Hi,
I've been with this girl for more than 2 years. Last week we had a huge fight and it's been all VERY weird since then. It is a long story:
I have a full time job and she still goes to college. That causes problems because our free time conflicts; I am free on weekends but she needs to study so I always stay with her studying. About 2 weeks ago she as in my house (she sleeps over a lot) saying she has so much HW to do and need study. So I let her be. Then she spent time time chatting online. In the beginning I think it is fine. But she keeps chatting from almost 9PM to 1AM already. I started getting irrated cuz I thought if you had so much HW how could you have so much time chattting. I complained and she said she felt lonely because I never like to really chat with her online or talk to her. So she needs to talk to her friends to fill the void. Ok, fine. That is true as I don't like to chat that much. I got in bed trying to sleep. She still stayed up chatting and making those typeing noises. It was really annoying and I couldn't sleep. We both stayed up until like 3AM (me trying to sleep and she chatting).
Last Tuesday (she got out of school at night) I called her and she said she just got out of class and was getting ready to go home. OK. Good. Then I called again and she didn't pick up. I kept calling and she still didn't pick up. I went home, had dinner and shower. Called and no answer. I called her house and her mom said she wasn't back yet. WTF? You may think what is the big deal. But a few month ago she went out once at night and lied to me that she went to sleep and I caught her. I wanted to dump her back then but she wanted back so I was like OK, but NO MORE. So under the circumstances, I figured it just happened again. She lied about going home but instead she went out. So I started leaving messages on her cell phone saying this is it and I want to break up. I said don't ever call me again and just come to my house sometimes to pick up all your stuff cuz we are over. She called back that night but I didn't pick up any. She left message saying she could explain. I didn't answer her phone at all.
Next day, when I was still at work she called and I didn't pick up again. She said she wanted to go to my house to pick up some shirt that she wanted to return on Friday and asked when I would be home. Ok, so I called her back telling her just go to my house now and pick up all the stuff cuz I didn't want to see you at all. She started getting mad and said what she did that would warrent this kind of reaction from me. She said she wanted me to talk in person. I had no choice so I went home and met her there. She packed up all her stuff but she didn't seem to want to leave. She started hugging me and saying she dind't plan to go out that night but her friend called her and her friend needed someone to driver her home so she drover her and had dinner. After I heard that I thought it was not that bad. Plus she hugged me and stuff and I was like ok, forget it. Then we were good that night.
Thursday night, she called me from a pay phone saying that she forgot to bring her cell so she had to call me from the public phone and she told me she had to have dinner with her friend agian. Ok. At least she told me first this time. Fine. She came to my house again afterwards that night.
On Friday, she only had an hour class in the morning and that is it. So I expected her to come to my house and study and take care of our little puppy (I bought for her for X'mas). She didn't. She hung up with her friends, had lunch. Then she came to my house for a while to feed the puppy and then she called me at work saying she was going to downtown to return her shirt (she told me about going to downtown last night already). That was cool. She also told me last night she was going alone. I got off work at 7PM, I went home expecting her to be home already. But she wsn't there. She came back at 8pm.
I WAS VERY PISSED.
I asked her why u went to downtown for so long (from like 2pm to 8pm). Who you went with? She said with 2 other friends. Then she told me let's go eat and she would have to go home to study. I was even madder now. I pretended it's all cool and hurried up out of the door and we headed to dinner. At dinner I couldn't hold it in anymore. I told her if you said you had so much HW to do why did you have that much time to spend with ur friends and then give up the time spending with me? My idea is that she could have used those time to study so she can have free time on the weekend and do stuff with me. But she rather goes out with her friends and not really study and told me she needed to study all weekend. I was like I have had enough of this BS. I felt like she placed her friends way above me. Then we aruged more and she busted out of the restaurant and drove home (she drover her car at that time). I didn't bother and I continued eating. I didn't call her or anything. I went home and rested. She called and said she is coming to take EVERYTHING from my house that belong to her and it is over. OK FINE. She came, put down the keys to my house and took whatever was left and took off.
Saturday, she had to work. I was at home. She called me from work asking me to bring her a headphone so she could listen to her mp3 player. I was like why would I do that if we broke up already and said I wo'nt do it. She called again asking if I was for realz, I said unless you are my gf, i wouldn't bring a headphone just for a friend. A few hous later, she called again asking for the headphone. Fine. I felt like she wanted be together so I brought it to her with my friend. She saw my friend and she didn't say much.
