What is my best option.

Huligan

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As you can tell, this is my first post to this community, although I've been lurking here for a while. I've read some of the DJ Bible and will continue reading, but in the mean time I step forward and ask for advice with the situation briefly described below.

- I met her at a social dance class (don't laugh), I enjoy it.
- Attracted her enough that she accepted and she showed up for our first date. Great. I felt it went well, light kino, hi and bye hugs, no attempt to kiss.
- By necessity I cut the date short without giving her many details, but before that I made tentative plans with her for date two. Date two did'nt happen. She claimed work got in the way, but gave me approx 24h notice.

- I called her on a Sunday (did not leave a message) she called me right back saying she had a customer and could'nt answer phone. OK np. I tried to set up something with her for that very afternoon after work...she declined, but offered to get together during the next week. She asked me to send her an email specifying three time slots that would work for me.
- I constructed the email in such a way that in reality she only had one choice (the time I wanted with her). She replied two days later, with availability on a day that I had specified as "unavailable". I had previous plans for that day. I believe this was a s**t test, so I did not reply. She called to get an answer....my answer was "can't do".

So now, we're at a stand still. There's a good chance she'll be at this dance event tomorrow night, so how do I proceed from here?

A) Do I ignore her totaly, not even saying "hi", and have a great time with other women?

B) Do I kidd around?? Bust on her and pretend that "Have we met before...?? etc etc

C) Do I try to seduce her with attention and escelation.?

D) What are my other options?

Damn, this got long. Looking forward to reading your advice. TIA.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Pick up the phone, call her or catch up with her in class. Either way, talk to her. If she isn't available, leave a message for her to call you back and give her a block of time when you will be available. Set up a get together for a future date. After doing these things and getting an answer from her, come back and ask your questions (if they would even be necessary).
 

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Hey Francisco,

Thanks for the words of wisdom. Here's an update:

During fluff talk phone convo, she mentions a "boyfriend" who had reportedly given her flowers and candy at work for Mother's Day. This is like 19, and definetly not a mom. I suspect he might be an imaginary boyfriend, but you never know.

I think I made an AFC move (kicking myself) by not ignoring the boyfriend comment and asking how recent their relationship is.

The good news is, we're on for Thursday. I want this Thursday date to rock, and have her realise that she WANTS to be with a real MAN, not some AFC boyfriend. What should be me my strategy? TIA
 
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