What kind of father did you have and what did he teach you?

[SoldMySoul]

I've posted about my dad before. Good man in every respect, just didn't teach me jack about women. He's my role model, I strive to be more like him.

I feel that! As far as striving to be like my dad, I do in regards to a career. My dad was stellar in his career (had two) and really did his thing well. Now my dad and are much better after I have grown up and understand the way the world works. There are many times I am down on myself because I am not doing as well as my father when I he was his age.


That does not mean I am down and out, just means I need to do more work! I am working on it.

 

[Warrior74]

I feel that! As far as striving to be like my dad, I do in regards to a career. My dad was stellar in his career (had two) and really did his thing well. Now my dad and are much better after I have grown up and understand the way the world works. There are many times I am down on myself because I am not doing as well as my father when I he was his age.


That does not mean I am down and out, just means I need to do more work! I am working on it.

Yah, my dad pulled himself up from the slums. He never rose higher than middle class but he was a hard worker. He always told me I was lazy, which I was. At my age he built our home was married and had two kids. So ya I get that same thing, failing to live up. Which is why I have a job and a buisness and I'm working my butt off. He recently told me that he was proud of the man I had become and that really hit home with me.

 

[countermart]

"He believed that women's words could be believed - even when their actions proved their intent - and that they could be trusted to be rational." Rollo.

If only it were true?

I am teaching my son to listen to everything a woman says, but to pay attention to what she does.

With women it's blah, blah, blah...action...blah, blah, blah...action. The action is the only thing that matters, the rest is just noise. Sometimes wrapped in a pretty package and sometimes not.

Countermart

 

[backbreaker]

I can honestly say, that everything i've done in my life, my dad is still my role model. I still look up to the man. My dad is so pimp it's ridiculous

funny, TODAY is his birthday. right now. October 10th, 1960.

Dad was grew up in the streets, youngest of 4, from a working / lower class family and not only banged 100's of prime ass, pulled himself out to make it to upper middle class, 3 son's, 1 who is a successful business person, another who is half way through college.

My dad taught me how a man should act, a real man. say what you mean and mean what you say, how to deal with problems and not ***** about them, a woman's proper place in your life and what women except out of a man. Dad daught me the importance of having style and not just throwing on blue jeans/polo shirt, the importance of good credit.

even mom made my dad out to be this evil monster, but truth be told the older i got, the more i sided iwth him, my mom is/was a **** and my dad wasn't going to stick around for the party the rest of his life.

Today my dad is 51 years old, sitting at home with his step daughter and my little brother, with his 36 year old redheaded 6'1 wife, probably getting his knob buffered watching the cowboys, drinking a corona. Cheers to you dad.

What i REALLY like about my dad, is he gets me. I don't have to call him everyday for him to know i love him to death. We might talk 3-4 times a year and we always pick up where we left off. I will probably go home for Christmas, and pop up over his house, and it would be like i never left.

Many of the world's greatest achievers and richest men are actually trying foremost to get the recognition they never got from their dads, even if only subconsciously.

I would be lying if i did not say that one of my driving forces in my life is to stick it to my mom at every waking opportunity. more than money, women, all that.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Backbreaker, you seem to be the exception mostly in regards to dad. My dad and I have a decent relationship going on as I try and to let go his past transgressions. I am striving to become a better man improving just about all aspects of my life.

I hope your relationship is doing better since your hiatus from here and glad to see you back. I do recall you saying sometimes you have to take a break from here and it seems you are back in true form.

Men really should try to be the best father figure you possibly can be if you have children.

 

[Colossus]

I liken my dad to superman or batman in the sense that he is almost morally incorruptible. He has ALWAYS done right by his own spiritual/ethical code---sometimes even to a fault. My dad is the kind of guy who wont even throw a gum wrapper on the sidewalk because it's his trash and he is responsible for it. He is at the top of his profession and is without question respected by all who know him. I am extremely grateful for my dad. He has always supported my endeavors and has always been there for me as a father, even when I was a dumbsh1t.

When it comes to women, however, he missed the boat on a few things. He has a ton of practical wisdom when it comes to women, but he has been AFC in his relationships in the sense he let his feelings get the better of him. In the last 5 years or so he has become more of a realist and less of an idealist and we can relate a lot better on the subject. His last divorce really changed him, for the better.

AFC tendencies undoubtedly come from our fathers...even if they were well-meaning. All fathers make mistakes, but I think it's important to recognize the mistakes of our fathers before we pass them to our own kids.

 

[backbreaker]

Backbreaker, you seem to be the exception mostly in regards to dad. My dad and I have a decent relationship going on as I try and to let go his past transgressions. I am striving to become a better man improving just about all aspects of my life.

I hope your relationship is doing better since your hiatus from here and glad to see you back. I do recall you saying sometimes you have to take a break from here and it seems you are back in true form.

