What NOT to do?

[S.Y.L]

I think I try to hard as well

 

[Zebedee]

I have never understood why a lot of women are turned off by a guy asking them out or texting too much. If a girl finds a guy attractive, funny, fun to be around then stuff like that shouldnt matter.

 

[WCF]

I just wanted to point out that everyone is different and so is every situation. One of the worst things you can do on this site is try to apply advice that doesn't fit with you personally. For example, if you're not a jerk by nature, unless it's completely obvious your joking, don't try so hard to act like one! What works for one person does NOT work for everyone.

As for the large list posted earlier in this thread, I agree most of those things should generally be avoided. I disagree with some, however. I definitely think there are some times when you can compliment a girl for being pretty; many find it flattering. Also, I don't think it hurts to imply how thin she looks at times. My point is, that everyone has a different style and, believe it or not, so do girls. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by trying too hard to follow these "rules." They are not set in stone. Think of them as tips that you should take with a grain of salt.

I have never understood why a lot of women are turned off by a guy asking them out or texting too much. If a girl finds a guy attractive, funny, fun to be around then stuff like that shouldnt matter.

A lot of the times, it just shows desperation, which is never good. Desperation is the result of something else where you're lacking, be it social skills or confidence or whatever. Many will think "Doesn't this guy have anything better to do than to text me all the time?" or "This guy must be really into me" (many times, resulting in the end of the thrill of the chase)

 

[Amberjhons]

Just do it

 

[zekko]

I have never understood why a lot of women are turned off by a guy asking them out or texting too much. If a girl finds a guy attractive, funny, fun to be around then stuff like that shouldnt matter.

If a girl finds a guy attractive, you're right, stuff like that probably doesn't matter, she probably loves it. The problem is when you haven't built the attraction yet and do this stuff, it can put the woman in a position of power where she knows you want her but she doesn't really care. That's when it can seem desperate and kill the thrill of the chase like WCF said.

I think you want to seem interested in her to spark her interest, but leave some doubt in her mind so she wonders about it.

 

[S.Y.L]

You have to show a little bit of interest, by talking to her and asking her to hang out, thats enough interest to show that you want to be with her, but your not going all the way out and saying I LIKE YOU either.

That way, she will be guessing if you like her or not, if you ask her to hang out.