-wandering eye
• Neat and clean with her environment
• Good hygeine

 

[bigneil]

• Clever enough to hold an intellectual conversation
• Outgoing enough to have fun in a social gathering without my presence
• Open minded
• Passionate
• A good sense of humour
• Tall...ish around 5'7
• Speaks well (cant stand trashy, lazy speaking girls)
• Has played sport at some point in their life
• Non-religious
• Not superficial but not trampy
• A keen of adventure
• Attractive enough to turn heads
• Great sense of fashion
• Makes me feel good about myself
• Non-smoker
• A positive person
• Great legs

Great list. Note that the stripper qualified for all of these.

 

[ilikecharlene]

My conception of date-worthiness is below:

- Must meet by ideal of physical attractiveness
- Has ambition
- Has a good nature
- Is not *****y
- Is not shallow in interests
- Is educated, or at the least is on the way to being so
- Is respectful of others and herself
- Has good deportment and dress (not necessarily fashionable, but can dress well and presentable)

 

[Eternal_water]

Not be imaginary is a good trait I like in my girlfriends....................

 

[Eternal_water]

Seriously though, people say "have a sense of humour" so often and afcs say girls they like are funny (even though in 90% of the time they aren't) cos they are supplicating that "sense of humour" sounds boring and worse - generic (like smart)

But it really is so important, very few girls are genuinely funny cos they have never had to be, but the ones who are are absolute gold dust. So easy to get on with and build brilliant chemistry.

 

[Eternal_water]

Remotecontrol

I like 1 and 6 on your list.

People often say they want a smart girl, many probably telling the truth but I think some say that because its generic and easy to think of.

Personally I wouldn't want her to be my intellectual match, it reduces your alpha status compared to her. I like to be cleverer than a girl and also genuinely find it (for want of a better word) "cute" when they do ditzy things.


6 I agree If you need her to feel good about youself, then she has all the power and you are being afcish.

I'm well aware that is an area for me to work on.

 

[Mr Wright]

Remote Control, I agree with your last point, i made this list a year and a half ago and during that time ive come so far. I know that if we broke up tomorrow i'd be ok because i know who i am inside myself. But the reason why i put it on the list was because i think in a relationship its important to know that your partner sees in you, what you see in yourself. So if i was to re write that list now, i'd keep it in there and just reword it slightly to someone who doesnt make me feel bad about myself. There are so many catty women out there who will try and jump on a guys feelings, its vindictive and attractive. Even though i wouldnt be too hurt if my girlfriend called me XYZ or dismissed something i hold dear, its not a good trait for a person to have.

I know what you mean about clever women, i just cant stand stupid people. My girlfriend said to me the other day that shes realised that i find intelligence attractive and its true, i can feel myself getting turned off when a girl says something just stupid.

As for the religious and open minded, i am personally sometimes too open minded to the point where those close to me find it almost uncomfortable because my limits are so much further than theirs. I dont want a girlfriend who carries a lot of guilty simply because of her upbringing and religion, i dont want her to feel like im degrading her if i ask her to do something "non vanilla" or whatever.

But yeah, having an attractive girlfriend could be for an ego boost but its also because i want to be sexually attracted to her. I know myself well and in the long term i'd find her more sexually attractive if other guys find her attractive too, its just how i am and that wont change.


My current girlfriend gets a lot of attention when we go out and i just leave her too it because i dont have the time to be picking battles with every guy who hits on her, its a trust i have in her to not do anything stupid. I think it trust her more than other girls because she was a virgin when we first got together.

But great post man

 

[SgtSplacker]

Generally I want what is considered a normal person as dictated by the norms of society today with some particulars.

Not too stupid not too smart.
Must have something to intellectually entertain herself with.
Not overbearing, respects my decisions.
A person who generally tries to do the right thing.
Hygenic.
Decent libido.
A nice rack.

Nuff said...

 

[Bible_Belt]

What qualities does your ideal girlfriend have?

She needs a good job so that she can support me.

 

[coochieman]

Great list. Note that the stripper qualified for all of these.

LOL! You need Christ. :crackup:

 

[perseverance]

Loyalty.
Sense of humour.

Tis all.

 

[yuppaz]

Good idea & agree with the premise

Mine:

Is really into me, but has a good life of her own

Loves kids and is great with them.

Feminine & nurturing

A lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets

Into music, preferably singing (have a major thing for singers)

Likes to read (books and not only magazines)

Bubbly personality - a natural level of happiness and easy- going-ness

Likes fitness and being healthy. Likes working out

Has social graces, but doesn't NEED to party a lot

A similar sense of humor / gets my dry humor

Has a good sense of morals / boundaries

Does nice things for me for no other reason then she wants to

Has psychologically healthy friends and avoids unhealthy ones (really important)

Is affectionate and isn't afraid to show it (appropriately in diff situations) - fyi girls that like to f*ck around like to avoid "PDA". I'm a touchy guy so I like it...

Has a life and hobbies outside of me and mine. Gives me space. I need space.

She herself is psychologically healthy and mature. Either grew up in a good home or worked on herself on that issue if she did not.

Is really easy to talk to, and we just click. No effort in communicating and understanding.

Is willing to stay away when she is on the rag..... so many relationship issues would be resolved if this was the case with most girls.

Still working on my list.