What is wrong with single women over 30?

[LMFAO]

Went out with a girl last night, she's 35. Don't think she's ever been married, works 12 hour days on multiple jobs and doing a PhD.

She looks decent enough, I guess HB7 or so. Conversation all flowed, was teasing her about some things. Then out of no where she got into this rage that I keep disagreeing with her, and started dishing out advice that I should let her speak and not be like that even when I see other girls in the future. I just thought WTF.

She told me later she has no real friends here (moved a few years ago from another city) and doesn't get along with most people. She told me most of her friends are married with children, I could have asked her why she wasn't but it's sort of clear as daylight.

I ended the evening kissing on cheek and walking off. Number deleted.

What comes first the chicken or the egg?

Are these women who end up being on the shelf 30 plus have these personality issues from an early age, or have they been emotionally bruised from previous boyfriends to the point where they can't hold a proper f**king conversation even and are bitter about their diminished value and just don't know what to do with themselves?

 

[Desdinova]

Are these women who end up being on the shelf 30 plus have these personality issues from an early age, or have they been emotionally bruised from previous boyfriends to the point where they can't hold a proper f**king conversation even and are bitter about their diminished value and just don't know what to do with themselves?

When you throw a box of drinking glasses against a wall repeatedly, the box becomes mangled and the glasses get broken. This is essentially what you're dealing with when you date women over the age of 30; a mangled box of broken crap.

 

[El Payaso]

Probably BPD. What a nutter.

 

[jimmy18]

Better Q: what's right with single women over 30?

 

[LiveFreeX]

More to the point, why are you dating women in their 30's?

 

[GS750]

"I don't get along with most people" Lol. She's crazy and people avoid her like the plague.

 

[skinnyguy]

Do not date women over the age of 24

 

[jurry]

Overgeneralization of the day: One girl i went on a date with sucked, therefore all women over 30 are insane.

Sweet logic bro.

 

[bigneil]

The child rearing years:

Age 19 Women are their sweetest and prettiest, on average.
Age 21 Women are at their most selfish (and starting to put weight on if they will).
Age 25 Women are their most beautiful, on average.
Age 26 Last call for young wife.
Age 27 The same as a man who is 40. Past physical prime, but in some cases are just blossoming.
Age 30-31 A Woman's sexual prime.
Age 35 Last call for family
Age 40 Last call for children.
Age 49 Menopause, when they basically become men most of the time.
Age 50- Her real self, not burdened by sexual and emotional impulses. Some women are very happy here.

 

[skinnyguy]

A lot of women over 30 have taken so much penis that they are fvcked up for life. Cheating boyfriends will turn them cynical. With younger girls they have less experience which to me is a good thing

 

[Robert28]

The thing about women who are 30+ is they are B-O-R-I-N-G. Here's a list of ALL they want to talk about.

-Their job(like you really care)
-your job, they ask nosey questions about your income(not directly but they hint around at it).
-their kids if they have any
-their ex-husband or baby daddy and then you have to listen at them go on and on about them bashing them and how horrible they were treated(play the victim)
-they make it clear that you should not expect sex....ever. Ok, MAYBE you'll get some sex once a year....if you're lucky. They spend most of the time telling you how you aren't going to ever get sex though. They mean it too, they aren't sh!t testing you.
-they tell story after story about how they still "go out with the girls" to paint and sip wine.
-they spend most of the time trying to find everything that's "wrong about you"(why you've never been married, why you are single, why don't you have any little b@stard kids like her, etc). They basically want to tear you down like you are some nobody even though their past dating record shows they haven't exactly been dating the "cream of the crop". Her ex she dated for 3 years might have rode a moped to his job at the 7-11 everyday but yet YOU better be Luke Bryan with a 6 figure income.
Just endless boring crap.

 

[zekko]

The thing about women who are 30+ is they are B-O-R-I-N-G.

Guys here seem to maintain that women in their 30s are damaged, but some of my favorite women I've known have been in their 30s. I know I'm older than most of the fellows here though, and at this point in my life I find drinking, bars, and clubs more boring than anything I can think of. Too many girls in their 20s fall into that category of ditzy and superficial.

Their job(like you really care)

I don't mind hearing a bit about thier jobs as long as they don't belabor the point. It's good that they are employed and responsible.

your job, they ask nosey questions about your income(not directly but they hint around at it).

I never discuss my finances with anyone. My parents raised me to believe that was tacky.

their kids if they have any

I dont date girls with kids. I have before, but generally not.

their ex-husband or baby daddy and then you have to listen at them go on and on about them bashing them and how horrible they were treated(play the victim)

I would consider that a red flag.

they make it clear that you should not expect sex.

I don't think I've ever dated a woman who was not willing and eager to have sex.

they spend most of the time trying to find everything that's "wrong about you"(why you've never been married, why you are single, why don't you have any little b@stard kids like her, etc).

I'm a successful person, women don't try to portray me liike there is something wrong with me. I've been married once before though, it didn't work out.

 

[Skyline]

Are these women who end up being on the shelf 30 plus have these personality issues from an early age, or have they been emotionally bruised from previous boyfriends to the point where they can't hold a proper f**king conversation even and are bitter about their diminished value and just don't know what to do with themselves?

