What is love? Baby don't hurt me lol

[Scaramouche]

Dear Mr Me,
As you allude to Greek scholarship,you or indeed someone else,might be able to help me find a word,it certainly exists for the increased attraction between two genetically distant people...Thanks.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Wow, someone has some anger issues with NLG.

:crazy:

I wasn't really trying to get involved in any kind of arguments about that but your points are all so off the mark. For one, NLG was never "made public", it is close knit. Registration is not even open. A lot of the better members that left here and post there post irregularly because they are living lives, not resident KBJ's of any forum.

Anyways, I am definitely not trying to recruit people from here. There are maybe 4 posters I'd like to see come over. However, the threads I spoke of are by two highly esteemed members of both communities, and the topics were relative.

I mean, the two places are just different.

I guess you could compare threads.

Recent SS thread titles in the "mature" section:

Whats better: a wealthy, successful "7" or a regular "10"?
What is love? Baby don't hurt me...
Do chumps realize they are mocked by women?
Whats your batting percentage for ONS?
First date with girl. She wanted to have sex? Dropped her off instead. UPDATE!!!!!!
Are single women using a sperm donor the same as a man using a prostitute?

Recent thread titles at NLG's "deeper" aka mature section:

To all of you who think change is an impossibility, please read:
What's your reality?
Polarization
Women are to "dreams" as Men are to "goals"?
does god hate women?
Tap into your natural curiosity
The Noble Eightfold Path

See the difference.

Not to mention we have a private journal section with some amazing journals from the more amazing posters of BOTH ss and nlg.

Nobody has hate issues with NLG.

The truth is, NLG is run by a married, p/sssywh!pped male who for some reason let's Iqqi run rampant and cause Drama while banning all the good MALE posters who cause less drama than Iqqi.

It's quite ridiculous and I don't even understand why any man would care about getting banned from that place. None of the posters on NLG are better than Sosuave like they pretend to be. We all started here, and we will all end here no matter how many knockoff's we try and post on.

NLG should be renamed Iqqi.net and it would describe the site perfectly. The guy who runs that place is on record inviting Iqqi to his country to stay with him.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

here's a perfect example of Iqqi.net

I still go to NLG to take a look around.. I was interested in seeing what TM's new girl is about, but all I see is Iqqi so I quickly hit the X to get out of that place.

One new thread and over 10 Iqqi replies crying to get TM's attention. I won't be surprised if she is a MOD soon because eventually that place will be shut down.. who wants to see Iqqi.net?

http://nextlevelgame.net/showthread.php?t=2545

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I finally found a picture of IQQI!

 

[piranha45]

pic doesn't work, though the text in the link explains it

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

try it now.

 

[iqqi]

Security abates attraction.

I have had women who were head over heels for me, and as soon as I allowed complacency to set in, attraction waned.

Women have a need for "quality over quantity". They must constantly question whether or not a man is the "real deal" or a fraud. Cons must be exposed, expelled, and replaced.

People have developed "shortcuts" for determining the course of their actions. One such shortcut that women have developed is the use of social proof for determining the value of a mate or potential mate.

"If others desire him, he must be worthy of desire".

Complacent in a relationship (especially for a man) is a death warrant. As soon as a woman realizes that she indeed "has" you, she will no longer want you. She derives much of HER value from the value of her man, and if her man is demonstrating low value through failure to maintain at least a minimal amount of competition anxiety, she will begin to look elsewhere.

This isn't about "playing games". This is about maintaining your desirability. The more desirable you are to other women, the more desirable you are to your wife.

Everything that you described is a woman playing a game, a woman who is not secure enough in herself to make her own choices and be happy with them. And yeah, a lot of those exist.

But what you are describing is a relationship with one of those insecure women, which is what a lot of insecure men get into. And then they have a relationship that is always going to be games and power struggles. Not my idea of a good time.

The best relationships are ones that do not need to contantly shift power for one to be interested in the other. That entire description is one that screams "dysfunctional".

With the constant media bombardment of "reality TV" highlighting dysfunctional relationships, as well as the immediate gratification culture we are in now, I agree it is definitely not easy to find someone you will have a good, drama free, and secure relationship with, but it is possible and more common than led to believe.

You have to realize that there ARE things that attract and stimulate women that are not based on some power struggle or game meant to induce insecurity. And those are the things that you should care about.

 

[Reyaj]

I was searching for threads on love and I think this is a good one to be resurrected. It seems the consensus here is that love is just an emotion and can be temporal.

Rollo you make an interesting point showing that love is the motive but expressed differently among members i.e. hugging your daughter vs fvucking your wife....

So is the whole notion of true love or soul mates just trite propaganda?

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

So is the whole notion of true love or soul mates just trite propaganda?

There is no more destructive a fantasy as the idea of a soulmate. Whenever I even hear that word in casual conversation I know exactly what I'm dealing with. The soulmate myth, the fallacy of the ONE, is the cornerstone of an AFC mindset. There is no ONE. There are some good Ones, and there are some bad Ones, but there is no ONE.

That said, yes, 'true' mutually reciprocative love is actually far more commonplace than most people realize, but if it's not portrayed as some rare find in life then no one gets to sell self-help books, romantic comedies or get excused from cheating on their spouse with their "one true soulmate".

 

[Reyaj]

There is no more destructive a fantasy as the idea of a soulmate. Whenever I even hear that word in casual conversation I know exactly what I'm dealing with. The soulmate myth, the fallacy of the ONE, is the cornerstone of an AFC mindset. There is no ONE. There are some good Ones, and there are some bad Ones, but there is no ONE.

That said, yes, 'true' mutually reciprocative love is actually far more commonplace than most people realize, but if it's not portrayed as some rare find in life then no one gets to sell self-help books, romantic comedies or get excused from cheating on their spouse with their "one true soulmate".

I agree with your assessment entirely.

The paradox (at least for me) is that I can feel my uttermost happiness if I let myself submerse myself in this emotion and lose realist logic. Of course I don't let myself get to that point because I know its caused the most destruction for men from the beginning of time. So my philosophy is to keep a realist attitutde. Enjoy the emotion to an extent, but don't let it overwhelm me.

I'd say this is somewhat of a paradox.

 

[wjh]

FYI - go to nextlevelgame.com

"GAME OVER" lol

 

[squirrels]

http://ckjcwf.ytmnd.com/

Love exists, yes. It's something that few people have evolved far enough emotionally to truly consider, though.

By and large, it's something that's tailored by "the establishment" to serve as a vector for normalization. "TRUE" love...that's much different from what people these days call "love".

Love isn't when you can't let go. Love is when you CAN, but CHOOSE not to. Most people can't tell the difference.

 

[wjh]

can you love somone, not want to let go of them, but sleep with other women?been in that predicament a few times.

 

[catman]

can you love somone, not want to let go of them, but sleep with other women?been in that predicament a few times.

You can love more than one woman at the same time thats the downfall of spinning several plates.I never have a hard time walking away from the less desirable ones but the cute ones with nice bodys and skinny lil butts hurt? Just dont let myself get to attached anymore cause i know it wont last forever Protect your heart and your feelings alot of women out there!!!

 

[Reyaj]

Thats why you should put your wife or LTR first, and spin the plates that don't mind being second fiddle.