Men really should try to be the best father figure you possibly can be if you have children.

even what my dad did, i never was really mad at him. that's just dad being dad. he pushes the boundaries, and hell if she did it, he did me a favor.

we just don't talk alot, never have been the call my parents everyday type. that's just me. i have a life. my mom takes that personally. my dad doesn't. if i dont' call my mom for a month, let alone 3 or 4 i have to hear it for about 30 minutes on blah blah this why don't you care blah blah blah. i can call my dad now and he will say "dude i gotta tell you about this girl i ****ed the other night (seriously)"

certain tings you know you get form certain parents. physically i am a spitting image of my mom. spitting freaking image, which isn't a bad thing i have a pretty mother. dad is not bad looking obviously but my mom doesn't look anywhere near her age and still has no problem attracting men.

but personality, i could not be any more like my dad. we both are center of attention type people, not attention seekers, but, i walk in room with 10 people, generally within 20 minutes, i'm going to do something or say something that's going to make me or my conversation the center of attention. rather it be an opinion i have or whatever it is. my dad is just like that.r every week we would go to the barber shop and by the time we left we were all in some debate over some **** my dad had started, rather it be the cowboys, eating *****, doesn't matter. you either love us or hate us, there is no in between, we don't mince words. We get each other becuase we take after each other a lot. There is a connect between him and I that is not there between him and my brother becuase my brother is nothing like us. he can't call up my brother and send pictures of a woman getting a train ran on them (which my dad has done before). cool cool dad. he has his issues but who doesn't.

 

[TheAsianLoverReturns]

My dad was a little kid during the Korean War, same with my mom.

I cannot imagine the death, the destruction, the pain they felt growing up.

My dad was a violent drunk. He couldn't hold a job. He had trouble adjusting to a society that looked down upon people of his race. His heavy accent made it worse.

He cared more about his friends than his children. In fact, a group of guys mugged his friend and he jumped in even though he was greatly outnumbered. He took a severe beating, but was fine a couple days later.

We were already poor, since he spent so much money on drinking, we had very little to survive.

He was a womanizer and women even called him at home.

I'm like him in some ways, and very different in other ways.

I don't drink. I've never been able to hold a job either, but I make far more money in my business and investing than my father ever did. I have no problems playing women. I'm very kind to children and love the chance to spoil my nephew. I'm tough like my dad, I've never been knocked out or knocked down as a boxer. I fought top notch champions while only having mediocre skills.

I never really hated my dad, I saw him more as a worthy enemy. I think he respected me because I was the only one to fight him when he was beating my mother. I was 10 at the time. He rarely beat me, he beat my brother terribly and my sister as well. The only times he hit me was when I forget to wash my hands after using the bathroom, he hit me on the head with a hammer, the other time, he hit me with a stick for shoplifting.

My mother on the other hand, I hated her for a long time. I was able to forgive her when I realize that I am a man and I am responsible for my own destiny.

My parents were responsible for everything I did as a child. Only a weak man blames his parents for what he does as an adult.

 

[englishman]

I have the strangest dad, he mistakenly thought I had cancer, I didn't find out that he thought that until a few years after, and then I was like... hang on, if you thought Ive had cancer for 3 years and yet you've never once phoned up and said "hey son, hows your cancer" WTF!
He also married my wife's sister way back when I was married, that lasted about 10 months and then he was sleeping with my wife's best friend, when I told him to back off, he said I'm the one with a problem.
I also had a brother and sister that died, they were in an unmarked grave until I arranged for a headstone... Pop was riding around in a nice car and motorcycle.
It gets worse than that to be honest.
I think he's the Wikipedia definition of azzhole. Last conversation we had I told him if he comes to my door he'd better be ready for a fight.

 

[sharkbeat]

My dad is a failure. A total failure, I wouldn't say so, but nevertheless, he fails at almost every single thing in his life: money, personal life, marriage, parenting. He had his moments, but that rarely happens. He's always confused, and unable to make decisions. No wonder my mom was frustrated about him. Regardless, I still respect him as dad. After all, he did a great job of bringing the entire family to this foreign land so we all could have a better life. I probably wouldn't be running into this DJ lifestyle if I hadn't been living here.

I am replacing him as the leader of the family. It just naturally happens. He even calls me up to ask what he should do about his own life. I once overheard my mom yelling "why are you even calling him for that?"

My mom, on the other hand, I used to not like her. Now that I understand women, it makes sense why she was doing what she did - considering my dad is like that. It is funny to notice that my mom sees me as the alpha of the family now. She never questions me about my life like she used to do back a few years ago. Whenever I come for a visit, she would wait for me so she could time her cooking that by the time I arrive, the food is still warm, instead of just "food is in the fridge. I'm going to bed". Really, women only look for leaders. They can be great assets if you are a great leader. Without a leader, they are all yapping b!tches lying to each other out of pure emotional distress.

What did I learn from my dad about being a man? Nothing -- nothing that I remember. But I learned plenty what not to do from him.

You know, sometimes I feel a bit ironic and sad that men nowadays have to learn from the freakin Internet about how to become a man. The value of manhood is so low nowadays that nobody cares about it. They only care about looks and image which are all feminine qualities.

 

[Bible_Belt]

My dad was a little kid during the Korean War, same with my mom.

I cannot imagine the death, the destruction, the pain they felt growing up.

