What makes a guy "HOT" according to women

[Bonhomme]

It's all in the attitude.

I can vouch for your results, too, Jon E.

People get this bassackwards idea that compliments are bad. But it's not the compliments that are bad, but the false attitude in which they're doled out by many chumps.

The charming, confident man who has it together is very attractive to women who have decent self-esteem.

The jerk can be attractive on account of his image, looks, and/or the fact he might be the only guy around who doesn't hand his nuts to the gal for her to crush.

But I still think the masculine, charming man will still get the better women.

Good point about all the hostility to women on this board, too. It must be a knee-jerk reaction from downtrodden former (?) AFCs. It took a while for me to get over it and see that I was the one to blame for not knowing when to leave a gal alone when I was a bit of a chump, too.

 

[360]

What makes a guy hot?

Just look at me



ok i will go back to my corner now......sob....




I think women like pretty boys, but like average guys with confidence too. (i guess i need to work on that)
If a woman had the choose between the two the pretty boy would probably come out top, but it depends on the woman.

 

[Jon E]

Re: It's all in the attitude.

Originally posted by Bonhomme
I can vouch for your results, too, Jon E.

People get this bassackwards idea that compliments are bad. But it's not the compliments that are bad, but the false attitude in which they're doled out by many chumps.

The charming, confident man who has it together is very attractive to women who have decent self-esteem.

The jerk can be attractive on account of his image, looks, and/or the fact he might be the only guy around who doesn't hand his nuts to the gal for her to crush.

But I still think the masculine, charming man will still get the better women.

Good point about all the hostility to women on this board, too. It must be a knee-jerk reaction from downtrodden former (?) AFCs. It took a while for me to get over it and see that I was the one to blame for not knowing when to leave a gal alone when I was a bit of a chump, too.

I completely agree 100%, especially about the "masculine, charming man." That's exactly what Im talking about.

Originally posted by Zero0ne
I am in agreement with Jon E, but he might need to explain himself a bit more for the rest of the class to catch up.

Watch Mickey Rourke in the movie "9 and 1/2 Weeks" and you'll see the type of character I (and women everywhere) have been talking about. I know Ive had at least a half a dozen women tell me they get wet watching that movie. He's supremely confidant, dominant, powerful but still very charming.


Women are still attracted to physical appearances, just no where near as much as we are.

In your countless hours of searching the web for porn, how many sites have you come across that were intended for straight women to look at naked guys?

How many women do you see buying a Play Girl magazine?

When a guy is banging the hell out of a girl in a porno, where does she keep looking?

Why do women always want to cuddle after sex?


men = visiual
women = emotional

 

[tmpgstx]

It's all about balance. The more feminine the woman will want the more masculine man. The attraction is just there, right from the first few minutes. Personality can enhance it even further, or degrade it. It's just that personality plays a more important role in this instance for a woman than it does for a man.

It is first sparked by some visual attraction, followed up by personality enhancing it, or turning her off. Likewise, a man or even a woman's personality can enhance a mild physical or visual attraction.

Think about it. It's not so much what you say. Personality is more than just saying the 'right' things.

I do agree that the more charming, 'nice' but not over-accomodating guy will get a more decent girl. She is not intimidated by geniune compliments and welcomes them.

 

[belividere]

Jon, I agree to many of the points that you have brought up. I have to bring up the fact that many of these things that women want are broad generalizations that capture what certain women are looking for at certain times in their lifes. When I was a teenager I was bagging chicks on my looks, towards the end of my teens into my early 20's I was still using my looks but also my charm, personality and social proof to score girls, now in my mid-twenties I have had success with my intellect and personality. This change in attraction will continue I assume until I stop playing the game. My point being is that anytime I have pursued a girl for a longer term relationship of course my personality has been the deciding factor but when it was ONS or flings I really doubt that the girls would have been interested in how big of a stereotypical nerd I really am. Or really how I could charm the pants off of them. They wanted to take their soggy panties off because of physical attraction anyways.

