Damaged women like this are very clever. What you say above is that you think there is something she doesn't understand, and you need to mansplain it to her, because you think her "understanding" it properly will make her even more sorry and feel even worse about leaving you. First of all, revenge is tempting but petty. Second of all, SHE ALREADY KNOWS. This where damaged people can get very crafty. Their goal is to get you to reengage through ANY means possible, so that they can begin pushing the buttons, pulling the levers, and turning the dials. So the trickier ones will bait you by saying things they know are false in hopes of you coming in and "correcting" them. They know how irresistible it is for a guy who is wounded to correct her inaccurate statement that puts you in a bad light and her in a good light. So don't take the bait.
No response is the best response. If you must steep in revenge, know that no response is even harsher than words because it says "You are of such low importance to me that I can't even be bothered to correct you."
I am not sure how I can reward your for this post, but you NAILED it...and let me tell you why...
A little bit of background is needed. My ex, while I was in her country (I went to ask her to marry me after she dumped me), led me to believe that she dumped her new BF.
And for the last 6 month, we were basically, even though not "officially together yet", discussing us getting married, and every time I would ask her if she is seeing her now "ex boyfriend", she would swear on her dead mother's grave that she was single and that she only was thinking about being with me, and out future marriage. Nothing else. I must have asked her 20 times in these 6 months...she seemed so convincing that I fell for it...event though I should have known better due to her being the most lying, manipulative and deceptive woman I met.
We would talk everyday "almost" as if we were a couple...until I figured out,that NOT only did she NEVER leave her boyfriend as she has been pretending all these months, but that she planning a wedding with HIM!!!!
This discovery was 3 weeks ago...and then I confronted her...and I made a fool out of myself. I will let you guess how for now.
So eventually I blocked her...everywhere or so I thought..and then she freaked out, badly, threaten me to kill herself, and wrote a passage saying:
"You have no heart, you have no moral value for blocking me like that! You cannot do this to your ex!"
I was so pissed, that I unblocked her, and defended myself against her accusations and to tell her that SHE is the one with no moral values and no heart....and you know what she told me?
"I know, you are not like that..I am just poking you..... so you unblock and talk with me!"
And here I was, back with her at square 0, because I fell for it!
I don't know why I did not see the pattern in today's message...but thanks guys for pointing it out!