What is YOUR purpose?

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One of the topics I really connected with in "The Rational Male" and "The Way of the Superior Man" is that a man has to always have a purpose. A man without a purpose is essentially androgynous, a man without passion for life. You see these men everywhere, just trudging through life, wondering why life feels so empty. Our purpose will change as we reach our goals, and it is constantly fluctuating. It can sometimes be tied to a project, and sometimes be much larger. It can be one or many things.

My purpose history (I think...)
-After high school, it was to finish college, which I slacked on big time. I let my exgf talk me out of going to class and subsequently stumbled through community college for 5 years. After that, life got comfortable with my exwife and I gave up on my pre-med ambitions, changed to nursing, then eventually settled with a degree in molecular biology
-After college, my purpose became to find a new job. Eventually I landed a job in the fall of 2011. It was entry level, but I moved up quickly during my time there. I was still working as a baggage handler, which I had since 2001.
-Kids came, and while I love my boys, I never felt that was my purpose. I always felt a bit empty inside. I quit my job in biotech.
-2012-2013 - I got a fantastic connection on a restaurant, I felt alive, this was my purpose. Unfortunately, this was a business with a family member and something just never felt right. I sold the restaurant and walked away, once again feeling lost.
-Since then my purpose has changed to advancing my career in training (although opening another restaurant is still in the back of my mind). Landed a fantastic opportunity in June of last year, where I am still at, and I basically is everything I could ask for. My goals are to develop a comprehensive new hire onboarding program (mostly complete), professional development courses, and what I am really passionate about... leadership development. So, for now, my purpose is growth in my current career.

So, let me ask. What is YOUR purpose? Feel free to share your past as well.


NOTE: If your purpose includes women at all, you need to re-evaluate what wakes you up each morning and makes you happy.
 

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My purpose is to grow & keep/sell companies which actually make a difference to the end user. I set up my first company at 18 & I've been on a steep learning curve. Whilst my first business hasn't been extremely prosperous, it has enabled me to buy property & go on a lot of holidays. I'm taking life a bit more seriously now and I am going to start investing & saving a lot more. I now have the skills to get any company off the ground & my second company is due to launch next week with a third coming later in the year.

I want to give back to charities & raise awareness of certain diseases that are personal to me & my family.

I also want a family of my own in the next 10 years.
 

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that's pretty vague. What are you doing to get there?
Everything I need to do. The thing is, it doesn't have to be anything specific. There's many different forms of greatness. Who is better, Usain Bolt or Bill Gates? Ghandi or Isaac Newton? JFK or Henry Ford? There's many different ways of doing it. I don't want to name what I specifically am doing though, for my own reasons.
 

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The point I am getting at with this thread if you guys don't mind sharing... what are you doing to reach your goals? Why is making a lot of money a purpose? That won't make you happy. Did you guys know that salary is actually the #10 reason people leave their jobs?

Fvck a lot of women? That is certainly not a purpose. If that is your focus, you really need to look inside

Retire ASAP? How are you doing that? What are you doing now that is getting closer to that?
 

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noun
1. the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.
2. an intended or desired result; end; aim; goal.
3. determination; resoluteness.
4. the subject in hand; the point at issue.
5. practical result, effect, or advantage:
to act to good purpose.

verb (used with object), purposed, purposing.
6. to set as an aim, intention, or goal for oneself.
7. to intend; design.

Having a purpose, or setting yourself a purpose, presupposes asking first what is worth pursuing. It also presupposes that there is something to which our intelligence aims. The preliminary of this may also involve bringing our passions under the control of reason.

We enter the foothills of philosophy here, where one further risks exploring the elevated regions of 'virtue'. Now there is an antiquated term for you, that has been near abolished by the democratic [anti] culture of the mass mind.:rolleyes:
 

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If you think having a great career is your main purpose in life, brother, you are doing it WRONG.

And if your purpose in life doesn't include a bevy of sexy women or a wonderful wife (or both, either at different times or even at the same time for the adventurous), brother, you are doing it WRONG.

Your purpose in life should be the enjoyment of every minute of life OUTSIDE of your career. Don't get me wrong, I work as a nurse and do great things and make a comfortable living but I work for the "rest of my life." Even during work I try and let the rest of my life slip into real work when I can get away with it.

I guarantee when you're old and unable you won't be sitting around reminiscing about the time you spend working or wishing you worked harder. You will reminisce about the women in your life and wishing you spent more time with your kids, your wife, your passions. I work with old people every day. They don't really want to talk about their careers!
 

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Your purpose can never be money or to be with another person. Those are the rewards of achieving your purpose.

My purpose is to revolutionize computer graphics, in particular using parametric surfaces. It will make still images obsolete, allowing 3D models to take the same amount of space, so you can rotate things when you are say looking at something on Amazon.
 

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Your purpose in life should be the enjoyment of every minute of life OUTSIDE of your career.I guarantee when you're old and unable you won't be sitting around reminiscing about the time you spend working or wishing you worked harder.
I disagree. A man's purpose is his career, and he will recognize that his family (which comes first) was supported by the fruits of his labor working at said purpose.

I'm not here to eat or f*ck. I'm here to move matter.
 

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Reading this thread, I guess we all have our own personal trip. And I guess who's to say really that brother, you're doing it wrong.

Myself? I'd rather eat and f*ck.
 

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