I don't believe anyone can be truly "bruised by previous relations." If you hear anyone say that then that is strictly egotistical and basically them blaming others for their own issues or mistakes. So yes, they "start out" like that in a sense. It's just them blaming everything but themselves for either pity or whatever their twisted egotistical minds are believing.

 

[Bingo-Player]

the worrying thing is the digital age is speeding the process up

I'm noticing women in they're early 20's now have gone through almost as much as a woman in her early 30s

one chick i know age 21 has been in 3 serious relationships within a year, had an abortion...... her head is completely screwed

don't ask me how many single mothers i know in they're early 20's

the fathers are long gone and these women are seriously bitter and twisted

i honestly cannot see myself ever getting married.......im afraid to say the days of marriage to one person and living happily ever after are long gone

 

[pyros]

Went out with a girl last night, she's 35. Don't think she's ever been married, works 12 hour days on multiple jobs and doing a PhD.

She looks decent enough, I guess HB7 or so. Conversation all flowed, was teasing her about some things. Then out of no where she got into this rage that I keep disagreeing with her, and started dishing out advice that I should let her speak and not be like that even when I see other girls in the future. I just thought WTF.

She told me later she has no real friends here (moved a few years ago from another city) and doesn't get along with most people. She told me most of her friends are married with children, I could have asked her why she wasn't but it's sort of clear as daylight.

I ended the evening kissing on cheek and walking off. Number deleted.

What comes first the chicken or the egg?

Are these women who end up being on the shelf 30 plus have these personality issues from an early age, or have they been emotionally bruised from previous boyfriends to the point where they can't hold a proper f**king conversation even and are bitter about their diminished value and just don't know what to do with themselves?

When a woman tells you this, you know she's weird and has a bad personality, this is why she doesn't get along with many people. I've heard this twice with previous girls I met, and both had mental issues.

Besides, a woman over 35...and single...it sounds like a cliche but its true: the majority of them are mess-ed up.
See this, if she started to date at 18, she's had 17 years to find a good-relationship, but she's failed. The more ****s she's met, the more spoiled she is.

I went on a few dates with a 41 years old woman (I was 29 then) who was very sexy but because of her age, the fact that she did not have kids, and was never married I suspected womething was wrong with her. Yes it was. Do you know what? well, she was:
1- Very selfish.
2- Had bad temper.
3- Thought she was hotter than what she was.

I flaked on her once because I was sick, and she got super angry via text. She had no real reason to get angry, but she did anyway cause she was fuc-ked up in the head. She got so mad and bratty that I decided to stop seing her.

 

[Kailex]

I won't say ALL are damaged, but for a lot of them, they know the biological clock is ticking and that window is closing.

Also, subconsciously, they know that their SMV is diminishing and they now find themselves competing with younger, hotter, sexier versions of themselves... YET at the same time, they know now that they are just attractive enough that if you don't work out, they can just pull out their phones and swipe right and the next fool willing to put up with her crap.

 

[Fugitive]

^ Really? Is the next fool willing to put up with her crap? Or does he not realise what he's getting into and then when he does realise things go badly and then she's swiping right again but each time she swipes her stock goes down because she's getting older, more wrinkles, more emotionally damaged and less chance of having healthy kids (scientifically proven to decline from 35 onwards and nosedive at 38).

 

[LMFAO]

She told me that the people in this city are cold and that she doesn't get along with them. She said she tried to do some hobbies and classes but no one would become friends with her, even from her work place.

She blamed everyone else apart from herself for not being open and friendly.

I guess the writing was really on the wall there and then.

Just before going into her idiotic whine of several minutes, of which I just looked at her with a smirk, she said that I appear to be an argumentative type. I did tell her "so you're judging me already?" with a smile. I thought she was at least half joking.

After her crazy rant she said for those reasons "we probably won't work romantically but I'm happy to talk to you anyway because I like to meet people".

I was in a bit of a shock of what person I had in front of me, so just let the conversation dwindle and ended the night.

I should have probably just put my half of the bill on the table, laughed at her and walked out, or ejected when she went to the bathroom.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Age thing aside (I recently went on a date with a 38yr old who seemed perfectly fit and healthy, we had a good night except her refusal to come back with me :yawn: ), let's think about her life:

-She works long hours at multiple jobs and is studying. She's broke, tired and probably grouchy and depressed. She probably thinks that at least one of her jobs is completely beneath her as well because she's only doing it to support herself.

-She's a PhD student = academic mind, spent a long time in education, therefore limited real world experience, no time to socialise, probably a somewhat limited sense of humour too.

-She's moved from home and has (made) no (effort to make) friends, therefore limited social life, and therefore probably a somewhat limited sense of humour too.

-"Then out of no where she got into this rage that I keep disagreeing with her, and started dishing out advice that I should let her speak and not be like that even when I see other girls in the future."
Vaguely neo-feminist mind-set. Won't like what you say on occasion, but will happily tell you what you can and can't do.

Doesn't really seem like age is the question, more the personality. I had a very similar experience with an MSc student in her early 20's - got very snappy and cold during the second date after a brilliant first, and was never to be heard from again.

In summary, some older chicks can be a laugh and don't take themselves too seriously because they've seen it all. The exact opposite can be said on (some) academics.

 

[handle]

I've had plenty of good experiences with women in their 30s. Often better than women in their 20s. OP had one bad date.