What if your passions are boring?

[nonameok]

I don't play guitar, practice martial arts, or mountain climb...my passions and interests aren't very exciting. I've read that women like to see guys with a passion or drive, but what if your interests are boring or not socially acceptable?

Should a man then choose something more exciting and make it his passion?

 

[Jules Verne]

You enjoy your hobby though, don't you?

That's all you should care about.

 

[Sir_Turtle]

Try to get started on new hobbies while keeping your old ones. It may take you a while to find a few socially acceptable hobbies that you enjoy, It may also take a little bit of effort before you enjoy these new hobbies. If you're determined and but forth the effort you will eventually start to gain new hobbies useful to a social life and your own entertainment.

basically, get new hobbies, or find friends that enjoy your hobby.

 

[Vice]

One of my friend's hobbies was politics.

That's boring right there.

But the way he talked about them drew EVERYONE in and put them in a kind of trance.

My own hobbies (aviation) are quite interesting, to me at least. The way I talk about it draws people in, yet I'm not sure if they're just being polite or if I actually have their attention. Who cares, it puts me in a great mood

 

[Dstructor]

"What if your interests are boring ?"

eeeh....well that doesn't really make them YOUR INTEREST-S now, don' it ?

On the socially acceptable thing; besides the YOUR interest (not their interests) part...it also depends which "social" or society we're talking about

I can go to college, start a couple of topics about self-discovery and other spiritual practices and marvel at the "Huh ?!" faces...or i can talk to people on the forums.

Both are societies and i'm in both...

Get my point ?

 

[Bogard]

You enjoy your hobby though, don't you?

That's all you should care about.

Uh, not if his hobby is playing D&D and jacking off to the internet.

Try to get around 2 socially interesting hobbies to start off with. Make sure one of them is a sport. Bowling is a sport. Tennis is a sport. Those are easy to start off with. Don't know how to play them very well? Get lessons.

Make sure it's a hobby that takes skill. Watching TV is not a hobby. Going out with friends to see a movie is not a hobby. It's a passive experience.

Someone needs to make a list of interesting hobbies and the steps on how to get into them...

 

[Dannyrt34]

One of my friend's hobbies was politics.

That's boring right there.

But the way he talked about them drew EVERYONE in and put them in a kind of trance.

My own hobbies (aviation) are quite interesting, to me at least. The way I talk about it draws people in, yet I'm not sure if they're just being polite or if I actually have their attention. Who cares, it puts me in a great mood

Totally agreed. If you can find the right words to use to discuss your hobbies and interests, use the right voice tone, and body language. You can lure anyone into any topic.

 

[tucking fypo]

is philosophy a hobbie? cuz i dont really have any hobbies...

lets share hobbies, what are your hobbies?

 

[coolf1r3]

I like: Bladed weapons, martial arts, soccer, football, video games, hanging out with friends.

 

[Serg897]

One of my friend's hobbies was politics.

That's boring right there.

Not if you put yourself in a situation where you interact with others who also have politics as a hobby!

Im involved in College Dems at my university. Everyone that shows up to meetings loves to talk about politics. And the conventions are a riot (get drunk with other political junkies).

If you find people that share the same passions you can easily be more at ease and immediately have a connection with them.

What exactly are these uninteresting passions of yours?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Whatever your passion, strive to be the best at it. Be a leader in the field. Explore, discover, invent, teach. Be passionate about your passion, and you will not be boring.

 

[Igetit!]

I don't play guitar, practice martial arts, or mountain climb...my passions and interests aren't very exciting.

It seems to me that you have an misinterpetation or an misunderstanding here. It's YOU who's supposed to be excited about your particular interest. That's YOU,the person that contains that passion or excitement, not the activity. Actually what you said is a contradiction in itself. A passion that isn't exciting? What is that? How can your passion not be exciting to you?

I've read that women like to see guys with a passion or drive,

Yeah,this is true. They are attracted to guys who have a fire,passion,a drive for something,for life. The actually hobby or interest isn't what attracts them,it's the drive,the passion,the excitement,the energy you have when you talk about your hobby or interest. You can like doing something that most people might think is boring,but the spark,the gleam in your eye,the way your face lights up when you talk about it is what other people will feel,and that excitement will infect them. They may even be tempted to try it simply because of the energy they feel coming from you.

Should a man then choose something more exciting and make it his passion?

Oh,this is an easy question. The answer is NO!!!!You couldn't do this anyway. So what do you plan on doing? Switching hobbies with each new woman you approach? You make it seem like switching passions is like changing shoes or something. You don't have to choose your hobbies or interest based on what particular woman you dating at the moment. Fire is fire. Passion is passion. Excitement is excitement. The fire one person has for mountain climbing is the same fire another may have for skydiving. The passion Michael Jordan had for basketball is the same passion I see in Brett Farve for football.

It's not the activity that attracts the women,it's YOU,the fire in YOU for that activity.

 

[SharinganUser]

Here's a true story from my late teens early 20's. I was walking arround the mall when low and be hold I saw this smmmmmmmmmoooookkkkin hot asian woman playing sonic the hedge hog. I saw this as a sign from god because hot chicks just do not play video games, let alone retro ones.

She obviously didn't know how to play because it took her 4minutes to finish the level. So I walked up to her and said "You're not doing it right, let me show you." I finished the level in one minute. She ooh'ed and awe'd so many times in that minute, I almost thought we were having sex.

 

[Serg897]

Here's a true story from my late teens early 20's. I was walking arround the mall when low and be hold I saw this smmmmmmmmmoooookkkkin hot asian woman playing sonic the hedge hog. I saw this as a sign from god because hot chicks just do not play video games, let alone retro ones.

She obviously didn't know how to play because it took her 4minutes to finish the level. So I walked up to her and said "You're not doing it right, let me show you." I finished the level in one minute. She ooh'ed and awe'd so many times in that minute, I almost thought we were having sex.

This is hilarious

I problably would have done exactly the same thing. And then gotten her number.

 

[loving]

Your living your life for women?

They already control you. Break free. Live for yourself. Live with passion. Your passions bore you? Ok. Regardless, do what you like

 

[verysuave]

how would your PASSION be boring if you didnt like it? If you LIKEd IT, then its NOT BORING... you wouldn't be doing this crap in the first place. THIS MEANS YOU CONTRADICT YOURSELF AND EVERYTHING YOU STAND FOR

It seems like you want to PLEASE others before you? you care too much about what others think

 

[verysuave]

i have a new passion and thats putting a bullet through you head.

 

[SharinganUser]

This is hilarious

I problably would have done exactly the same thing. And then gotten her number.

lol so would I, and I tried but her BF was looking at some electronics in the store.

 

[Snow Plowman]

How can a passion be boring if it's your PASSION?

The chick is interested in finding out what interests you, who gives a fuk what anyone thinks about your PASSIONS...The chick is being sucked into your world, if your trying to REACTIVELY find a new PASSION that you think is interesting then you've already stepped away from authenticity.

P.S...I once had chicks who clearly stated they don't play video games but then started talking about how they play video games and starts naming off names and having a BLAST just letting me know that they knew some video games. The actually convo came up in some unexpected way which I could've easily lied and said "Yuck games are for NERDS" but I used to play alot of games and LOVED games at one point.

 

[chinwaggler]

If it's your passion, you can make it interesting for other people. When you have a passion for something, it shines through your eyes, people feel the way you feel about your passion by being near you.

Do you really have a passion for something? Or is it only a past time.

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