7PM. She got off work. I was expecting her to call me and we always go out on Sat night. She didn't. I called and she said she is with her friend again going out to dinner. ****. She pulled the same **** on me again. She said she thought I would be hanging out with the friend she saw earlier that day. I said she went home and I wanted to have dinner with you. She started acting all indifferent saying she can't cuz she already out. I got so mad and we started exchanging nasty words. Finally she not picking up my phone. I kept calling and calling. She just not picking it up. That was a tough night to go though. I finally made it to dawn break and called her house. Her mom said she was sleeping. But she still not picking up her phone. I called so much. Finally around 2pm Sunday I called her house and her sis picked up and I lied saying that something was seriously wrong with our puppy and I needed to talk to her right away so her sis finally turned the phone over to her. I said I wanted to see her and talk about all this. She said ok and i went to her house and talked. Basically she said I hurt her a lot and she cried in front of her family Friday night and told them everything. Her family all think I am not nice to her and said she should just give up on me. Long story short, I left a few hours later.
This monday morning, she came to my house and made sandwich for me for my lunch. Ok, that was great. But ever since I've had a hard time reaching her. I call and she never picks up. We talked online sometimes for the past few days. Finally this Thurdsay I said i wanted to have dinner with her. So we went last night and she let me hug her and stuff. This (Friday) morning she came to my house again and appeared so nice. Hugged me first and allowed me kiss her and stuff. Everything felt so good.
So I got off work later on today and she had told me her uncle was taking her family out for dinner. So I thought that was what happened. But I called her around 11pm and no answer. I again got really bad cuz WTF is this? She never picks up the phone. Finally she picked up and i asked where she at. She said she was out bowling with frineds. I PRETTY MUCH EXPLODED. She again went out without letting me know and she rather spend time with her friends. I started yelling and be all mad. I said why you lied to me again she said cuz she was late for the dinner so she went out with friends instead. I asked her to come to my house so we can talk as soon as possible. She agreed.....so now I am waiting for her to get here.
I do not know what to do. I have no idea why she changed so much. She used to spend as much time with me as possible. Like this morning when she came, she was so nice and she borrowed my laptop for shcool work and she even asked me to help her buying a cheap car cuz her current care is really breaking down. All those things she said you would think she thinks I am still her bf (how could you ask a NORMAL friend to help you pay the payments?). We kissed this morning and stuff. And now she is treaing me like this. I don't get it. Actually she just called. I asked why you acted so intimate this morning she said cuz she still 'treasures' our relationship. Then she said she didn't want to come to my house to talk about it tonight but I begged her and she finally said ok she will come.
Ya, I "begged". I really cannot take it anymore. I want her to be here with me NOW and talk! She said she will be here at 2:30am something...I'll be here...hope I can hear some feedback from you guys before then.....
really lost now.
I've been with this girl for more than 2 years. Last week we had a huge fight and it's been all VERY weird since then. It is a long story:
I have a full time job and she still goes to college. That causes problems because our free time conflicts; I am free on weekends but she needs to study so I always stay with her studying. About 2 weeks ago she as in my house (she sleeps over a lot) saying she has so much HW to do and need study. So I let her be. Then she spent time time chatting online. In the beginning I think it is fine. But she keeps chatting from almost 9PM to 1AM already. I started getting irrated cuz I thought if you had so much HW how could you have so much time chattting. I complained and she said she felt lonely because I never like to really chat with her online or talk to her. So she needs to talk to her friends to fill the void. Ok, fine. That is true as I don't like to chat that much. I got in bed trying to sleep. She still stayed up chatting and making those typeing noises. It was really annoying and I couldn't sleep. We both stayed up until like 3AM (me trying to sleep and she chatting).
Last Tuesday (she got out of school at night) I called her and she said she just got out of class and was getting ready to go home. OK. Good. Then I called again and she didn't pick up. I kept calling and she still didn't pick up. I went home, had dinner and shower. Called and no answer. I called her house and her mom said she wasn't back yet. WTF? You may think what is the big deal. But a few month ago she went out once at night and lied to me that she went to sleep and I caught her. I wanted to dump her back then but she wanted back so I was like OK, but NO MORE. So under the circumstances, I figured it just happened again. She lied about going home but instead she went out. So I started leaving messages on her cell phone saying this is it and I want to break up. I said don't ever call me again and just come to my house sometimes to pick up all your stuff cuz we are over. She called back that night but I didn't pick up any. She left message saying she could explain. I didn't answer her phone at all.
Next day, when I was still at work she called and I didn't pick up again. She said she wanted to go to my house to pick up some shirt that she wanted to return on Friday and asked when I would be home. Ok, so I called her back telling her just go to my house now and pick up all the stuff cuz I didn't want to see you at all. She started getting mad and said what she did that would warrent this kind of reaction from me. She said she wanted me to talk in person. I had no choice so I went home and met her there. She packed up all her stuff but she didn't seem to want to leave. She started hugging me and saying she dind't plan to go out that night but her friend called her and her friend needed someone to driver her home so she drover her and had dinner. After I heard that I thought it was not that bad. Plus she hugged me and stuff and I was like ok, forget it. Then we were good that night.