I also think that charm is very relative. I would not grab a girls hand, look her in the eye and compliment her until she actually gave me something to compliment her on. If I wanted a quick lay then maybe but if I wanted an LTR with her than god no. This almost reeks of desperation. I am not a soap opera star nor am I a fairytale character. I prefer to save compliments for when I deem them appropriate. I was not sure upon reading your post if you do the same or you readily compliment a girl without justification.

 

[Jon E]

Originally posted by belividere
I also think that charm is very relative. I would not grab a girls hand, look her in the eye and compliment her until she actually gave me something to compliment her on. If I wanted a quick lay then maybe but if I wanted an LTR with her than god no. This almost reeks of desperation. I am not a soap opera star nor am I a fairytale character. I prefer to save compliments for when I deem them appropriate. I was not sure upon reading your post if you do the same or you readily compliment a girl without justification.

That's a good point, but it depends on about a hundred different things. The type of personality she has, how long Ive known her, how responsive she is being to me, how much I think she's into me but I mostly look for how nervous she is.

 

[backbreaker]

you guys are in right sea but on the wrong boat.

Why gives a flying **** what the woman wants?

THE DECISION THAT HAS TO BE MADE WHEN YOU APPROCACH A WOMEN OR ARE TALKING TO A WOMEN IS RATHER YOU ARE GOING TO TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT. DOES SHE LIVE UP TO YOUR STANDARDS.

I can't repeat this enough times, and as long as you have that "why does women want" you will always, always look at the women as the prize, because if 100 women all said they wanted a man that listend to backstreet boys and wore american eagle 365 days a year, you would change your image to make them happy.

T HAT RIGHT THERE MY FRIEND, IS WHAT A REAL WOMEN ISN'T ATTRACTED TO.

This is you, you know you are attractive, you know you are a catch, does she fit your standards. She has a problem with the way you dress? That's funny, tell her to get out of your face and put someone else that understands how valuable you are in her place. that's the mindset you are supposed to have.

 

[Lifeforce]

I'm all with Jariel.

It's hard to take anyone serious who says looks is not important when girls go all horny and say unbelievable dirty **** when they see my body. Looks is a huge advantage and with game you'll beat anyone out off the sky.

Backbreaker

If you know you have stuff to offer you'll be able to get the attitude where you sort out the women and judge them for what you want.

 

[DJHoolahoop]

Originally posted by Don Juanabbe

These women are full of sh*t. They're the same ones who would cheat on their AFC boyfriends the first chance they get - with me.

Maybe that's why they want AFC's, cuz the AFC is the only dude who will put up with her shyt and let her get away with it.

 

[Surfboard]

Ha, this forum is funny.

Talk about a sense of entitlement.

I find it extremely amusing that you girls think you even deserve all that from a potential guy. All because you have female genitalia? What makes you think these so called dream guys would even be interested in you? What makes you girls so special?

You'd better make sure you're something damn special if you want something that special, guys with the qualities you guys want don't grow on trees, and when you do meet him, don't be too disappointed when he doesn't even give you the time of day.

Spoiled comes to mind.

Maybe you gals should concentrate on improving yourselves before you get so undeservedly demanding and picky with guys, otherwise you're going to hit your 30's, your looks will start going, and you'll have never developed any kind of personality whatsoever to compensate. Then you'll be a miserable bunch of demanding, brainwashed Oprafiles wondering why with your crap attitude you could never land and keep a man.

Ironic how you seem to hold guys up to a certain standard, yet you do not expect the same from yourselves. Hell, most of you are probably fat anyway.

This was a response from "UNATTAINABLE" on the original Bad Girls thread. I was going to sign up on that forum to write a response pretty much like the one above, but the guy beat me to it.

And "NO," I'm not a woman hater. I just wish these women would improve themselves on these same qualities that they look for in a man.

 

[penkitten]

omigod...
stop going to badgirlswirl
it will rot your mind like a soap opera..

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