Jack22
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If she really wanted to love me, she wouldn't have had shared it with her "boy-friends" on Instagram. She was addicted to the attention the same way men today are addicted to pornography. She was scared of making a sole partner responsible for that WANT for attention, which she had been receiving from others. Just as a man has a WANT for sex, but is scared of exclusivity with a woman and, in fear after being denied sex, turns to receive it from pornography or a hooker.
A relationship in which a man commits to a woman but the man still watches pornography is sexual cheating. A relationship in which a woman commits to a man but still chooses to receive attention from other men is emotional cheating. Both are equally terrible, and if a woman is emotional cheating its the male equivalent of the man ducking another girl.
A mature person knows they are not being faithful, and if their love for you is real than they would be truly exclusive.
That's what a monogamous relationship is, making someone that sole person responsible for their wants in their life.
For women, it's committing solely to a man for attention/comfort/security, for a man it's committing solely to a woman sexually.
My ex continued to receive attention from her duckboy friends from the country she just moved from over instagram.
During an argument over me telling her not to dye her hair pink or get a shifty tattoo, she said there were plenty of other guys who would love to date her even if she got it, so therefore she was cheating on me because she wasn't fully
invested in me and had been receiving attention/security/fun from someone else.
Women are scared of being left alone (naturally, if you were a woman alone in the wild during the stone age you'd be dead). The fact that she had said this meant that she was spinning plates and had the confidence from those plates that if I left her she had someone to fall back on.
Couples are supposed to work things through together, even get into small fights if they have to. Since she was unwilling to change for me, it was obvious she wasn't very serious about me.
Never commit to a woman early on, or else she will never appreciate what you're giving her, and that thing is called security.
A relationship in which a woman asks a man to be sexually exclusive, but the woman is not emotionally/attention exclusive, it will not last because the woman has already decided she won't be faithful and will "keep her options open". Shes scared of being without security and is emotionally anxious because of it, that's why she seeks out other options. Well guess what, part of being in a relationship means taking risks. I understand womens innate need for security, but a woman who shares her attention with more than one man is already cheating. It's the same principal as if a woman decided she's going to not let her partner have sex because she's already ****ing her neighbor, or if a man decided not to have sex with his partner because he just jacked off to some pornography.
Obviously you can have "work colleagues" or whatever. But if a woman shares her emotions/attention with that person that's just one step away from ****ing the milkman.
Next time my girlfriend asks me about how she's getting a **** tattoo or dying her hair pink, I'm going to tell her I don't want her to get it. If she does it anyway, I'm going to dump her or just leave without saying a word. (Previously, I had made the mistake of saying I'd leave her if she did get it, which is manipulation and a beta move. It's better to just say no to that idea without any threats) if she knew the line in the sand was drawn but crosses it anyway, It means she doesn't have any respect for you. A woman who doesn't respect you will never be faithful.
Wanting your partner to respect your wishes isn't too much to ask. The only reason that's so much to ask for from women nowadays is because society is filled with weak feminine men and masculinized women.
It's not "controlling" or "abusive". It's having respect for your partner, and a relationship where a woman has no respect for her man, or a man for his woman, WILL FAIL.
Some other things that I've learned:
NEVER trust a woman who has a lot of male friends. It means shes an attention addict, just like a porn addict. Whenever the relationship gets into any trouble she'll go crying to her "male friends" and get validation. If she stops giving attention to her boyfriend, know that it's the equivalent of a guy getting erectile dysfunction because he just cheated on her with some porn or a hooker. Something to point out though, a women may give you the silent treatment when she's mad, but that doesn't necessarily mean she's cheating. If you maintain your frame and she comes back to you after a week or a month to make amends for being mad at you it means she still respects you and hasn't cheated. But if this chick doesn't reach out at all, I've got some bad news for you.
If a woman approaches you and OVERTLY asks you out, "hey you're cute, can I have your number" be very wary of her. If she has the confidence to approach a stranger and ask him to a date, she knows she has other options and isn't scared of being turned down. It MAY also mean she's an attention addict. On the other hand, a woman who COVERTLY, signals attraction to you (stares at you, laughs at your jokes even if they're not funny, or gives other subtle signs of attraction) means she's a feminine woman, and it also means you should grow some balls and ask her out. That's been my observation about my last relationship.
Never commit to a woman who won't commit to you.
Technology has made things a lot easier, including cheating. If a woman is texting another man, whether for entertainment, advice, or because she wants to be told she is pretty, she's getting her attention fix, and you guessed it, it's cheating. The only exception is if it's literally for work. (But personally, I don't believe women should be in the workplace anyway as it creates opportunities to find a new partner. Believe what you will)
Something I'll try in my next relationship when a woman brings up "the talk" of exclusivity, I'm going to covertly say I'm still going to keep in touch with my ex-girlfriend or female friends AND not overtly say I'm committed to the relationship. I made that mistake and quickly realized the relationship was one sided, I wasn't getting any attention or sex from her, but she had all the power as she had been receiving attention from others.
Would love to hear what you guys think about my observations.