My dad was a violent drunk. He couldn't hold a job. He had trouble adjusting to a society that looked down upon people of his race. His heavy accent made it worse.

He cared more about his friends than his children. In fact, a group of guys mugged his friend and he jumped in even though he was greatly outnumbered. He took a severe beating, but was fine a couple days later.

We were already poor, since he spent so much money on drinking, we had very little to survive.

He was a womanizer and women even called him at home.

I'm like him in some ways, and very different in other ways.

I don't drink. I've never been able to hold a job either, but I make far more money in my business and investing than my father ever did. I have no problems playing women. I'm very kind to children and love the chance to spoil my nephew. I'm tough like my dad, I've never been knocked out or knocked down as a boxer. I fought top notch champions while only having mediocre skills.

I never really hated my dad, I saw him more as a worthy enemy. I think he respected me because I was the only one to fight him when he was beating my mother. I was 10 at the time. He rarely beat me, he beat my brother terribly and my sister as well. The only times he hit me was when I forget to wash my hands after using the bathroom, he hit me on the head with a hammer, the other time, he hit me with a stick for shoplifting.

My mother on the other hand, I hated her for a long time. I was able to forgive her when I realize that I am a man and I am responsible for my own destiny.

My parents were responsible for everything I did as a child. Only a weak man blames his parents for what he does as an adult.

That is a great story. By 'great' I mean real, very real.

My dad had stopped hitting my mom by the time I was old enough to be much of a factor, so I never had to fight for her. I think he knew I would. That is difficult stuff for a kid, to say the least. My current girlfriend was once being beaten by her dad when she was eleven, and her then-sixteen year old brother fought with her dad to protect her. She still hates her dad, but is very close to her brother, which I guess is no surprise.

 

[SoldMySoul]

BE THE BEST MAN YOU CAN POSSIBLY BE, WHETHER YOU ARE A FATHER OR NOT!!!


This is something all of us men should be going for and making it an obtainable goal. Every time I see the screwing with a married woman thread, most of the time, I am all on it!!!

In my youth and in my past, I was one of the guys that would not care about a woman's marital status and justified my actions based on the it takes two theory.

I reflect back and truly see how wrong I was and hell.... karma got me and I deserved it!!! It is all a part of my past and it will no longer define who I am and who I am to become.

No one will stop me from becoming the best damn man I can be!!! Not even the married, " I'm unhappy" woman!! I am better than that and so should you be!

 

[backbreaker]

BE THE BEST MAN YOU CAN POSSIBLY BE, WHETHER YOU ARE A FATHER OR NOT!!!


This is something all of us men should be going for and making it an obtainable goal. Every time I see the screwing with a married woman thread, most of the time, I am all on it!!!

In my youth and in my past, I was one of the guys that would not care about a woman's marital status and justified my actions based on the it takes two theory.

I reflect back and truly see how wrong I was and hell.... karma got me and I deserved it!!! It is all a part of my past and it will no longer define who I am and who I am to become.

No one will stop me from becoming the best damn man I can be!!! Not even the married, " I'm unhappy" woman!! I am better than that and so should you be!

it's not an excuse at all, but my dad being the pimp he is, I can say, I probably had a few built in advantages when it came with the opposite sex. i saw "how it's done" so many times, even when i was a raging afc, i knew how to talk to women. little things like how to flirt with a woman when they are over your house (From my dad bringing countless women home over the years) how to groom yourself, how to talk to a woman on the phone, stuff like that.

 

[ken chang]

What did I learn from my father? When the sky is reddish, it might rain. That's it.

This was the reply I posted in this thread. That my father never taught me anything except this.

Well, there's a storm in my country now, and last night, before it rained, the sky was reddish and I suddenly remembered him.

It just occurred to me that maybe my father didn't do so bad teaching me this one thing after all.

Sure, he never taught me about women and he didn't play catch with me in the yard, but he taught me the one thing that could help me to remember him by for as long as I live.

Everytime, right before the rain, I will remember him.

 

[asid76]

My dad was the ugliest man in his whole family. He had acne and thick glasses and was skinny as hell. He was smart though.
He got through this and became an Mpua for lack of a better term. He got so many girls, my mom being one of them, and he was never ever loyal. I asked him why and he said when he was an ugly skinny kid, girls were b!tches to him so he didn't respect them anymore.
He told me you just have to know how to talk to women. His philosophy is simple:
If she has bad skin, say her skin is beautiful. If she's fat, compliment her body. My dad can still get any woman he wants and he's almost sixty.

He left my mom when I was 11 never came back. When I was 17 he took me to his friends house and while I waited he went in a room with two ladies and they came out in robes. Once I was watching these hookers protesting on the news. My dad came up to the camera pushed the lens away and then when it was re-focused he was walking away with one of the hookers and yelling at her. So, yeah, in other words he's a pimp. Or was.
Never gave us a dime, never called on my bday EVER. Pr!ck. I couldve been a better dj if he hadn't of left but that's it. I'm glad he's gone. Haven't spoken to him in nine years now. I'm happy knowing that his skill with women is in my blood but aside from that he can burn in the fiery pits of hell.