dj_jazzybrad
Don Juan
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Well, I just started my senior year, and man does time fly. I just thought I'd give you guys a bit of my background and let you know how much you've helped.
Pre-High school: Total AFC, had crushes on girls, etc. What else did you expect? I was funny, but in a mature way that girls didn't go for. I was super smart, but then just stopped giving a fvck.
Freshman: More of the same. Stayed in my close-knit circle of friends, some of them included satellite populars. Met my best bud, Brandon, a true DJ whom I look up to. He was a sophomore.
Sophomore: Still more of the same. Never willing to branch out, stayed the nice guy, and got hurt bad by a girl whom I completely overextended myself to. I was reeling over this for months, it was bad.
Junior year: Began to realize that caring about girls wasn't doing me any good. I started being myself, saying whatever I wanted, doing what I wanted, and flirting. It helped, but still didn't notice much of a change in my social circle or the girls I associated with. I never could close, ever. Brandon introduced me to this forum. I lurked for a while, but I didn't really start taking what I learned into effect until the summer.
Summer of junior/into Senior year: I was sitting in my room, in the summer, on myspace. I Realized I wanted... no, I NEEDED change. I realized that some of the best years of my life had passed me by, my life had become a blur through the daily routine of things, and I didn't get the results I had wanted. I have one more year to make this the best year I've ever had, and I wanted it more than anything. I cut the old ties with all the girls I knew (except for my good friends) and used to like, they didn't matter to me anymore. Summer, I partied, went to the river, made a bunch of new friends. I was so involved in doing stuff, I had still kinda put girls into the back of my mind. I had made friends, but was still a virgin. I began to read this forum a lot more, and by the time the first day of school rolled around, I knew enough to get hwere I wanted with the ladyfolk; I just had to practice. First day of school, I was super afraid to break out of my comfort zone. I got home and I was pissed at myself. I told myself over and over not to put girls on a pedastool, and it worked. Next day, I went to class and said hi to anyone and every one I wanted to; the ok-looking girls, the popular dudes, the AFC froshes/sophomores, and of course the HBs. I began to grow a big social circle. I'd walk down the hallways and people would be saying hi to me left and right, it felt good. My ex's noticed it. One of the girls whom I used to like noticed it, and she came back and flirted hardcore. I never regretted walking away from her or anyone else, and I think its the ability to walk away from those who didnt respect me that was one of the best things that I learned.
But what did I learn? I learned that being a DJ isn't all about attracting women and getting laid, at all. It's about being confident in yourself. It's about getting involved with other people, and being comfortable with yourself. It's about wanting and needing positive change, and getting it. To sum it up, it's about self improvement, whether that self improvement is having lots of friends, dating hb's, working out, or just being confident. While my story may not be as dramatic as others, I can finally say I'm happy with myself. And that's all I ever wanted, and all I'll ever need.
Pre-High school: Total AFC, had crushes on girls, etc. What else did you expect? I was funny, but in a mature way that girls didn't go for. I was super smart, but then just stopped giving a fvck.
Freshman: More of the same. Stayed in my close-knit circle of friends, some of them included satellite populars. Met my best bud, Brandon, a true DJ whom I look up to. He was a sophomore.
Sophomore: Still more of the same. Never willing to branch out, stayed the nice guy, and got hurt bad by a girl whom I completely overextended myself to. I was reeling over this for months, it was bad.
Junior year: Began to realize that caring about girls wasn't doing me any good. I started being myself, saying whatever I wanted, doing what I wanted, and flirting. It helped, but still didn't notice much of a change in my social circle or the girls I associated with. I never could close, ever. Brandon introduced me to this forum. I lurked for a while, but I didn't really start taking what I learned into effect until the summer.
Summer of junior/into Senior year: I was sitting in my room, in the summer, on myspace. I Realized I wanted... no, I NEEDED change. I realized that some of the best years of my life had passed me by, my life had become a blur through the daily routine of things, and I didn't get the results I had wanted. I have one more year to make this the best year I've ever had, and I wanted it more than anything. I cut the old ties with all the girls I knew (except for my good friends) and used to like, they didn't matter to me anymore. Summer, I partied, went to the river, made a bunch of new friends. I was so involved in doing stuff, I had still kinda put girls into the back of my mind. I had made friends, but was still a virgin. I began to read this forum a lot more, and by the time the first day of school rolled around, I knew enough to get hwere I wanted with the ladyfolk; I just had to practice. First day of school, I was super afraid to break out of my comfort zone. I got home and I was pissed at myself. I told myself over and over not to put girls on a pedastool, and it worked. Next day, I went to class and said hi to anyone and every one I wanted to; the ok-looking girls, the popular dudes, the AFC froshes/sophomores, and of course the HBs. I began to grow a big social circle. I'd walk down the hallways and people would be saying hi to me left and right, it felt good. My ex's noticed it. One of the girls whom I used to like noticed it, and she came back and flirted hardcore. I never regretted walking away from her or anyone else, and I think its the ability to walk away from those who didnt respect me that was one of the best things that I learned.
But what did I learn? I learned that being a DJ isn't all about attracting women and getting laid, at all. It's about being confident in yourself. It's about getting involved with other people, and being comfortable with yourself. It's about wanting and needing positive change, and getting it. To sum it up, it's about self improvement, whether that self improvement is having lots of friends, dating hb's, working out, or just being confident. While my story may not be as dramatic as others, I can finally say I'm happy with myself. And that's all I ever wanted, and all I'll ever need.