If she really wanted to love me, she wouldn't have had shared it with her "boy-friends" on Instagram. She was addicted to the attention the same way men today are addicted to pornography. She was scared of making a sole partner responsible for that WANT for attention, which she had been receiving from others. Just as a man has a WANT for sex, but is scared of exclusivity with a woman and, in fear after being denied sex, turns to receive it from pornography or a hooker.
A relationship in which a man commits to a woman but the man still watches pornography is sexual cheating. A relationship in which a woman commits to a man but still chooses to receive attention from other men is emotional cheating. Both are equally terrible, and if a woman is emotional cheating its the male equivalent of the man ducking another girl.
A mature person knows they are not being faithful, and if their love for you is real than they would be truly exclusive.
That's what a monogamous relationship is, making someone that sole person responsible for their wants in their life.
For women, it's committing solely to a man for attention/comfort/security, for a man it's committing solely to a woman sexually.
My ex continued to receive attention from her duckboy friends from the country she just moved from over instagram.
During an argument over me telling her not to dye her hair pink or get a shifty tattoo, she said there were plenty of other guys who would love to date her even if she got it, so therefore she was cheating on me because she wasn't fully
invested in me and had been receiving attention/security/fun from someone else.
Women are scared of being left alone (naturally, if you were a woman alone in the wild during the stone age you'd be dead). The fact that she had said this meant that she was spinning plates and had the confidence from those plates that if I left her she had someone to fall back on.
Couples are supposed to work things through together, even get into small fights if they have to. Since she was unwilling to change for me, it was obvious she wasn't very serious about me.
Never commit to a woman early on, or else she will never appreciate what you're giving her, and that thing is called security.
A relationship in which a woman asks a man to be sexually exclusive, but the woman is not emotionally/attention exclusive, it will not last because the woman has already decided she won't be faithful and will "keep her options open". Shes scared of being without security and is emotionally anxious because of it, that's why she seeks out other options. Well guess what, part of being in a relationship means taking risks. I understand womens innate need for security, but a woman who shares her attention with more than one man is already cheating. It's the same principal as if a woman decided she's going to not let her partner have sex because she's already ****ing her neighbor, or if a man decided not to have sex with his partner because he just jacked off to some pornography.
Obviously you can have "work colleagues" or whatever. But if a woman shares her emotions/attention with that person that's just one step away from ****ing the milkman.
Next time my girlfriend asks me about how she's getting a **** tattoo or dying her hair pink, I'm going to tell her I don't want her to get it. If she does it anyway, I'm going to dump her or just leave without saying a word. (Previously, I had made the mistake of saying I'd leave her if she did get it, which is manipulation and a beta move. It's better to just say no to that idea without any threats) if she knew the line in the sand was drawn but crosses it anyway, It means she doesn't have any respect for you. A woman who doesn't respect you will never be faithful.
Wanting your partner to respect your wishes isn't too much to ask. The only reason that's so much to ask for from women nowadays is because society is filled with weak feminine men and masculinized women.
It's not "controlling" or "abusive". It's having respect for your partner, and a relationship where a woman has no respect for her man, or a man for his woman, WILL FAIL.
Some other things that I've learned:
NEVER trust a woman who has a lot of male friends. It means shes an attention addict, just like a porn addict. Whenever the relationship gets into any trouble she'll go crying to her "male friends" and get validation. If she stops giving attention to her boyfriend, know that it's the equivalent of a guy getting erectile dysfunction because he just cheated on her with some porn or a hooker. Something to point out though, a women may give you the silent treatment when she's mad, but that doesn't necessarily mean she's cheating. If you maintain your frame and she comes back to you after a week or a month to make amends for being mad at you it means she still respects you and hasn't cheated. But if this chick doesn't reach out at all, I've got some bad news for you.
If a woman approaches you and OVERTLY asks you out, "hey you're cute, can I have your number" be very wary of her. If she has the confidence to approach a stranger and ask him to a date, she knows she has other options and isn't scared of being turned down. It MAY also mean she's an attention addict. On the other hand, a woman who COVERTLY, signals attraction to you (stares at you, laughs at your jokes even if they're not funny, or gives other subtle signs of attraction) means she's a feminine woman, and it also means you should grow some balls and ask her out. That's been my observation about my last relationship.
Never commit to a woman who won't commit to you.
Technology has made things a lot easier, including cheating. If a woman is texting another man, whether for entertainment, advice, or because she wants to be told she is pretty, she's getting her attention fix, and you guessed it, it's cheating. The only exception is if it's literally for work. (But personally, I don't believe women should be in the workplace anyway as it creates opportunities to find a new partner. Believe what you will)
Something I'll try in my next relationship when a woman brings up "the talk" of exclusivity, I'm going to covertly say I'm still going to keep in touch with my ex-girlfriend or female friends AND not overtly say I'm committed to the relationship. I made that mistake and quickly realized the relationship was one sided, I wasn't getting any attention or sex from her, but she had all the power as she had been receiving attention from others.
Would love to hear what you guys think about my observations.
