What percent of our time should be spent chasing girls versus improving oneself?

[thechosenone2190]

As we all know, time is our most valuable resource. We live on average just 28,000 days. If we take out the time that we spend growing up as children or as senior citizens, this number is much much lower.

With that being said, chasing girls can take up a lot of time. I classify any activity you do that you otherwise wouldn't be doing if you were not interested in meeting more women as time spent chasing girls. Given my definition of chasing girls, I think we can all agree that it can take up a lot of our time. For example, I define the following activities as chasing girls:

-making cold approaches
-spending time with your social circle with the intention of meeting girls
-attending social events with the intention of meeting girls
-going out at night to meet girls
-spending time on internet dating sites
-setting up and going out on dates

On the other hand, we could also be spending our time improving ourselves and investing in our future to help us in the long run to attract quality women. For example, I would consider the following activites as improving oneself:

-working out at the gym
-studying for school / gaining new knowledge to achieve career-related goals
-starting a business
-making money
-playing a sport or instrument
-[insert any other activity here that serves to improve your own intrinsic value as a person like the examples listed above]

I know the real answer to my question is IT DEPENDS. It depends on all kinds of variables such as where you are in your life (age and income) and what you want out of life (LTR vs ONS).

However, let's say for example, a newb in his 20s has the goal of living life to the fullest without any regrets. Of course, he wants to settle down eventually with a woman, but he is not averse to experiencing multiple women in the meantime. Also, he wants to attract the highest quality woman that has a HIGH interest level in him and will never cheat on him.

What percent of his time should be spent chasing girls versus improving himself?

Also, at what points during his life should he be spending more or less time chasing girls or improving himself?

 

[DJ Bax]

I was thinking about this the other day, but on a much smaller scale. Since I have started improving myself there just is not enough time in a day to accomplish everything. Between working out, eating, working, attracting women, doing hobbies to keep my sanity, and getting enough rest so that my workouts are effective.

 

[AlphaGhost]

I never understood (well past HS) why people made a point to set time aside SPECIFICALLY to speaking to women.

Spend 100% of your life bettering yourself, and what comes with it is the womenz. Why would I waste an hr of my time trying to pick up random women, instead, if im walking the street on my way to something else, if I see someone who catches my eye I'll talk to em. If your at a bar having a drink BECAUSE YOU WANT TO and you see a lady that you like, go talk to her.

STOP treating these women like they are something to be conquered, thats why these women are so GASSED up these days, they know men are trying so hard to be appealing JUST for them. Women are a part of our everyday lives, not the meaning of our lives. Keep your power fellas

 

[AlphaGhost]

However, let's say for example, a newb in his 20s has the goal of living life to the fullest without any regrets. Of course, he wants to settle down eventually with a woman, but he is not averse to experiencing multiple women in the meantime. Also, he wants to attract the highest quality woman that has a HIGH interest level in him and will never cheat on him.

This person in your example is the biggest sucker in the world, your looking for perfection in a world that isn't perfect, and the added never cheat on him screams insecurity.

You'll attract the high quality womenz when you display your a high quality man, not every other man who is trying to get into the pants of women at any mean neccesary. Step back and prioritize your life and whats important to you, do things you enjoy doing and things the are bettering yourself and soon you will be a women magnet. Women like the challenge of a man they feel they don't have wrapped around their finger. High quality women likes a man that has his **** together, a man who has other things going on. They want to be made a priority in your life, LET THEM do the work, while you keep getting better.

slight rant lol

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

women are allowed to seek validation from men but not the other way around, a double-standard that i really hate, depsise, loathe, which is why i started that thread that women don't have to improve themselves as much as men do in order to be dating/relationship material, or lay material

 

[vatoloco]

37.725%

No more. No less.

 

[Darth]

37.725%

No more. No less.

LOL. I would put it at 39.243, as per my calculations.

Seriously, though- I would say 1% chasing girls, 99% living your life. Then you find you can chat up girls just like you would chat up an old person, a kid, or etc.- just throw some flirting in on top of it. No need to really go out of your way and spend a lot of extra time on something that will eventually come naturally if you are working on developing yourself.

 

[vatoloco]

LOL. I would put it at 39.243, as per my calculations.

You say toh-may-toe, I say toh-mah-toe...

No need to really go out of your way and spend a lot of extra time on something that will eventually come naturally if you are working on developing yourself.

QFT. I would +1 if I could...

 

[nismo-4]

First you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the women.

If you're in a big city like Atlanta, get your money up. Maximize your hours at work to get that check. If you aren't dating, just disregard females and acquire money.

Case closed.

 

[Plutoman]

42.

 

[backbreaker]

bout tree fiddy

 

[handle]

- Work on your own stuff as much as you can.

- You will find that you need breaks.

- On your breaks do fun stuff.

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

i hate, despise, loathe the rules of the game with a huge burning, raging passion, on the way things are and unfortuneately won't ever be changed, makes me have sympathy and admiration for the late George Sodini

 

[Ihateinitiatingalot7]

it's like, women will never sleep with a man that is of lower value than she is, or date or be in relationship with a man who is of lower value than she is

 

[bigneil]

As many have noted, focus 99-100% on bettering yourself and women will then pursue you.

 

[zekko]

I recall that back when I was in my 20s, I used to think that spending time pursuing women WAS part of improving myself. I was still working to overcome my social anxiety and shyness however, so in that sense it really was time spent improving myself. I bet that's true for a lot of us, although obviously you don't want to make chasing women your whole life. There were plenty of other things I was doing to improve myself also.

I've always said that improving yourself is what your 20s are all about, and I know I was obsessed with it back then. And we didn't have any Don Juan forums either, so it was a natural thing.

I still try to improve myself but it's pretty clear I've reached a plateau in many ways. For instance, I've had to cut back on the amount of weight I lift because my aging joints can't handle what they used to. I doubt that my income potential will increase much more either, since I have been working to set myself up for early retirement, and I'm very close to achieving that. With regard to improving my hobby skills, I notice that making time for improvements in one area only come at the price of setbacks in other areas. So it's mostly a matter of prioritizing what I want to work on. That's what old age looks like, folks.