What makes girls obsessed with a man?

[Captain Rizz]

Most people have encountered women who still are fixated on a male ex after years and years. Some people have even encountered a man who has this effect on women.

This is different from being good with women. It's different from making them attracted to you or getting them into bed, and it's even kind of different from being able to easily get the girlfriend of your choice.

So what is it? What creates this enduring obsession in women?

 

[Money & Muscle]

High Score Theory

 

[NealIRC]

Emotional connection, for some cases.

The real question is can women be infatuated just by seeing a man, i.e., walking shirtless or something.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Most people have encountered women who still are fixated on a male ex after years and years. Some people have even encountered a man who has this effect on women.
So what is it? What creates this enduring obsession in women?

Emotional unavailability.

 

[Money & Muscle]

Emotional connection, for some cases.

The real question is can women be infatuated just by seeing a man, i.e., walking shirtless or something.

Aren't you involuntarily celibate?

 

[NealIRC]

Aren't you involuntarily celibate?

Yes, the hard part is finding the situation.

 

[Captain Rizz]

Emotional unavailability.

I think you're in the right direction.

Women I've been obsessed with often are... uncapturable. Or they can only be "captured" for a while. They are hard to get and I have this burning desire to get to the bottom of them.

This brings me to another question: can we compare what makes men obsessed with women to what makes women obsessed with men

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

This brings me to another question: can we compare what makes men obsessed with women to what makes women obsessed with men

You want what you don't have. Except some humans don't want what you want. Which makes you want them.

 

[Captain Rizz]

You want what you don't have. Except some humans don't want what you want. Which makes you want them.

Sure. But is this principle equal between the genders?

 

[Money & Muscle]

Yes, the hard part is finding the situation.

I guess I'm confused why you're advising men on women, when you can't get one.
I'm not trying to shame you, I'm just saying that I don't trust personal trainers that are out of shape.

 

[Captain Rizz]

I guess I'm confused why you're advising men on women, when you can't get one.
I'm not trying to shame you, I'm just saying that I don't trust personal trainers that are out of shape.

I'd also say that his advice here is wrong (or at least very incomplete)

 

[Money & Muscle]

I'd also say that his advice here is wrong (or at least very incomplete)

Right. If his advice worked, wouldn't he be getting laid..?

The thread I posted above goes into a lot of detail and I believe this is the cause.

 

[TheGambino]

Her chasing his validation, attention and time.

 

[Captain Rizz]

That's an effect of obsession, not a cause.

 

[TheGambino]

That's an effect of obsession, not a cause.

your having fun hooking up with her and then letting her chase and text 100% of the time makes her obsessed with you and thinking about you.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly expecting a different results each time.

 

[Captain Rizz]

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly expecting a different results each time.

I'm not sure how this relates to my question. Could you please explain?

 

[NealIRC]

I guess I'm confused why you're advising men on women, when you can't get one.
I'm not trying to shame you, I'm just saying that I don't trust personal trainers that are out of shape.

You didn't comprehend my post?

I said "The hard part is finding the right situation."

And I'm not 1 to fake a situation or hire people to make a situation.

So since I have no situation with women, then I have no interaction with women.

A lot of the hardest part with women is finding them, and being in the best situation.

A girl on a train doodling on her phone and not being aware of her surroundings with plugs in her ears is not the easy type to make a situation with.

I'd also say that his advice here is wrong (or at least very incomplete)

But you're unable to disprove my statements, so.

 

[Captain Rizz]

But you're unable to disprove my statements, so.

...?
How do I "disprove" statements on a forum? What is your theory of verification? Lmao

 

[NealIRC]

...?
How do I "disprove" statements on a forum? What is your theory of verification? Lmao

You said I'm wrong, but didn't say why I'm wrong?