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So, the other night I created a thread about an experience I had with an attention ***** at the gym that I had the misfortune of crossing paths with. Many of the posters seem to have 0 concept of what attention whoring is, why women do this, etc. I'm here to fill you guys in, hopefully there may be someone reading this thread that will learn something.
As men, we gain a sense of validation through our accomplishments in life. This could be related to success in things like career, your finances/wealth, sports, etc. All of these things in some way or another point to having some form of social status. Some of these feelings of validation can be from both internal and external sources. One thing I've noticed is those that feel the need to be flashy or show off need to have the approval of others, whereas there are others that can enjoy their success quietly.
Now, how does this relate to women-
Women gain a sense of validation through the amount of attention that they can garner from others, particularly in regards to their looks and attractiveness. Women want to feel that they are pretty, desired, etc. Women that are insecure with themselves, their appearance, attractiveness, etc. may engage in behaviors that ease these feelings of distress.
One interesting trend I've noticed over the years is that some of the craziest s l u t s out there are often unattractive. They naturally don't get much attention from men, due to being unattractive, so they attain this by being incredibly loose with a lot of men. When a man is in the middle of sex with a woman that is the pinnacle of the degree of attention she can be getting from that man at that moment in time.
Another thing to consider with attention *****s is that some of them may not even be unattractive, in fact some of them could be attractive but just incredibly insecure.
Another factor to consider is that in recent times women have been conditioned to heavily use social media. In a manner, they have been programmed to need external validation and attention, a sort of dopamine response is at play here. Think of this like a drug of sorts, as these women become desensitized to this they require increasingly more and more attention in order to experience the same feelings. This is going to require engaging in some behavior that over time becomes further out of control. The problem is that there is the potential for this to where they are putting themselves and others into compromised and uncomfortable spots for NO reason.
Social media and dating apps are a big part of the problem here but should be seen as indirect attention seeking behaviors. You can see this with gym thots and instagram *****s who post all these thirst trap photos, some of which is pretty provocative lol. This is actually incredibly common now and there are countless women that are engaging in this behavior for no real benefit other than gaining as much attention as possible.
However, some women that are more bold may actually turn to real life interactions to fill this need as well. This could involve regularly leading on men for ultimately nothing but attention and validation. I've both experienced and seen this a lot in the gym environment, a place that is the perfect breeding ground for this behavior. This is an environment that is now heavily populated with attention seeking women and also a place where they feel comfortable leading on men in a non isolated environment.
These are messed up women that will think nothing of using you for their own benefit. What I still question is if they are consciously aware of their behavior and how it affects others, or rather are completely oblivious and haven't a clue.
As men, we gain a sense of validation through our accomplishments in life. This could be related to success in things like career, your finances/wealth, sports, etc. All of these things in some way or another point to having some form of social status. Some of these feelings of validation can be from both internal and external sources. One thing I've noticed is those that feel the need to be flashy or show off need to have the approval of others, whereas there are others that can enjoy their success quietly.
Now, how does this relate to women-
Women gain a sense of validation through the amount of attention that they can garner from others, particularly in regards to their looks and attractiveness. Women want to feel that they are pretty, desired, etc. Women that are insecure with themselves, their appearance, attractiveness, etc. may engage in behaviors that ease these feelings of distress.
One interesting trend I've noticed over the years is that some of the craziest s l u t s out there are often unattractive. They naturally don't get much attention from men, due to being unattractive, so they attain this by being incredibly loose with a lot of men. When a man is in the middle of sex with a woman that is the pinnacle of the degree of attention she can be getting from that man at that moment in time.
Another thing to consider with attention *****s is that some of them may not even be unattractive, in fact some of them could be attractive but just incredibly insecure.
Another factor to consider is that in recent times women have been conditioned to heavily use social media. In a manner, they have been programmed to need external validation and attention, a sort of dopamine response is at play here. Think of this like a drug of sorts, as these women become desensitized to this they require increasingly more and more attention in order to experience the same feelings. This is going to require engaging in some behavior that over time becomes further out of control. The problem is that there is the potential for this to where they are putting themselves and others into compromised and uncomfortable spots for NO reason.
Social media and dating apps are a big part of the problem here but should be seen as indirect attention seeking behaviors. You can see this with gym thots and instagram *****s who post all these thirst trap photos, some of which is pretty provocative lol. This is actually incredibly common now and there are countless women that are engaging in this behavior for no real benefit other than gaining as much attention as possible.
However, some women that are more bold may actually turn to real life interactions to fill this need as well. This could involve regularly leading on men for ultimately nothing but attention and validation. I've both experienced and seen this a lot in the gym environment, a place that is the perfect breeding ground for this behavior. This is an environment that is now heavily populated with attention seeking women and also a place where they feel comfortable leading on men in a non isolated environment.
These are messed up women that will think nothing of using you for their own benefit. What I still question is if they are consciously aware of their behavior and how it affects others, or rather are completely oblivious and haven't a clue.
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