What is killing my sex drive?

Slash Dolo

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Alright guys, gotta problem.

Been seeing this girl for a few weeks, and while we've done sexual things, I can't keep an erection to penetrate. I can get erect in the initial stages, but when it comes time to stick it in, it ain't happening and I go limp. I can get erect when she gives me head, but nothing else does it. This has happened three times now, so I've had to pleasure her in alternative ways. This gets the job done, but I can't do this forever. I'm 26, so shouldn't be having any sort of libido problems. A month ago and every month prior I've always had an insane sex drive, so this has really come out of left field and I'm not sure why.

I feel like the main cause is either too much masturbation/porn, a mental block of some sort or my new workout program. It could also be fatigue I guess, as every time we've tried it's been super late. But in general, masturbation hasn't been as pleasurable and it's hard to obtain and keep an erection. What gives?
 

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Its not the right ***** for you bruh, I had this crazy girl, was cheating with her and she was cheating, she was a master at BJs, would let me just mouth**** her and come in her throat, was liking me so much, having multiple orgasms, very good in bed, BUT her doormat had a giant **** apparently, so she was really wide. I was losing erection sometimes and it wasnt fun ****ing her after the first few times, I did stuff like sticking a finger in her butt to press on my **** through the wall so it becomes tighter :D, so I told her, soz, your BFs **** is too huge so youre too stretched.

Lol.

No biggie man just find a ***** that suits you better. Or get drunk.
 

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NO Porn/Masturbation. Drink more water. Go to the gas station and buy a few d!ck pills or find some viagras. Problem solved.
 

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I would advise abstaining from Porn/Masturbation for 90 days. Avoid ED pills if you can help it, those aren't good for you in the long run.
 

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Stop masterbating/watching porn...or else in a few years, you will stop having erections forever
 

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Yo man! I'm 26 and had the exact same problem. I exercised religiously, ate healthy and yet I still couldn't keep an erection. It turns out I was deficient in Magnesium/Zinc/Vitamin D.

Take ZMA at night (you can get it on Amazon, it's just a Magnesium & Zinc complex). Take Vitamin D in the morning. You might also want to look into taking Maca.

Try this and I guarantee you will see results.
 

Slash Dolo

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Kotnusfreak said:
Yo man! I'm 26 and had the exact same problem. I exercised religiously, ate healthy and yet I still couldn't keep an erection. It turns out I was deficient in Magnesium/Zinc/Vitamin D.

Take ZMA at night (you can get it on Amazon, it's just a Magnesium & Zinc complex). Take Vitamin D in the morning. You might also want to look into taking Maca.

Try this and I guarantee you will see results.
I will definitely try this! As well as the no porn/weed thing. I wanked it today but this will be the last time until further notice. I'll report back with the results.

And Brain Damage, she is tight as hell so that's not it, lol.
 

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Okay, quick update. I think this could be related to the girl in some way.

I had sex a-okay with a different girl last night. A couple weeks ago, same thing, was able to achieve an erection and perform just fine with yet a different girl. Thing is, this problem happened BEFORE that. So I figured it was just something that came and went.

In short, I've failed to get an erection both times with the same girl and perform. Why? Is it some kind of performance anxiety? She's attractive and tight, so that isn't the issue. Could it just be nerves? Over-anxiousness?
 

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Slash Dolo said:
Okay, quick update. I think this could be related to the girl in some way.

I had sex a-okay with a different girl last night. A couple weeks ago, same thing, was able to achieve an erection and perform just fine with yet a different girl. Thing is, this problem happened BEFORE that. So I figured it was just something that came and went.

In short, I've failed to get an erection both times with the same girl and perform. Why? Is it some kind of performance anxiety? She's attractive and tight, so that isn't the issue. Could it just be nerves? Over-anxiousness?
if you don't know if you are anxious then you are, try to relax, also if possible take a nap before going out with her and see if you are rested you can do well, also you can find her not that hot
 

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Dude, get drunk and fvuck her. But get drunk first, couse anytime you go for it after you failed once, youre reminded of the failure and the mood is ruined. It has happened to me, I was like 16 lol, so I kinda failed the first time I slept with my GF, came too fast, the condom broke hahah all the **** that could go wrong went wrong. So after that I tried it one more time, couldnt sustain a hard on so I broke it off.

But when youre drunk the mood cant be ruined. You know how they say there are no ugly women (and yours isnt), only sober men? Get a bottle of wine, or better, wine for her, scotch for you and make her your little *****. Squeeze as tight as you can, let the passion flow, and you have no other option than getting a massive boner. After the first time you succeed, of course stop doing the drunk sex thing as the anxiety will be gone.

Also dont stop watching porn because of this, see if a girl is drop dead gorgeous and tight, no amount of jerking off can kill your boner.


After you **** her brains out you can buy me a beer.
 

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BrainDamage92 said:
Dude, get drunk and fvuck her.
Isn't the issue here is staying hard, not endurance?
I wouldn't really risk this option because of whiskey ****.

I think it could be performance anxiety. Best way to deal with that is good foreplay, just ensure she orgasms via you eating her out (IF she gets off on that, and can). Knowing that she came, you'll probably worry a lot less about making sure you're up to her standards when it comes to fking.
 

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too much masturbation/porn
even if it is the girl , when you stop masturbation , you will find it more easy to get hard with women. try to keep your self loaded
 

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Sadly it seems my ability to not perform has not netted me any future dates, lol. Sucks but **** happens. Didn't get to apply the advice the thread gave me.

I will say this though, don't do like I did and let this happen twice. Once is okay, twice and the same thing will happen to you most likely.
 
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