What is your opinion about going out with a very goodlooking wingman?

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Long story short I met this guy from work with which I find myself very comfortable, we both score girls altought he is definitely more goodlooking than me, he in fact guess high interest from girls due to his look only.
He gets more girls in terms of quality and quantity compared to me, lets say I score 6-7s and he scores 8s and sometime 9s.

I like to go out with this guy but even the girls that I find for myself are interested in him, I can clearly see how they look at him or how they indirectly try to be involved with him, you know those jokes which are more truth than jokes and so on.

Honestly I have fun going out with him and our character is pretty similar, just would like to know if there is something clever to do in this cases.
Also sometime he picks very goodlooking girls which bring other goodlooking girls for our double dates.

Ps Im not the jealous type at all, zero fvck given what my dates do since I have the ability to meet new girls pretty often, its just that if Im with a girl and she make it obvious that would put out for him, I automatically put her in the fvck buddy zone.
 

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Tough situation.

You dont want to find yourself in a "competition" with friends. At the same time, its not good if one person has game and is super attractive to women while the other is mediocre. Id say go out with him, if its not a detriment to you. For instance if he talks to people easy and gets women flirty and he introduces you and is generally a good guy...you should be able to get with some of the friends(of the women hes going after). They all cant fvck him and they know this. The less attractive ones will be the easiest as they will feel they have zero shot with him...
 

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Trust me, it's better than having an ugly wingman.

My wingman looks like a butt and when we go out to the clubs we have a 0% success rate.
 

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I think it is a bad idea. You can say you don't have jealousy issues, but realistically how does it feel to be someone's second choice because they could not get with your friend? I mean this has to rub off the ego the wrong way on some level.

The girls are paying all their attention to your wingman while they are just being polite, at best, with you so they won't look bad with your wingman. Or, worst, your wingman gets the hot girl, and you get her fat and ugly friend, ouch!

Also, you said it bothers you when a girl makes it obvious that she would put out for him. You said you'd just see her as a f-buddy which means that you do not respect her. How can you respect any girl you meet where you are her second choice and she's DIHL/fawning over your friend?

If you go with skinnyguy, then some action, even if it rubs off the wrong way and you don't respect the woman, is better than none at all. After all, better to know the alpha/good looking dude that's pulling the girls since that may play up some social proof - at least you know people that women like.
 

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Love it. My wingman has gotten me laid multiple times, and hes better lookingthan me.

Chicks are always gonna be infatuated woth good looking dudes, and flattered. Just like if your with a female and theres other females showing you attention, you cant help but think dayummmm if only..
 

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It's not something I normally recommend.

BUT, if he's cool and fun to hang out with, there is no harm in trying. Go out for fun, and see how it goes.

I once when out with a guy WAY better looking than me. It didn't help me, but at a minimum I got more practice talking to hotties because they approached us (because of him). Did it get me laid? No, it was ok as a guy's night out.

The other advantage was I didn't give a F if either girl liked me or him. They were all replaceable. The next set of girls would be coming up to us 10 minutes later lol.

Funny line I remember once night.... I was out with the hot guy...

HB8: Hey <Approached me because she was intimidated by my buddy >

Mike: what are you doing?

HB8 and Mike: <Fluff talk>

HB8: You're a good looking guy.

Mike: thanks

HB8: You should go find a girl and <Sticks finger in and out of the other hand fist to mean F>

Mike: LOL. Not a bad idea. What are you up to NOW?

HB8: Who's your friend?

Mike: <I see where this is going>

Anyway, didn't score but it was entertaining
 

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I like going out with a good looking wing. At least you get to see how fun life could and should be lol. Besides if you improve your "game" enough you'll be just as or more attractive to girls than the good looking guy :p .

The most important thing is that your wing doesn't do anything to sabotage you and is a real friend. Sometimes girls try to cause division between guys who they think have different value (looks). I usually go out alone and am fine with that, but it really hurts my value.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
I like going out with a good looking wing. At least you get to see how fun life could and should be lol. Besides if you improve your "game" enough you'll be just as or more attractive to girls than the good looking guy :p .

Haha. Yup.

The most important thing is that your wing doesn't do anything to sabotage you and is a real friend. Sometimes girls try to cause division between guys who they think have different value (looks). I usually go out alone and am fine with that, but it really hurts my value.
^This. A good friend won't let the girl(s) disrespect the less attractive guy. This is key.

I know a guy like this. Even though he's way better looking than me and gets more female attention 99 percent of the time, if the girls approaching us EVER talked down to me or disrespected me, he would put them in their place or make them leave. He wouldn't sell out his buddy just for some puss.

The advantage is that, as a hot guy, he knows women are replaceable. So he wouldn't think twice about telling them to F off.
 

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Great topic

My wingman right now is a great looking guy. But not only that he has solid game to match. I've seen him approach women and them gush over him calling him a "model" etc. The guy is libido is ridiculous and honestly he is probably the best guy I've ever seen pick up chicks

The problem is when you go out with a good looking guy, even if he doesn't mean too sometimes he can ****block you not purposely

I think after having gone out with my wingman all summer and seeing how easy it is for him to pick up it has motivated me to improve our other faucets of my game i.e. losing weight, and dressing better
 

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Some more infos about us to make the situation more clear:

He is probably a 8.5/9 while Im about a 7/7.5, I base this on the girls we usually get, probably Pairplus is the one which got closer to how things are really, if it wasnt for him no chance I could take and keep the hot girls group.

I do well enough with average to cute girls but the really hot ones would be above my reach if it wasnt for him, actually I notice that by associating with him Im also perceived as more good looking.

Thanks to this forum my game is quite good and I can clearly see some of those hot girls be pleasably surprised while I dismount their sh1t tests or assumptions one by one.

He is also not that guy that likes to brag too much, he is quite honest when he tells me about such girl which make him suffer and never put me down with any girl no matter how hot she is.

I just would like to know what would work better in my situation since in all my life untill recently I've been an average surrounded by averages and many times it was me dragging the others.
 

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corrector said:
I think it is a bad idea. You can say you don't have jealousy issues, but realistically how does it feel to be someone's second choice because they could not get with your friend? I mean this has to rub off the ego the wrong way on some level.
Yeah, it has to be disheartening in some way. I wouldn't say don't go, because it's probably good experience. I just wouldn't want to go with this guy all the time, because who wants to always be the second choice?
 
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