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Don Juan
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Over the past 6 years I’ve developed a firm no dinner first date rule. Early on I would bend the knee. I enforce my boundary now with ease. But I’m curious what’s the reason lots of women, maybe even 10-20% or more push for this?
the simple answer is they see you as a provider and just want a meal, or maybe they subconsciously want some assurance of investment early on. I don’t know. In hindsight, I seem to recall most of the women that insisted on this, and we would then go to dinner; they were typically needy and with red flags. So something is probably linked in that respect.
Thoughts? How do you enforce this boundary, if you do? I just say “I have a no first date dinner rule, don’t be lame” Or something similar.
the simple answer is they see you as a provider and just want a meal, or maybe they subconsciously want some assurance of investment early on. I don’t know. In hindsight, I seem to recall most of the women that insisted on this, and we would then go to dinner; they were typically needy and with red flags. So something is probably linked in that respect.
Thoughts? How do you enforce this boundary, if you do? I just say “I have a no first date dinner rule, don’t be lame” Or something similar.