What men should understand about attention seeking women (rant)

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So, the other night I created a thread about an experience I had with an attention ***** at the gym that I had the misfortune of crossing paths with. Many of the posters seem to have 0 concept of what attention whoring is, why women do this, etc. I'm here to fill you guys in, hopefully there may be someone reading this thread that will learn something.

As men, we gain a sense of validation through our accomplishments in life. This could be related to success in things like career, your finances/wealth, sports, etc. All of these things in some way or another point to having some form of social status. Some of these feelings of validation can be from both internal and external sources. One thing I've noticed is those that feel the need to be flashy or show off need to have the approval of others, whereas there are others that can enjoy their success quietly.

Now, how does this relate to women-

Women gain a sense of validation through the amount of attention that they can garner from others, particularly in regards to their looks and attractiveness. Women want to feel that they are pretty, desired, etc. Women that are insecure with themselves, their appearance, attractiveness, etc. may engage in behaviors that ease these feelings of distress.

One interesting trend I've noticed over the years is that some of the craziest s l u t s out there are often unattractive. They naturally don't get much attention from men, due to being unattractive, so they attain this by being incredibly loose with a lot of men. When a man is in the middle of sex with a woman that is the pinnacle of the degree of attention she can be getting from that man at that moment in time.

Another thing to consider with attention *****s is that some of them may not even be unattractive, in fact some of them could be attractive but just incredibly insecure.

Another factor to consider is that in recent times women have been conditioned to heavily use social media. In a manner, they have been programmed to need external validation and attention, a sort of dopamine response is at play here. Think of this like a drug of sorts, as these women become desensitized to this they require increasingly more and more attention in order to experience the same feelings. This is going to require engaging in some behavior that over time becomes further out of control. The problem is that there is the potential for this to where they are putting themselves and others into compromised and uncomfortable spots for NO reason.

Social media and dating apps are a big part of the problem here but should be seen as indirect attention seeking behaviors. You can see this with gym thots and instagram *****s who post all these thirst trap photos, some of which is pretty provocative lol. This is actually incredibly common now and there are countless women that are engaging in this behavior for no real benefit other than gaining as much attention as possible.

However, some women that are more bold may actually turn to real life interactions to fill this need as well. This could involve regularly leading on men for ultimately nothing but attention and validation. I've both experienced and seen this a lot in the gym environment, a place that is the perfect breeding ground for this behavior. This is an environment that is now heavily populated with attention seeking women and also a place where they feel comfortable leading on men in a non isolated environment.

These are messed up women that will think nothing of using you for their own benefit. What I still question is if they are consciously aware of their behavior and how it affects others, or rather are completely oblivious and haven't a clue.
 
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However, some women that are more bold may actually turn to real life interactions to fill this need as well. This could involve regularly leading on men for ultimately nothing but attention and validation.
Boy, she really hurt you, didn't she?
 

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What the feck? You made yet ANOTHER thread about a woman who talked to you in ...2018(!!!!!!!!)

Mods, remove this nonsense please. And @SW15 you a solid poster, stop associating with this retard, he makes you look bad as well.

Pathetic and yet entertaining as FECK

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What the feck? You made yet ANOTHER thread about a woman who talked to you in ...2018(!!!!!!!!)
I think a bigger problem is the autistic mansplaining as if we're all dummies here who don't know women crave attention and validation. Come on, for most members the reason for this forum is learning how to circumvent and manipulate this female craving for validation seeking to the man's advantage.
 

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Despite how bad your last post was, I'm not going to be too harsh on you ...but I will say this.

It is PERTINENT that you understand very quickly the basics of social dynamics with women and how you are basically coming off as a desperate and frustrated individual who blames women for all your misfortune. Just gotta turn to vast acceptance and start being better.
Much of what you said is true about attention.. But it seems like you're so fixated on the women who are attention *****s or unideal women that men would avoid, rather than the awesome, wholesome, selfless and giving women there are out there.. probably because you haven't experienced them.

Blaming women is for weak men. Whens the last time you saw any alpha male blame a chick for anything that happened to him? Follow my profile, start reading all my posts.. dig through them if you need to and just learn the mindset of someone who's doing pretty well in life in general and with women (to put it modestly).

Success with women starts with first havingthe right understanding of how women operate and having the right attitude when it comes to women. Not an angry, resentful or cynical one, but one that sees women as the gentle and sensitive creatures they are at their core.

Also understand no one is trying to make you feel bad or feel like sh.t, but people are just giving you a dose of reality.
 

Peace and Quiet

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Blaming women is for weak men.
You're right.

Actually, any type of seeking blame is a weakness. Mistakes are made, rectify them and try not to repeat them in the future. Don't look for someone or something to blame for your misfortune.

Also understand no one is trying to make you feel bad or feel like sh.t, but people are just giving you a dose of reality.
Even when they do so in a way you don't appreciate. Learn the essence, not the words.
 

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Most if not all little girls are adored by their fathers. That teaches them that daddy is a source of approval, attention and love. That becomes the programming for the rest of their lives. Insecure girls didn’t get enough from daddy so they look for it elsewhere, aka daddy issues. Some women desperately need the attention (your gym hoe) while others do not. There is a spectrum, get used to it. As an introvert, I get exhausted around women who will not shut up and have to be the center of attention. It comes off as desperate and narcissistic. Ever notice fatter women seem to be more bold and obnoxious? Wearing loud clothes and opinionated. Basically because they are butt ugly and get no attention so they feel they need make drastic gestures to be seen.

When I went to the gym by my house there used to be a little hotty that would basically horde the squat rack the entire time I worked out. She would sit there and wait until guys would come in before she did her squats. She definitely had nice glutes but never talked to anyone. She got her attention needs filled by all the men looking as they walked past her.

I’ve started to notice this at high school football games. Some of the moms show up in workout clothes. They thankfully are the ones that are hotter and tighter. I’m not complaining but it seems completely obvious they are looking for attention since they stick out like a sore thumb. Makes you wonder sometimes if they have regular clothes.
 

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My kids are teenagers now, but when they were in primary school I was a stay-at-home dad (private enterprise, working from home) and worked my way through quite a few of the mothers, most of them 15-20 years younger and always dressed in yoga / aerobics outfits. Mothers with young children are often sex-starved for some reason.
 
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