What now?

[Igetit!]

I would think by ignoring her for so long she would lose interest?

Well,what I'm going for with this is for her to contact you before the 5 days are up,however,for her to be motivated to do so,you'll have to be removed from her presence. To be honest,she seems like an AW,but that can be changed.

She won't lose interest,that is,if she has any in the first place.

You're the prize. What I want to see is if you're the prize to her.

If you are,she WON'T just let you walk out of her life. I'm trying to see if you pull back,will she make any effort to try to keep you,or just let you leave.

Her reaction to this will speak volumes.

I know that if I haven't talked to a girl in 5 days I start to forget about her.

Maybe so,but if you really like the girl,if you're really attracted to her,you wouldn't let 5 days pass by without speaking to her in the first place,right? So I'm trying to see if she'll let that much time pass by without talking to you. If she does,and even more time than that,then maybe she's isn't as into you as you are to her.

So to recap...if she does anything but call me, don't respond.

Right.

If she calls me, I can answer, but I have to keep it short and do not accept any invites to hang unless I basically make it sound like I'm not interested b/c she's too busy.

Yes. Be "polite" to her,not romantic/interested. You know how when you enter a store and the person behind the counter,says,"Hello,how are you doing today"? They're being polite to you. There's no romantic or sexual interest there. Be that way to her if she calls you. Ask her how she's doing,what she's been up to,tell her how you are and what you've been up to,but DON'T SAY ANYTHING about you two going out or hanging out. She'll "sense" that something is different. Then if she suggest you two getting together,then just do like I said in the link I gave you.

Once she begins to make it glaringly obvious that she's making time for me, that is when I say ok?

Right,but make it sound almost as if she had to talk you into it. For example,if she were to call you two days from now,and ask you about hanging out,I'd be like...

You:Wait a moment. I thought you were sick.
her:I was,but I feel better now.
You: Are you sure? I don't want to take you out anywhere if you not 100 percent. If you need another week or two,it's cool.
her:No,i'm better.

You see what I'm saying? This is different. You're not a puppy dog standing on it's hind legs begging for a treat. You're cool,calm,and you've given her the impression that you're WHOLE WITHOUT HER.

You'd like to see her,but if she can't make it,you'd go on like she never even existed.

Before I begin my 5 days should I respond at all to her little fever txt? I haven't written anything back yet.

Sure,go ahead. Nothing long,though. Just tell her you hope she's feeling better,BUT REMEMBER...DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT A DATE,HANGING OUT,OR ASKING WHEN YOU CAN SEE HER.

Just be polite.

You don't have to go 5 days. You can go four. Just go long enough to make her call you.

Do things to keep you mind occupied instead of thinking about her.

 

[penkitten]

maybe she did have a fever?
heck my own momma was fine the other evening and then a few hours later started running a terrible fever and was all sick.
she called to tell me her dr said she has freggin swine flu.

so apparently this flu is like all the other flus, where you are fine until you feel sick and then you are contagious for a few days.

 

[RandallP]

I still haven't responded to her msg. She was very apologetic in her txt but I thought it was lame that she waited until just a couple hours before we were supposed to go out to send it.

On the flip side, she actually is very busy. She works 1 full time job, goes to school at night, and works a part time job on weekends.

 

[Jay Dee]

Us men always like to excuse them each time with their busy stories... really need to take them with a pinch of salt, as being busy wouldn't stop a chick hooking up with you, even for a few minutes. Keep doing your ignoring, as it tells her she needs to make more effort with you - Igetit!'s tip should really help rebalance matters (if she's into you) Keep your focus off her and game a few more ladies.

Good luck bruv, I'm rooting for you.

...On the flip side, she actually is very busy. She works 1 full time job, goes to school at night, and works a part time job on weekends.

 

[Igetit!]

On the flip side, she actually is very busy. She works 1 full time job, goes to school at night, and works a part time job on weekends.

This may be true,but...


IF SHE'S INTERESTED IN YOU,SHE'LL MAKE TIME TO SEE YOU.


I don't care how busy you are,if you get sick enough,you'll make time to go to the doctor.

I don't care how busy you are,if you get hungry enough,you'll make time to eat dinner. Heck,you might even steal the food if you get hungry enough.

If the need or desire is present and/or strong enough,you'll take the steps necessary to get the desire met.


If you fall for the "I'm busy" line,then don't be surprised if in a week or two,you get a text from her telling you about the "new guy" she just met.

The desire to "mate" is present in ALL HUMANS,includung her.

She's not so busy that she'd be willing to allow "a prize" (you),someone highly desirable to mate with,just wonder off.

A prize is a prize for a reason. It's special,rare,highly sought after.

It's not something you run into everyday.

