What is social intelligence to you?

[RichardTheFrog]

I ask this question in response to watching this video (at 3:21)...

I don't agree with absolutely everything that he says, but it's a good general guide.

So what does social intelligence mean to you? And how to use it to fu ck girls?

 

[Trainwreck]

Pretty much clean cut knowledge in the game. Somebody that's probably had bad and good moments in the game so he can recognize the red flags, indicators of interest, indicators of disinterest, slooty behavior, teasing, have great sex, talk to women, and etc fairly easily. Like said in the video, sometimes a guy will only rely on external or ascribed factors and one day down the road be screwed because they did not develop social intelligence while gaming. A good example of this is some frat jock dude that relied on status his whole high school and college life and ends up becoming some beta cvck in a marriage or becomes uselesss after college if he's displaced out of if his social network due to relocation for a job or unemployment.

 

[Trainwreck]

Essentially, beta behavior is a sign of lack of social intelligence. The obvious ones are the guys that lack ascribed and external qualities and try to win women with kindness. The least obvious ones are the guys that have ascribed or external features working for them early on but end up becoming beta males due to losing these features or being put in a marriage.

 

[Serenity]

To understand how you make others feel and use that understanding to benefit both. Women love it when a man sees right through them. Shows he's attentive, not an idiot and most of all genuinely gives a fuck.

A beta lacks that skill. They might assume how a woman feels, but are usually wrong and have no actual clue. They might pretend to give a fuck, but they don't really and it's just an act to get into a woman's pants. A beta either doesn't understand women at all or his conceptions about them is based on false assumptions.

 

[AJ84]

He should of elaborated a bit on social intelligence rather than say talk to more girls. A conceited self centred person can talk to a 100 girls a day but still lack social intelligence. An awareness of self and how you are perceived by others is the foundation from which social intelligence is built on, if you don't have that, then it doesn't matter how many people you talk to.

 

[Serenity]

Just now I came to think of an incident a couple of weeks ago with a guy who really lacked social intelligence.

I went to a bar with my girlfriend and some friends, our friends went home but we stayed a while longer. This was a pretty loud place with music and dancefloor, but not quite a club. I went to the toilet for a few minutes and when I came back some dude was sitting next to my GF on the bench. He had his arm very loosely around her back just laying there, he basically said nothing and did nothing. I approached my GF, sat down on the other side and grabbed her around the back a little higher up. I thought maybe that was enough for the guy to take a hint, but his arm was still down on the seat around her back. He could easily see I had my arm around her, she was talking to me and we even made out. Still this socially retarded guy just sat there, he didn't even remove his arm and he hadn't said a single word yet. So I moved my hand down and gently pushed his arm back so he had to remove it, but did the guy take the hint then? No, this guy was still sitting there close to my GF. I gave it a couple more minutes just to see if he finally gets it on his own, but nope. So I leaned over, grabbed his attention and told him it was my girlfriend and suggested he try picking up one of the countless single chicks there instead. He didn't say much and it still took almost a minute after that before he went up and walked away.

I could have gotten him removed in less than 30 seconds, but I wanted to see just how socially incompetent this guy really was. My girlfriend clearly behaved in a way to signal her lack of interest (she's not the type who can be a bitch), but this guy didn't read that. I clearly marked her as mine by putting my arm around her more firmly than he even tried to, but this guy didn't read that. I made out with her, but this guy didn't read that. I removed his arm and still he didn't read that. Only when I directly told him it was my girlfriend did he read it, but even that took a little while.

If you wonder what a lack of social intelligence looks like, then this is it. Had he been socially intelligent he would have picked up on her disinterest before I was done on the toilet and moved on. Had he been just a little bit socially intelligent he would understand that she was a lot more into me when I sat down, made out with her and removed his arm. He was socially incompetent and he seemed very anxious and awkward.

I am absolutely certain this guy went home alone. His approach was extremely awkward and it's very unlikely it would have worked on any of the single girls either. But I could see him standing a chance if he could just learn some social skills, he wasn't bad looking.

 

[SmooveMooves]

Social Intelligence is how well you can interpret social cues and understand how your actions effect others.

People who are socially intelligent usually come off as more charismatic or charming. All it really is, is being able to assess how a person may be feeling or thinking and behave accordingly based on an agenda. Socially intelligent people usually deflect awkward or confrontational social cues as it turns an interaction negative.

Its all about how empathetic you are and how strong your grasp is on social cues and norms.