Thursday night, she called me from a pay phone saying that she forgot to bring her cell so she had to call me from the public phone and she told me she had to have dinner with her friend agian. Ok. At least she told me first this time. Fine. She came to my house again afterwards that night.
On Friday, she only had an hour class in the morning and that is it. So I expected her to come to my house and study and take care of our little puppy (I bought for her for X'mas). She didn't. She hung up with her friends, had lunch. Then she came to my house for a while to feed the puppy and then she called me at work saying she was going to downtown to return her shirt (she told me about going to downtown last night already). That was cool. She also told me last night she was going alone. I got off work at 7PM, I went home expecting her to be home already. But she wsn't there. She came back at 8pm.
I WAS VERY PISSED.
I asked her why u went to downtown for so long (from like 2pm to 8pm). Who you went with? She said with 2 other friends. Then she told me let's go eat and she would have to go home to study. I was even madder now. I pretended it's all cool and hurried up out of the door and we headed to dinner. At dinner I couldn't hold it in anymore. I told her if you said you had so much HW to do why did you have that much time to spend with ur friends and then give up the time spending with me? My idea is that she could have used those time to study so she can have free time on the weekend and do stuff with me. But she rather goes out with her friends and not really study and told me she needed to study all weekend. I was like I have had enough of this BS. I felt like she placed her friends way above me. Then we aruged more and she busted out of the restaurant and drove home (she drover her car at that time). I didn't bother and I continued eating. I didn't call her or anything. I went home and rested. She called and said she is coming to take EVERYTHING from my house that belong to her and it is over. OK FINE. She came, put down the keys to my house and took whatever was left and took off.
Saturday, she had to work. I was at home. She called me from work asking me to bring her a headphone so she could listen to her mp3 player. I was like why would I do that if we broke up already and said I wo'nt do it. She called again asking if I was for realz, I said unless you are my gf, i wouldn't bring a headphone just for a friend. A few hous later, she called again asking for the headphone. Fine. I felt like she wanted be together so I brought it to her with my friend. She saw my friend and she didn't say much.
7PM. She got off work. I was expecting her to call me and we always go out on Sat night. She didn't. I called and she said she is with her friend again going out to dinner. ****. She pulled the same **** on me again. She said she thought I would be hanging out with the friend she saw earlier that day. I said she went home and I wanted to have dinner with you. She started acting all indifferent saying she can't cuz she already out. I got so mad and we started exchanging nasty words. Finally she not picking up my phone. I kept calling and calling. She just not picking it up. That was a tough night to go though. I finally made it to dawn break and called her house. Her mom said she was sleeping. But she still not picking up her phone. I called so much. Finally around 2pm Sunday I called her house and her sis picked up and I lied saying that something was seriously wrong with our puppy and I needed to talk to her right away so her sis finally turned the phone over to her. I said I wanted to see her and talk about all this. She said ok and i went to her house and talked. Basically she said I hurt her a lot and she cried in front of her family Friday night and told them everything. Her family all think I am not nice to her and said she should just give up on me. Long story short, I left a few hours later.
This monday morning, she came to my house and made sandwich for me for my lunch. Ok, that was great. But ever since I've had a hard time reaching her. I call and she never picks up. We talked online sometimes for the past few days. Finally this Thurdsay I said i wanted to have dinner with her. So we went last night and she let me hug her and stuff. This (Friday) morning she came to my house again and appeared so nice. Hugged me first and allowed me kiss her and stuff. Everything felt so good.
So I got off work later on today and she had told me her uncle was taking her family out for dinner. So I thought that was what happened. But I called her around 11pm and no answer. I again got really bad cuz WTF is this? She never picks up the phone. Finally she picked up and i asked where she at. She said she was out bowling with frineds. I PRETTY MUCH EXPLODED. She again went out without letting me know and she rather spend time with her friends. I started yelling and be all mad. I said why you lied to me again she said cuz she was late for the dinner so she went out with friends instead. I asked her to come to my house so we can talk as soon as possible. She agreed.....so now I am waiting for her to get here.
I do not know what to do. I have no idea why she changed so much. She used to spend as much time with me as possible. Like this morning when she came, she was so nice and she borrowed my laptop for shcool work and she even asked me to help her buying a cheap car cuz her current care is really breaking down. All those things she said you would think she thinks I am still her bf (how could you ask a NORMAL friend to help you pay the payments?). We kissed this morning and stuff. And now she is treaing me like this. I don't get it. Actually she just called. I asked why you acted so intimate this morning she said cuz she still 'treasures' our relationship. Then she said she didn't want to come to my house to talk about it tonight but I begged her and she finally said ok she will come.
Ya, I "begged". I really cannot take it anymore. I want her to be here with me NOW and talk! She said she will be here at 2:30am something...I'll be here...hope I can hear some feedback from you guys before then.....
really lost now.