So for her to let this special,rare,highly sought after prize (you) to potentially be lost because she's "busy"? Uhh...no.

That's not going to happen.

Just continue with the "no contact".

 

[909pua]

So update:

..why even respond to my calls or txts at all if you aren't interested. She always responds and a lot of times she initiates the communication first.

ahahha she's trying to use you as a backup!

 

[RandallP]

excellent advice guys. thank you for the encouragement!

I did not respond to her text and guess what. Today I got a text that read "Hope you know that I felt really bad last night. Had a fever all night. I hope you believe me."

Sounds like she's sincere? I mean I figure if she was just blowing me off for something else she wouldn't even put the effort in to try and completely convince me that she really was sick.

I dunno guys, but again, thank you for all the encouragement and advice!! Not responding for 5 days!

 

[909pua]

what do you do if after 5 days they dont make contact or call you? NEXT her?

 

[RandallP]

Just wanted to give an update:


Went out tonight with some friends. Got 3 numbers from three diff girls. HB7, HB8 and another HB8. Wasn't hard at all. Just made eye contact with them a few times and then after playin it cool a few minutes made an approach. My fav was a group of 3 I approached and 2 of her friends started cheering on the girl I was talking to....like doing fist pumps and sh*t. I could see them out of the corner of my eye. I guess she made it clear to them before I came over that she was interested. I had been making eyes with her for at least 10 minutes before I walked over. We chatted for a bit and then she offered her number. I'll give her a call next week. Sh*t I can't even remember the other 2 girls names I added to my phone.

Oh fawk yeah (sorry still buzzing from the alky), I remember one was a blonde with green eyes. She was from up north somewhere. She actually approached me and asked for a cig. I told her smoking was gross and I didn't approve of it. lol She talked to me for a good 15 minutes and then gave me her number. I told her she could take me to lunch next week. lol We'll see what happens.

edit: I've gone through my phone twice and I can't figure out what the 3rd girls name was. lol Damnit! She was the hottest one. I'm just going to send a mass text next week to the potential names and see who responds. I may be meeting some girls for lunch without know for sure which girl they are. Wish me luck.

 

[Igetit!]

what do you do if after 5 days they dont make contact or call you? NEXT her?

No.

What you do is you call her. Pay attention to her to see if she seems glad to hear from you,or if she appears to care less. Then,see what she's been up to,then you ask her out again.

If she says yes,you take her out,but if she starts giving you the run-a-round like she did before the "no contact",excuse yourself from off the phone/end the call,then you next her.

If being removed from her life for a period of time has absolutely no effect whatsoever,then she's not interested.

The whole point of this is to raise her interest level,but there HAS TO BE AN INTEREST PRESENT to be raised. So if going no contact has no effect at all,then there's no interest on her part.

If there's no interest,then stop wasting your time,and move on.

 

[RandallP]

She came by my office today! :yes: I didn't call her or anything. I was a little apprehensive to talk to her. I still felt a little anger inside about her essentially standing me up (I didn't say this but I'm sure she could tell since I stayed behind my desk for the first few minutes). She explained that she really was sick and was sorry we didn't get to go out. I hope I didn't screw up here, but I told her that I believed her. We have another date set up for Thur at 7.

 

[Igetit!]

She came by my office today! :yes: I didn't call her or anything. I was a little apprehensive to talk to her. I still felt a little anger inside about her essentially standing me up (I didn't say this but I'm sure she could tell since I stayed behind my desk for the first few minutes). She explained that she really was sick and was sorry we didn't get to go out. I hope I didn't screw up here, but I told her that I believed her.

No,it's fine that you told her that you believed her. In fact,I would have been like,"Why would you think I didn't believe you?".

I would have said that because THERE IS A REASON she thinks you doubt her,and my guess would be because of the no contact.

So she just out of the blue showed up at you job. This simply proves my point about not falling for the "I'm busy" line. You said that she's "very busy",that she has a full time job,goes to school at night,and works part time on the weekends.

She does ALL THAT,and yet,she still found time to come to your job just to see you.


There. You see? I don't care how busy a woman is,if she wants to see you,SHE'LL FIND TIME TO SEE YOU.

And that's exactly what she did.

You know what that means,don't you? It means she does have an interest in you after all. It may have been a little low at one point,but it has risen. The "no contact" IS working. Notice what I said: The no contact is working,not WORKED. In other words,there's still work to do.

Wow,and you didn't even have to wait the whole 5 days.

We have another date set up for Thur at 7.

Ok,question here. You guys have a date set up. Tell me...

Who's idea was this? Who set this up?

Man,I LOVE TO SEE when the info here on the forum actually yields the promised results! That's cool man.

Good luck with her.

 

[facadegeniality]

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