zekko
Master Don Juan
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For the most part I agree with you. But I'll add a few thoughts:The bottom line is this, confidence is the byproduct of SUCCESS, it's not the cause of it., confidence without success to back it up, is delusion.
One reason women are drawn to confidence is that ideally they look to depend on you to be their strong rock in the face of adversity. When life's problems pop up, and they start thinking "what do we do now?", they like to be able to turn to a capable man to provide the answers. And when they're falling apart because they are so emotional, they want you to be a source of stable strength. So there's that.
The other thing is, if you are confident, you are relaxed and you have the courage to initiate the interaction, and move the interaction along, in a decisive way. They want you to make the magic happen. If you're afraid to kiss them, then they have to take over the masculine role, and that's not what turns them on. There's an old complaint you often hear, where the guy picks the girl up and they're like "What do you want to do?", "I don't know, what do you want to do?", "Let's get something to eat", "Okay, where do you want to go get something to eat", "I don't know, where do you want to go?".
A girl likes a decisive guy, as opposed to someone who's too paralyzed to take charge, so you could call that confidence. Bottom line, if you're confident and relaxed, they will feel confident and relaxed, and be able to enjoy the good time you show them.
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